Hard to say really.
I would say I do blame my mother for not working harder to overcome her own mental illness. She showed me one very clear messege growing up.. if something is hard, hide from it. Her illness and paranoia also made me isolated from my peers and have issues socialising.
However, I'm thirty now. Anything I do or do not do, any issues I do or do not have, are now within my control. I've had a decade or more where I could and am overcoming issues, and without those issues I do not know the person I would be today.. I might not like the person I would be if my mother had not done the things I blame her for.
I would say I do blame my mother for not working harder to overcome her own mental illness. She showed me one very clear messege growing up.. if something is hard, hide from it. Her illness and paranoia also made me isolated from my peers and have issues socialising.
However, I'm thirty now. Anything I do or do not do, any issues I do or do not have, are now within my control. I've had a decade or more where I could and am overcoming issues, and without those issues I do not know the person I would be today.. I might not like the person I would be if my mother had not done the things I blame her for.