"The one that got away"

[Biek]

Ah dont get me started. Its been a year and im still sore over that one girl I blew my chances on. I can blame it all on myself for being awkward. We dated a couple of times, and back then I was too loveblind to see the negs she sent my way. So eventually she made up excuses (sick, no money etc.) and all of a sudden she had a bf.

If I could only either forget about her all at once, or just do that over.

Ive been through something like that before, and carefull not to make the same mistake again. I decided to simply ignore her. I managed to do that for almost a year. But last weekend, during an anual festival I met her again. (we both do volunteer work) Shes still very nice to me, she even hugged me when we met again and rubbed my arm whenever she passed me. But later that evening the same odd thing happened to her that I occasionally noticed a year ago: sometimes its like she puts a mask on and transforms into an ice queen. After the festival was over we all gather and drink up whats left in the kegs. She didnt smile once. Not even to her bf. Maybe she was just tired. Its very weird.

When I met her for the first time exactly a year ago she was the same. In fact, I was afraid to talk to her because she had that "interrupt me while im walking and ill murder you" glint in her eye. My friends think shes a ***** because theyve seen her like that. But ive seen a different side of her. I was actually surprized I got to talk to her after someone else introduced me to her. Though everyone thought I didnt stand a chance (shes a godess compared to "average" me.) they were all surprized to see she actually seemed to enjoy hanging out with me. She even picked me up with her car, and drove me home after we went out together. But only the first time I saw her, and last weekend did I ever see that strange "mask".

Im glad I never really shared my real feelings with her. Ive made that mistake with a girl once before and it basically screwed everything up. Im going to lay low some more and just try to keep getting along in the hopes of nourishing a friendship. Im not as infatuated with her as I used to be. (even the mention of her name or a picture in a social network made my mind crash) And even being in the same room with her bf doesnt seem to affect me in any way.

So maybe I can get through this after all. And besides, plenty more fish in the sea right? Ive been saying that to myself a whole year. But only since the last few month theres been some nibbling on the bait. Its not a catch but enough to keep sitting by the shore interesting.

 

[SeanTheSheep]

Well there was this one girl, and we both liked each other I think, but I didnt want to make a move or she would have killed me for some reason or another, but she had gotten out of a really messy breakup with her boyfriend of 8 years (They had been going out since secondary school(high school to americans)) and so she sort of shoved any guy she even remotely had feelings for, either so far away that she forgot them, or so far into the friend zone that there was no way anything would ever happen, I got friend zoned. So after 6 months or so of being a friend, I just stopped hanging out with her as much and I think she hates me now for something...

EDIT: Damnit now I'm really depressed, is it legal to hire a hitman to shoot yourself?

 

[MalevolentJim]

Love is horrible.I absolutley hate being in love.
So though i prefer to not love,they will always get away.

 

[SeanTheSheep]

The one that got away...well, you know when you catch a fish? And it's in the net, and when you move it to the bucket, it slips away and somebody else catches it?


Well, that's pretty much what happened to me.
She disappeared during the transfer from net to bucket.

I just laughed out loud, thats an awesome analogy especially when you try to reference whats the net and whats the bucket in the metaphorical story.

It could be a number of things!.

Well, maybe you could see it as going from friendship to a full fledged relationship.
Or from my van to my basement.

Depends on your taste.

I was going for the latter!

How the hell did she dissapear from your van?
You need to work on your knots...

 

[Scobie]

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[UsefulPlayer 1]

She hasn't gotten away yet. She's bound to me thanks to having two more years of high school together.

I remember my parents saying we would have to move, sure gave me a scare, but it didn't pan out so it's alright.

Anyhow, I got awhile before we say goodbye, of course should probably talk to her a bit more, any more then barely anyway.

 

[scoobyduped]

I've got two that I can think of off the top of my head. And yeah, I wish I had a second chance for both of them (I almost feel like I might be getting one for one of them).

 

[sokka14]

yes, i have.

but i wouldn't want a second chance. all the experiences in my life have taught me valuable lessons. the amazing experiences and the soul-destroying ones.

 

[deletemeplease107]

I have a feeling i soon will have one. Shes a year ahead of me and will be leaving for college before me...
arghhh =/

 

[furnatic]

I used to know a girl really well, I won't call her real name, so I'll just use her nick which was Davina. She was a cute one she was, 5 feet, 120 lbs with the most beautiful blond hair I had ever seen and the greenest eyes. I could almost fall into them. We are both furries, and her personality was the best thing about her! Well we were hitting it off quite well, and wanted to ask her. We had known each other for a year by then. Problem was I was too, too shy, and someone got to her first. Now three years later, she's married, I'm married, so I'm kicking myself square in the ass for it.

