Words are funny things. One set of words can instantly calm someone down, one set of words could spark off a massive argument. Matter of fact, it might be more accurate to say humans are funny things...
Anyway, this is about the latter. Not the humans. The words. The words that let loose the dogs of hell. The words on the can opener with which the can of worms is opened. The words that seemingly instantly cause havoc, arguments, and hatred. Basically, what phrases seem to instantly spark off arguments between those you know?
Anyway, this is about the latter. Not the humans. The words. The words that let loose the dogs of hell. The words on the can opener with which the can of worms is opened. The words that seemingly instantly cause havoc, arguments, and hatred. Basically, what phrases seem to instantly spark off arguments between those you know?
"You wouldn't understand"
I don't know how much shit has been started by those three words. To make a scientific guess, I'd say "a lot". Whether it's because someone's past was harder than someone elses, or because someone lives quite differently to someone else, or simply because they're different people, once this is out of the bag, it's all screwed.
Hell, I've done it in the past. It's probably true. I'm a rather different person, other people truly wouldn't understand, I'm not calling them stupid just...not like me. Thing is, even when it is true, it leads to nothing but trouble, leaving the other side not understanding why they wouldn't understand, and you not understanding why they can't understand that they won't understand. Understand?
See? See how fucking ridiculous that gets? Those words must be left alone. At all costs.
"Grow up"
It instantly makes you angry. Anger does not make logic. Anger makes shouting and much storming around, and occasionally fire and corpses. It's made worse that it's rarely followed by anything. No explanation, just a suggestion that you are immature.
Thing is, people who aren't immature don't usually believe they are, and being told they are thus makes them angry. People who are immature will either argue to the end that they're not, or they have no problems with being immature, and will just see you as a boring person who's given themselves to the boredom of maturity, and as such, the use of immaturity as an insult will anger them.
The only way this doesn't go to a never-ending argument is if the person is mature, but doesn't believe so. In which case you just reinforced their lack of faith in themselves. Good job, hero.
I don't know how much shit has been started by those three words. To make a scientific guess, I'd say "a lot". Whether it's because someone's past was harder than someone elses, or because someone lives quite differently to someone else, or simply because they're different people, once this is out of the bag, it's all screwed.
Hell, I've done it in the past. It's probably true. I'm a rather different person, other people truly wouldn't understand, I'm not calling them stupid just...not like me. Thing is, even when it is true, it leads to nothing but trouble, leaving the other side not understanding why they wouldn't understand, and you not understanding why they can't understand that they won't understand. Understand?
See? See how fucking ridiculous that gets? Those words must be left alone. At all costs.
"Grow up"
It instantly makes you angry. Anger does not make logic. Anger makes shouting and much storming around, and occasionally fire and corpses. It's made worse that it's rarely followed by anything. No explanation, just a suggestion that you are immature.
Thing is, people who aren't immature don't usually believe they are, and being told they are thus makes them angry. People who are immature will either argue to the end that they're not, or they have no problems with being immature, and will just see you as a boring person who's given themselves to the boredom of maturity, and as such, the use of immaturity as an insult will anger them.
The only way this doesn't go to a never-ending argument is if the person is mature, but doesn't believe so. In which case you just reinforced their lack of faith in themselves. Good job, hero.
