ThunderC*nts of Parenting.

[CrimsonBlaze]

Teens can take responsibility of their lives if they choose to do so.

By that, I mean that they can get jobs if they have the time, they can date in their age group if they are mature enough, they can take more challenging courses if they are dedicated and determined to do well, and they can prepare for their future if they have the means and the right information (i.e. move out, go to college, get a sustainable job, etc.). I also believe that parents are responsible for keeping their teens on track and making sure that they complete high school. After they turn 18 and/or complete high school, then the teen are allowed to live however they please. If the teens intend to stay at their parent's homes, however, their rules still apply; you just don't need to ask for permission when you go out, you don't have a curfew, and you can date anyone you want.

 

[Headdrivehardscrew]

When?

Well, when they are ready, when they can sustain their own existence, when they can justify their own existence and when they are reasonable and stable enough to be considered smart enough - or when they're adults and any and all arguments are over because they're not daddy's little girl/momma's little boy anymore.

There was just an incident between a German or Swiss girl and a Finnish boy - both underage, if I remember correctly, and they both hauled ass all over Europe until their chum change total funds ran out and the boy got caught stealing bread or sumthin'.

Life's just too short to fuck it up, and if "true love waits" is too cuntin' Christian for you, you should have thought about it well before running into issues.

You don't mess with the Irish, full stop. You don't mess with Catholic parents. You deal with them, you argue, you work on yourself, you read it up. Treat them like difficult Muslim or Jewish parents, i. e. respect them and bring your point across... and you usually don't have to put up with being beheaded or any of that crap. Just be your best, and make sure you want to become better.

Culture's important, you don't want to drop that.

I think it's good you vent on a more or less anonymous forum, but I also think that if you really love that long distance girl of yours, you should be able and willing to set your priorities straight. Get all the money, knowledge and power you can, hold on to that dream, hold on to that girl, fight for your right to love and be free, prove yourself to her parents like you never had to prove yourself to your crappy parents. Love them or hate them, make it work. If everything fails, move on.

It's called life. Not everything is free. Not everything comes naturally. Just know what you want and try to get it without causing too much damage. If it's proper love, you'll find a way that doesn't severely mess up the universe.

Good luck.

 

[Yopaz]

Honestly it's different from person to person, different from how they were raised and how they think of the world. I believe that some start thinking they know everything too soon. I moved out at 15 and it worked for me. Some of my friends have proven to struggle even when they're in their 20's.

 

[Draxz]

Thanks guys, this has all been a massive help!

Also, I know I'm "Spoiled, a little twat" and what not so it's all good.

I don't see why one of you got reported though... Strange.

 

[L0dest0ne]

When you can completely support yourself financially, then you are free to do whatever you please.
Until then, you have no choice in the matter.

 

[RufusMcLaser]

It varies from person to person. Some people are ready at 16, most aren't. Most are ready by 21, some still aren't. Setting age arbitrary age limits is a 75% solution which will probably endure, because most of the alternatives are legally or socially or economically unsustainable.

 

[afroebob]

I always thought thought that the Thundercats would make really good parents...