Right, and I posted in a thread complaining about how R&P is full of vitriol just a little while ago.
Can we agree on one thing? Actually, two things.
One: Rape is not okay, rape is a heinous crime, and one that really needs no apologists.
Two: Since we agreed on "one", can we stop calling each other rape apologists and all, it brings nothing to the discussion.
Now then. The "she had it coming" argument is asinine. Rape, after all, is not about sex, it's about power. Rapists don't rape because they're horny (they still might be horny, but that's not the reason), but because they just have to get their way. And if they can't get what they want, they will take it by force. And they'll feel good along the way because, hey, they're demonstrating how nobody tells them they can't have something.
That is, of course, a rather fucked up line of thought, but whenever a rapist defends themselves with one of these lines that shift the blame onto the victim, chances are they really believe it. That's the scary bit, that they are incapable of considering that whoever their raped was anything more than an object of their desires. If you're just after sex and get told "no", then you go and try somewhere else, you don't stick around and go on a power trip instead.
Plus, as I said earlier, if "But she was dressed like that!" is a legitimate defense, then that means that men are creatures who can't control their own sex drives. And I'm quite offended by that.
So, um if anyone who would use that line as a "rape defense" is reading this...do your gender a favor, guys, and don't paint us all like mindless sex-crazy maniacs just because you don't have the balls to man up to what you've done.
Better yet, don't go about raping people.
Can we agree on one thing? Actually, two things.
One: Rape is not okay, rape is a heinous crime, and one that really needs no apologists.
Two: Since we agreed on "one", can we stop calling each other rape apologists and all, it brings nothing to the discussion.
Now then. The "she had it coming" argument is asinine. Rape, after all, is not about sex, it's about power. Rapists don't rape because they're horny (they still might be horny, but that's not the reason), but because they just have to get their way. And if they can't get what they want, they will take it by force. And they'll feel good along the way because, hey, they're demonstrating how nobody tells them they can't have something.
That is, of course, a rather fucked up line of thought, but whenever a rapist defends themselves with one of these lines that shift the blame onto the victim, chances are they really believe it. That's the scary bit, that they are incapable of considering that whoever their raped was anything more than an object of their desires. If you're just after sex and get told "no", then you go and try somewhere else, you don't stick around and go on a power trip instead.
Plus, as I said earlier, if "But she was dressed like that!" is a legitimate defense, then that means that men are creatures who can't control their own sex drives. And I'm quite offended by that.
So, um if anyone who would use that line as a "rape defense" is reading this...do your gender a favor, guys, and don't paint us all like mindless sex-crazy maniacs just because you don't have the balls to man up to what you've done.
Better yet, don't go about raping people.