It's not about empowering women. And I'm not saying The Last of Us should be different. It's great for what it is. But is it wrong to want a game with a strong female lead?
I never said I want every game to change into this equal opportunist crap. I completely agree with you that feminists are willing to jump on anything that has a positive male in charge as though it somehow is holding us back (as though only women can be in charge and men should be nothing but hoodlums) and that this is wrong. There's nothing wrong with Mario, for example, and many of the contexts which feminists complain about male leads is completely miss placed. Uncharted, for example, has some excellent female characters, but at the end of the day they made a game about a guy who shoots an ungodly number of people in the face and doesn't bat an eye. And that's fine. It's great even. Uncharted is one of my fav series.
I also NEVER advocated that the roles should be "reversed", with a weak man and a strong woman. If that was all I wanted, I'd be content with the Last of Us because, as I've stated, the strongest character is Ellie, not Joel, and it is Joel who relies on Ellie for inner strength. Nevertheless, that isn't what interests me. Regardless of what role Ellie plays in the game, she is not the character the player uses. And this is absolutely fine. But it would be WONDERFUL if we could have a game with a strong female lead a la Ellie. We don't have many and I want more. I think when we're approached with criticism like the one given by New York Times, many gamers don't realize that this is what they're asking for. It's not that playing as a guy is wrong, it's that playing as a woman is equally awesome, so why not make more games with female protagonists?