I had this long message before, but it really just sums up into a few things.
-Everyone has the right to be offended by whatever. As you have the right to be offended that you can use the stupid word, people have the right to be offended that you do. Use it, but be prepared for many, many conflicts.
-If it wasn't that big of a deal, why are there probably literally millions of threads on the web devoted to this?
-Lastly, a lot of people use it without knowing what it means. Back in high school, some of my closest friends tried to use it with me as a joke. I said I'm not one. The group looked confused. One said 'wait, how are yo...' and that's when I cut him off.
A ****** is an ideal. It is what was used to make whites who were uncomfortable about slavery feel fine, as a ****** was not human. It was a less evolved ape that was capable of speech, but best suited for hard work because it did not possess the intelligence for anything else. That ****** was used to brand subhumans.
But the funny thing? They felt bad that I felt this way, but really did not apologize until slavery was went over in school in the following months and the text book said the exact same thing I did months before. somehow, it was more true when it was printed by a nameless company
-Lastly Lolz, most people still do find it offensive when it's used against them [http://washingtonindependent.com/73036/n-word-sign-dogs-would-be-tea-party-leader]