To make friends happy, or to buy myself a kickass-looking game
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Seriously? I can't tell if you're joking, but if you're being serious then I'd suggest you spend your money either on food, bills, or just something for yourself (like the board game, for example). I don't know either of your friends (obviously) so I can't comment on their financial situation, but I have to wonder whether they're eating a single eggroll per day to afford the things they want. If not, then it seems like you're more in need of that money.DarklordKyo said:
$300 is a lot of money to spend on gifts even on birthdays, especially for someone who isn't exactly rolling in disposable income, so I'd say do something more worth while with your money (such as simply putting it toward food, rent, etc) than spending it on unsolicited gifts for people who (probably) have more disposable income than you anyway.
Then again, I'm a selfish arsehole anyway, so the prospect of basically starving myself just so that someone else can have a video game isn't going to appeal to me no matter which way you spin it.
Maybe he should but the game first. Who knows, maybe Dark Souls is a major panty dropper where he lives.2HF said:
Well, one, wait till its a real product. Two, I thought it was like, buying a game for you so you could play it with friends, not just single-player gifts. The board-game would atleast be something you all good play together, but its not out yet so...
If its coming out relatively soon, wait for it then find out if its any good and get that so you can have fun with friends. Even bad board games can be a lot of fun as long as you don't get serious and overly competitive.
Ultimately, pick what will make -you- feel best. Like, what will actually make you feel good, cause as great as benevolence is, it doesn't always return the way it should, and its ok to think of yourself sometimes. Caring about yourself isn't the same as selfishness.
If its coming out relatively soon, wait for it then find out if its any good and get that so you can have fun with friends. Even bad board games can be a lot of fun as long as you don't get serious and overly competitive.
Ultimately, pick what will make -you- feel best. Like, what will actually make you feel good, cause as great as benevolence is, it doesn't always return the way it should, and its ok to think of yourself sometimes. Caring about yourself isn't the same as selfishness.
It's not that money's an issue (my lunch stipend is usually 15-20 bucks each day), I just limited my food intake to make the saving more efficient.FirstNameLastName said:
Well, apparently the prototype had some good reception. Plus, it's a bit of a crapshoot as to whether or not a kickstarter's stretch goals will make it to non-backer copies, so backing it would give me the best chance of making the most of the purchase.Saelune said:
As mentioned, they didn't really ask for, or expect, those gifts. It'd be a surprise on my part.Terminalchaos said:If they're truly your friends, they'd want you to have the boardgame since your happiness would matter to them.
Me, I'd suggest bloating your food budget and splurging on some rice or something. If they both seriously care about you as a human then (your nourishment > their special material/emotional benefit.) Also do not underestimate the sense of guilt and obligation a gift can inadvertently bestow. I bought a friend a steam game when I was really broke and he wasn't and it made things weird for a bit.
You could try and find something you would all like... maybe they're really into playing board games?
Some people are able to maintain friendships with past lovers.Blood Brain Barrier said:
Not that I've ever done it, of course. I'm a miserable bastard from which all sane women flee.
Sure, if you want to call it a "friendship" when a girl doesn't like you but hangs around because you buy her shit.AccursedTheory said:
I wont sit here and say that's impossible in this particular instance, but without digging into OPs life (Which I have no wish to do), I'll just assume a more positive note.Blood Brain Barrier said:
Unless you're implying it's impossible to be friends with someone you used to date/sleep with under any circumstance. At which point I need to ask you to stop taking everything Steve Harvey says as gospel.
I'm a colossal mess, virtually incapable of displaying any emotion beyond anger and unable to rise above the most basic levels of social niceties, among other short comings.DarklordKyo said:
Also, I tend to get a bit punchy while sleeping. One can imagine how well that goes over.
and I'm willing to make myself starve all day for the sake of making people happy, everyone's crazy to a certain extentAccursedTheory said:
Let me be the selfish ass. Do what makes you the most happy. If helping to fund a Kickstarter makes you feel happy do it. If buying a lot of gifts for your very mixed group of your friends makes you more happy than that do it.
I can't tell you what will make you happier about your purchases. Instead just decide which set of choices makes you happy. Sometimes that's getting a gift for a friend, sometimes that's buying something for you.
I can't tell you what will make you happier about your purchases. Instead just decide which set of choices makes you happy. Sometimes that's getting a gift for a friend, sometimes that's buying something for you.
As a man with a presumably similar kind of crazy (usually for me its time I spend rather than money since I am the worst at finding gifts for people, though through my current job I've become acutely aware of my time's value) I'd say go for the gifts. If you're anything like myself, you value the happiness you will bring your friends more than the happiness a board game will bring to you. Ultimately, that's the question. Which is more valuable to you.
EDIT: Just to make it clear, I'm not trying to push you towards some "holier than thou" generosity, just saying that if you're anything like me you'd value your friend's happiness more than you own. I get the impression you do given the whole starving yourself thing. However, I only operate this way because I'm a depressive who doesn't get much pleasure out of... anything really, so perhaps my advice should be taken with a grain of salt.
EDIT: Just to make it clear, I'm not trying to push you towards some "holier than thou" generosity, just saying that if you're anything like me you'd value your friend's happiness more than you own. I get the impression you do given the whole starving yourself thing. However, I only operate this way because I'm a depressive who doesn't get much pleasure out of... anything really, so perhaps my advice should be taken with a grain of salt.