To those that are in a relationship now, what was the major thing that made you get together?

[TheTygerfire]

Share the one experience or the major experience that made you and your significant other hook up or take your relationship further (and I don't just mean sex when I say that).

My boyfriend and I were already together when this happened, but it gave me 100% proof that I was going to be spending the rest of my life with this man. One night when we were talking, he made me so happy that it drove me to tears. That had never happened before and to this day he is the only person that can move me to tears of joy. That was the moment I knew we were going to be together for a very very long time.

Anyone else have a similar or significant moment that defined your relationship?

 

[MisguidedZen]

I met my girlfriend over long distance. I was living in New Jersey and she was living in Texas (my home state). She worked with my mom at a hospital, graveyard shift. I would call the hospital every night at 2AM to talk with my mom, and she (my girlfriend) was always the one to answer the phone. Eventually she got to know who I was and would be expecting my call, so we'd chit-chat here and there before and after I'd talk with my mother. Eventually, our conversations would get longer and longer and longer. We were clearly interested in each other and would talk for hours. Our longest conversation ended up being, no kidding here, 10 hours.

After talking like this for a few months, the holidays rolled around and I went home for Christmas. On Christmas Eve I told her I was going out, but I'd call her and talk to her of course. We were on the phone for a while in the wee hours of the morning, and then I told her my battery was about to die. It really wasn't, but I talked to her for a bit longer and then hung up on her. The reason for this was because I was walking into the doors of the hospital. She was at the reception desk, looking down and very sad that she had just lost my call. I marched up and she lifted her head and immediately looked shocked and unbelievably happy. This was the first time we'd ever met in person (we'd seen pictures). She rushed out from behind the desk and into my arms, and I gave her what was probably the most romantic kiss of my life.

That's when I knew it was golden.

 

[Cxizent]

I was shattered after a past relationship went incredibly bust (detectives searching my room etc), and my now girlfriend was there to talk me through it. It's not what you're thinking, she didn't take advantage, she didn't press me. All throughout the time that I needed to heal she kept her distance, and we'd only talk things over when I needed to.

After the time came when my wounds were healed, so to speak, we'd just be bullshitting around like friends, and after a few months the flirting began. All through this she'd been incredibly respectful of my boundaries, and I'd taken something of a shine to her.

I told her that I had kind of a crush on her, and then two days after my eighteenth she told me that she was mine (which I thought was a very romantic way to put it). Sixteen months was yesterday, and we're still going strong, despite the moments of roughness that plague every relationship. I think it's a forever thing.

 

[curlycrouton]

This is going to sound incredibly corny, but it's true.

We used to go for long walks on the beach. They'd last maybe 3/4 hours and we just talked and talked. It was fantastic.

Then she moved to Australia, and now our only means of contact is the internet. How things change, eh?

 

[Chiasm]

Really, The thing that attracted me to my boyfriend was his Dominance. But also how much he (as sappy as it sounds) gets me and understands me. From my goals and busy volunteer life, To accepting my past and who I am and trying to help me out with all my issues.

I think that's the major part of a relationship,When your totally open with each other and accept each other competly.

Well not my current relationship but the majority of my relationships start with one common thing.
Ice Cubes.
I can know girls for a long time and never feel totally comfortable with them. But sooner or later we will end up randomly having a icecube fight and then once I am comfortable with touching them then its just a matter of days/weeks.

I had a icecube fight with my first boyfriend when I was 15,It was due to the icecube fight that really like got us over not talking.

 

[PurpleRain]

Well, I found my love as a man. That darned Starcraft RP, but Larenxis totally pulled off the male scientist. Anyway, I emailed her to appologise (something I wasn't sure I did though). She replied back, then I replied and we've talked ever since. That was about late Janurary. Many events happened between then that made me realise my love for her. I'm not sure when I truly did though; every time I try and back track it, the dates get earlier. Perhaps I loved her from the first.

 

[KungFuMaster]

Because I didn't want to break up with her. That's the Reader's Digest version of the Reader's Digest version, so trust me, it's more romantic than it sounds...I'd go into detail, but I need to go to bed. Good Night, Escapist, I'll see you around noon-ish.

EDIT: Shit on me, the OP is female...now I feel like a total crap weasel...still, sleepy though.

 

[PurpleRain]

So you two actually got together huh? Congrats. Seems the First Couple is not the only couple on the Escapist anymore. By the way, since I can't run in the next election, and Empyrean doesn't want to run, I feel you will win the next election. Will Larenxis be your running mate, or will she be running separately?

We'll be running seperately. The battle of the lovers and all that. Still, I like the idea, the person running it feels like I'll win. Money under the table and all that. Haha, you kidder you.

