The six commandments of body language (using it to attract women)
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Nodding helps a lot. I've never used it to pick up a date but when a friend of mine is rambling on, nodding is a good way to confirm that you give a crap about what they're saying, or have them continue the conversation when I'm too exhausted to provide input. Short story: Nod if you're having a hard time talking, usually the person you're with will take that as a sign to keep going.
Smiling would make women think I'm a deranged murderer or something. Plus my smiles look like pained grimaces.
Is it not a litte arrogant to post a thread saying 'I'm great with the ladies, so here's how I do it for all you losers'?
Besides, some of this ain't right.
Leaning towards a woman you've just met invades her personal space and makes you appear needy and imposing. Most women prefer to be the one who closes the gap between you.
Nodding your head is a way of showing you are listening to her, which is a basic social engagement when talking to anyone, not just some hot girl.
Also, you forgot a very important rule of attraction:
Thou shalt appear to be an alpha male, liked and admired by the other men as well as women.
Also not all women are the same. You have some big generalisations there.
Besides, some of this ain't right.
Leaning towards a woman you've just met invades her personal space and makes you appear needy and imposing. Most women prefer to be the one who closes the gap between you.
Nodding your head is a way of showing you are listening to her, which is a basic social engagement when talking to anyone, not just some hot girl.
Also, you forgot a very important rule of attraction:
Thou shalt appear to be an alpha male, liked and admired by the other men as well as women.
Also not all women are the same. You have some big generalisations there.
Wait, this is supposed to be how I choose a proper breeding partner?
Odd...
More likely, he just copy and pasted this to try and get forum badges. Google a sentence and see if it shows up.
Odd...
I started college at 14, he could just be really gifted and rather.... prolific? Or perhaps he's not actually 13, and just messed up in his profile.Trivun said:
More likely, he just copy and pasted this to try and get forum badges. Google a sentence and see if it shows up.
You are wise, at least as far as my own personal taste goes.miracleofsound said:
Too true, mate. Whenever I see so-called "guides" on how to attract the opposite sex, I approach reading them in the same way as I would approach a book on theoretical physics written by a five year-old. It's impressive that it got written and published, but that doesn't mean the contents are worth jack.Booze Zombie said:
I can just foresee myself misusing these tips badly. I'll just constantly nod my head, NEVER...break eye contact. Put on an extremely goofy smile (Pretty easy...somewhat natural for me), constantly touching her in...THOSE places (I never touch a woman in a place she might feel uncomfortable, in fact I remember one time I was dancing with this girl, really kicking it off *This was a dance where we were both holding each other* and this silly guy comes over, grabs my hand, slides it down from her waist over her ass to which I immediately pulled it back up. In fact that guys normally pretty nice but that night he acted like a real jerk) stand like an inch away from her at all times and have my arms folded in tight.
The one thing on this that I don't get is the apparent "body language control is a lie" argument that some people seem* to be arguing over. When women use make-up this seems odd.
* I don't know how much of this is misreading the meaning of a post.
* I don't know how much of this is misreading the meaning of a post.
Yea, people that know me know that it's a bad thing when I smile. That I just came up with some crazy idea or I'm about to do something stupid. Actually, some of them fell uncomfortable around me if I'm anything but angry. I guess I'm more predictable when I'm angry or something.
Thanks for the advise, and if you do post such a thread i would be sure to read it.George144 said:
I myself have read books on body language, and find it a damn interesting subject. In addition to what the OP and George144 have said, i'll add some other things.
1) Smiling- if possible, show your teeth when smiling. Tight lipped smiles don't have the same effect as a natural "toothy" smile. However, it is quite difficult to do these kind of smiles manually. (Some amaatur actors tend to drop the lower jaw to create the illusion of smiling, with practice they get better ) Most people can not give a genuine toothy smile by your own will power if you do not feel in the mood to smile, so when in conversation, be in a good mood and allow yourself to feel "smiley", and pleasant warm smiles should naturally follow on from there.
Note that if you find a girl giving you a tight lipped smile, she is probably faking a smile to be polite, and really she is not interested in you. Alarm bells should be ringing if she is not showing her teeth when smiling.
2)Face Display- This is something that women do when they are interested in a guy talking to them. Her chin will rest on the back of her hands, so to reveal her full face- basically she is showing off her face. This of course, only works when she is sitting down and facing you. Be careful if she starts to rest her head in the palm of her hands, so to support it- thats a common sign of boredom.
3)Neck Displays- Another cue women give off is that they will, when talking to someone they are interested in, angle their head to the side slightly so to reveal their neck. This is a submissive signal sent to encourage the male.
4)Palm Displays- when talking, open your palms. This can be seen as a submissive gesture in some cases, however in most forms of interaction, it indicates openness and honesty and you will be far more persuasive by showing your palms. Avoid showing the back of your had as this can be seen as a defensive posture, and lowering your hand down on a table say, palm down firmly, that can be see as an authoritarian posture, and could have a negative impact.
Another thing to add is mirroring. This body language is actually commonly spotted between friends. If you see two friends sat in the same positions as each other, so they "mirror" each others actions, that is a good indicator that they are quite close. Now i don't know about courtship rituals, but if you notice a woman adopting your body postures, or perhaps if you want to try subtly copying hers, that may generate positive results.
When reading body language, try to do it in clusters, don't take one body language sign as literal unless you see it repeated or it concurs with other related body language signals. Also, consider context. If someone has there hands drawn across them, that may not mean their defense, but rather they could be cold. Finally, use must must must your common sense at all times, remember that.
Good advice, but an addendum to the first rule. Don't smile all the time, it makes you look un genuine. Instead walk around with a strait face and when you encounter some one perk up into a smile. It gives the impression that it is their presence that is making you happy not that you are always happy.
Also for those people with Joker smiles you need to practice in front of the mirror. I had the best joker smile until I took a sales job where I had to smile and not frighten customers. A few minutes practice in the mirror taught me which muscles I have to tense and relax to give the appropriate "warm and friendly" smile.
Also for those people with Joker smiles you need to practice in front of the mirror. I had the best joker smile until I took a sales job where I had to smile and not frighten customers. A few minutes practice in the mirror taught me which muscles I have to tense and relax to give the appropriate "warm and friendly" smile.