 

[roei115]

Well I dont have a "one that got away" becuse I never had a girl.....ya so the story is I had this girl in my class seince i was in kindrgarden i always liked her but never had the guts to ask her out (seince i had/have no expiriance in that area)also the thing is i never really talked to her just some stuff and i found out we had the same music taste etc...
any way here comes high school and i decided to go to a different school then her and some times i still regret it but I'm being optimistic and if i didn't get her its ok i believe in myself most times that good things will happen.....I hope (forgive the writing errors)

 

[tsb247]

I have had several girls I have cared about get away from me. At the time, it was devastating, but in hindsight, I'm glad they did. I am now in a healthy relationship that has lasted for over a year. I can't imagine being anywhere else.

 

[JayDub147]

Myself, being the lazy and selfish individual that I am, I just never built up that willingness to commit myself to a relationship (or the courage to even admit that I liked her). Though it makes me sad, at least I know that she's probably better off for it.

 

[thiosk]

She was a mermaid.

I had her hooked.

But then a squall kicked up.

She would have been so tasty, like a dolphin and mahi mahi roulade.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Oh yes, I was sleeping with my neighbor, I was just to blind to see how much she really liked me. Even when everyone else around me was saying so. I just didn't realize until it was much to late and both of us moved on.

On a manlier note.... I'm going to go kill something then make it into jerky.

 

[BigCat91]

It was my first date and i really wanted to have a girlfriend, i got a little nervous and felt overpowered because i was alone with her and her two friends. I left early and just ran away from the situation. I probably would have liked to end it stronger but its the past and i have learned from that mistake. I've had much more comfortable hook ups and relationships because of it and once you screw up you know you don't feel as afraid as you used to be.

 

[simmeh]

I've come close to three girls. All three left under varying circumstances, but I'm inclined to say that only one truly got away, and that was the first one. That was a case of mutual attraction, but I acted too late, and everything that got in the way was my fault. By the time I had cleared everything up, she was no longer interested.

The second one said she liked me 'n such, but I've come to the conclusion that she was only saying all that to let me down easily. Soon after her ultimatum ("it's best that we just remain friends"), she began to date another guy.

The third one wasn't so much interested in me as she was interested in a warm body. I just happened to be the most single warm body she could find.

I'm sure there were other girls who were interested in me, but my ability to sense attraction (or any other positive emotion, for that matter) in other people is poor.

 

[Gadzooks]

Copied from the "Think about him/her" thread which kind of died, rather than bothering to rewrite it.

A couple of years ago I bumped into this girl I used to be friends with in high school, we got on great, and started hanging out a lot. I didn't expect her to have romantic feelings for me, since she was a blonde, tanned, skinny model with brains... But apparently she did, and she broke up with her boyfriend and I asked her out (going off our mutual friend telling me she liked me like that).

We went out, hooked up, went on some wild trip to Thailand for 20 days almost immediately - which was the most amazing time of my life. Things kept going for several months afterwards, but she started to mess around with hard drugs in the last month and made a few friends who were rather high up the criminal underworld. Anyway, she had this creepy 30 year old dealer who would give her and her friends free drugs, but he always had a thing for her - and despised me for having her. Anyway, that new years eve she wouldn't even kiss me in front of him for fear of losing her free drug supply, and I thought fuck it, this is new years and I'm not going to hold back on showing my affection for the girl I liked/loved(though I hate using that word), even though I had in the past for her.

But new years, screw it. I called her on it when we were alone and while she gave me a kiss then, she wouldn't show me any affection near this guy. I wanted her to choose me over drugs, but in the end addiction is a strong lover. She said there was no problem, but me being a drunk idiot, I couldn't take the hit to my pride and live with it for the night, and we had a massive fight about it.

We saw each other a few times after that, sleeping together, but it was awkward.... And it just sort of fizzled from there. Now in my stupid way of dealing with things, I didn't get devastated and try and win her back, I just went out and got drunk and hooked up with whatever girl wanted me for the next few weeks.

I have a new girlfriend now, a year and a half after I last saw her, but I always wonder what would have happened if I could swallow my pride for a moment. So there, I miss a girl who was perfect physically, who could hold an interesting discussion with me and was studying at uni with me. We thought almost exactly alike about most things, had the same interests (she was into guy stuff which was great, and fun stuff like jetskiing and bungee jumping).

Damn this insufferable pride of mine!

 

[Pseudonym2]

I had a breakdown when I was 16 and 17. I lost contact with a lot of friends. There was one young women who had straight A's, was literally a model, and even knew how to ride a unicycle. Most amazing of all, I think she actually liked me but I still couldn't guess why. By the time I was somewhat sane I completely lost contact.

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

not yet... no.