Haha yeah, I said don't tell anyone!

 

[Brotherofwill]

conversation ended up being, no kidding here, 10 hours.

10 hours??
(slowly backs away while forming a cross with both index fingers)
That's Hollywood material

 

[Larenxis]

When he told me that I should never feel alone. Almost all my life I've felt alone as a human being. Like nobody would understand me the way I wanted and I'd always have to make do. But he came along and he was perfect. Any mistakes I made he would see past. Whenever I wanted to say something sweet but I'd say something sarcastic instead because I was afraid, he wouldn't feel pushed away. He knows me better than I know myself, and I wish I could communicate how unexpected and astounding that is. Most people, even my closest friends and family don't really know me. But he sees me for who I really am and he loves me. The centre of my universe is outside me now. He's changed my life undoubtedly for the better, and there is nothing of me that isn't his by my volition.

 

[PurpleRain]

When he told me that I should never feel alone. Almost all my life I've felt alone as a human being. Like nobody would understand me the way I wanted and I'd always have to make do. But he came along and he was perfect. Any mistakes I made he would see past. Whenever I wanted to say something sweet but I'd say something sarcastic instead because I was afraid, he wouldn't feel pushed away. He knows me better than I know myself, and I wish I could communicate how unexpected and astounding that is. Most people, even my closest friends and family don't really know me. But he sees me for who I really am and he loves me. The centre of my universe is outside me now. He's changed my life undoubtedly for the better, and there is nothing of me that isn't his by my volition.

You've made me so happy to be on this Earth. You've given me a reason to be; never with you have I felt lonely or outside of my comfort zone. I laugh at the jokes you say at the most inappropraite of times, I am in love when you smile and are happy, I understand every motive that jolts through your head as they are the same that run through my own and there is no mistake that you could ever make that would make the slightest of marks on who you are and how I feel about you.

I can be myself when I am with you; no mask I have to wear. Even with family and dear friends I am not all of me. I can do anything with you and I know that you would happily be there at my side for it all. No one else seems to understands this. I tell people of who you are and how you make me feel, but they don't or can't fathom how I think of you. Running to another world seems like a mystery to them or even this insatiable lust for being near you, that I cannot bare, is unknown to them.

Returning to Australia doesn't feel friendly nor warm to me. Home is with you. Where ever you are, I am home. Home for me was holding your hand as I walked down the street with you. Home for me was laughing along with you at some poor joke we would muster. Ice. I am not home right now, but there is nothing that can stop me from returning to you.

Every fiber in my body and every thought in my mind is yours and only yours.

 

[Archaeology Hat]

Felt right.

 

[Caym]

Felt right.

Word.
I can't find any defining moment. It just happened at some point, and it was obvious.

 

[090907]

We were horny.

Great call! Isn't that how/why most "relationships" start?

I thought I was going to be with my now wife when I got her pregnant. I knew she would be with me through anything when she miscarried weeks later.

 

[AngloDoom]

Hardship really. I used to be a different person, very immature, before I met my current girlfriend. I was in a god-awful relationship in which the person I was going out with used to play mind-games with everyone she knew, tried to pit people against each other by twisting what they said/did, and tried to monopolise everything around her that could give her sexual release. She would intentionally find out what would hurt and throw it in your face again and again in such a way you didn't realise she was doing it. It took us around six months to realise what she was doing, and over a year afterwards when we speak about that sick ***** we still uncover things she did to pull people apart.

I used to be too immature to really connect with people on an emotional level as fast as most people, I just used to crack jokes and avoid the seriousness. Eventually, I started to talk with my current girlfriend, she had a lot of issues from the past and family troubles that were being brought up due to unpleasant events, and she told me I was the only person who made her feel okay again. I started to talk to her and the feeling was mutual. We began to smile and seek each other out whenever we entered a room knowing the other was there. My awful relationship with that other awful girl ended after a horrific split-up in which she spread rumours about everyone I knew and cared about as well as me, ranging from me being violent to her to sexually assaulting her, and it came to a point where me and my current girlfriend were left alone together, a lot of people being told that we were in the wrong.

We got together then, after spending so much time together we realised we clicked. People started to come around when the lying ex started to show way too many inconsistencies, and eventually all was right. My current girlfriend is an honest-to-God gem of a person and has turned my life around. She has matured me and made me comfortable with who I am. We bring out the best of each other, and I honestly don't regret anything in the past if it meant that we realised that, all along, we had that little spark of interest.

/emotional display.

 

[Caimekaze]

There was something there. We felt kinda shy and awkward around eachother.

Then one day after a game of chess we just hugged for a while.
About an hour or two later we started kissing, and we've been going out since then. Nearly 10 months now!