WAAAH! if thats not dedication and SEVERE hardship sir...well i have no idea what is.Darth Mobius said:
To those that are in a relationship now, what was the major thing that made you get together?
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My current bf and I had been friends since freshmen year of college. We lived in the same dorm, and we've mainly been part of the same group of friends from the beginning. Last year, he and I were both interested in other people, but things never seemed to work out. He and I would stay up late talking our problems out to each other and laughing and just generally making both of us feel better.
Then I went to Italy over the summer, and the whole time I couldn't stop thinking about him. We talked online a bit, but that was about it. Then when this semester started, we started hanging out more and more until finally one night, he just said "This is stupid. We obviously both have feelings for each other, so why don't we just go with it." And we did
Then I went to Italy over the summer, and the whole time I couldn't stop thinking about him. We talked online a bit, but that was about it. Then when this semester started, we started hanging out more and more until finally one night, he just said "This is stupid. We obviously both have feelings for each other, so why don't we just go with it." And we did
It's a tough one to say really. We'd been friends for a couple of years, and once we finished our GCSE's she got a full scholarship to a super-posh boarding school. Only as a day girl but it meant she wasn't coming to 6th form. We didn't really talk for a few months, until she accidentally sent me a text meant for one of her other friends whilst I was working. When I got home from work I rang her, 2 and 3/4 hours later I ran out of credit, thinking it had only been 10 minutes.
From there we stayed in near constant contact, with both of us confiding everything in each other, as we were both infatuated with people who barely even knew we existed at the time. We spoke of all our worries for the future and reassured each other that we can actually make a difference.
We went to the cinema just after New Year and ended up in each others arms, just taking comfort from each other, and became a couple the next day. But the moment I realized just how right this is was when I read my Valentine's card and just welled up through happiness. =)
From there we stayed in near constant contact, with both of us confiding everything in each other, as we were both infatuated with people who barely even knew we existed at the time. We spoke of all our worries for the future and reassured each other that we can actually make a difference.
We went to the cinema just after New Year and ended up in each others arms, just taking comfort from each other, and became a couple the next day. But the moment I realized just how right this is was when I read my Valentine's card and just welled up through happiness. =)
I met her in physics class and we were talking about some motherboard that my teacher happened to have on some table there. We talked the whole damn class period, and lab period, so it was a good two hours. Then she asked me for my screen name, and I burst out laughing like LOLOLOL GIVING OUT NUMBERS ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH THESE DAYS? And she said some shit about being part of the 'hip cool interweb savvy crowd' or something...I don't even remember, but it made me laugh so hard.
Her great sense of humor, and how we enjoyed each others sarcasm and cynicism ended up with us having 12-hour conversations that we only took breaks from to eat. This happened for a long time, and it got to the point where we'd use the school's network to exchange notepad files, register on forums before they were blocked, use my friend's proxy server to go back on those forums and PM each other during classes where we had computers, etc, etc.
It pretty much came down to conversation being fucking awesome, and so we were friends for a long time...And I ended up going to her house, and stuff, and we ended up starting to really enjoy hanging out with each other as well.
ANYWAY
The thing that made us got together was when I decided to have some really, well, "embarassing" chat with her, where I told her how much I enjoyed her company, talking to her, really glad she's her, really glad I met her, etc, etc...She felt the same way and such...And we figured that we were tired of hiding it, so we'd just call ourselves an item, a relationship... It's been a year and 8 (going on 9) months. We're still together, still happy. Still somehow manage to find something new and interesting to do.
Her great sense of humor, and how we enjoyed each others sarcasm and cynicism ended up with us having 12-hour conversations that we only took breaks from to eat. This happened for a long time, and it got to the point where we'd use the school's network to exchange notepad files, register on forums before they were blocked, use my friend's proxy server to go back on those forums and PM each other during classes where we had computers, etc, etc.
It pretty much came down to conversation being fucking awesome, and so we were friends for a long time...And I ended up going to her house, and stuff, and we ended up starting to really enjoy hanging out with each other as well.
ANYWAY
The thing that made us got together was when I decided to have some really, well, "embarassing" chat with her, where I told her how much I enjoyed her company, talking to her, really glad she's her, really glad I met her, etc, etc...She felt the same way and such...And we figured that we were tired of hiding it, so we'd just call ourselves an item, a relationship... It's been a year and 8 (going on 9) months. We're still together, still happy. Still somehow manage to find something new and interesting to do.
Political, and religious discussion/views, an affinity for the lake, stars, and massage and she's disturbingly logical for a lady. So we get along just peachy.
We Shared Awkwardly shy gazes at eachother in the local library, I had no idea who she was, but apparently she'd liked me for a while, I was worried about the age gap (Being roughly 4-5 years) We met when i was 19, so yes, she was 14 when i met her.
Yeah, it bothered me for a while which is why i didn't act on it immediately, but after a while i realised she was actually quite a lot more mature then the people she hung out with, who were my friends, all being my age... So she was already more grown up then me, So i picked up some kind of courage to tell her how i felt(because neither of us knew by this point), and it went on from there, two years later and we still didn't have sex, out of my full on respect towards her, we'd had our serious ups and downs currently going through one now because we're not actually together, but still in love but she won't let it happen, trust me it confuses me too.
But I geneuinely know that it's real because it has to be when they consume every waking thought, you associate them with just about everything in your life, hell she makes up the largest part of my life that i often think it's ridiculous, I've never felt mroe comfortable with someone in my life. Which is weird because i spent my entire adolescence being a social shut-out.
Yeah, it bothered me for a while which is why i didn't act on it immediately, but after a while i realised she was actually quite a lot more mature then the people she hung out with, who were my friends, all being my age... So she was already more grown up then me, So i picked up some kind of courage to tell her how i felt(because neither of us knew by this point), and it went on from there, two years later and we still didn't have sex, out of my full on respect towards her, we'd had our serious ups and downs currently going through one now because we're not actually together, but still in love but she won't let it happen, trust me it confuses me too.
But I geneuinely know that it's real because it has to be when they consume every waking thought, you associate them with just about everything in your life, hell she makes up the largest part of my life that i often think it's ridiculous, I've never felt mroe comfortable with someone in my life. Which is weird because i spent my entire adolescence being a social shut-out.
Good God, that sounds exactly like something i had with a girl once, minus the stalking part, we just liked eachother in secret for a year...superm4rk said:I stalked her for a year. Was her best mate for a year after that. Then when im finally getting over her she admits that she likes me,4 months it lasted, then it was over and we dont talk now.
Waste of time lol
A lot of these stories sound like people are mixing obsession up with love. If you can learn to tell the difference (and there definitely is one), you'll be much better off when the obsession wears off and all that's left are your *true* feelings.
My current relationship is built on the idea that rushing straight into obsessive, dependent relationships is unhealthy, and that it's best to take it slow and actually get to know someone well before you place that kind of emotional weight on them.
My current relationship is built on the idea that rushing straight into obsessive, dependent relationships is unhealthy, and that it's best to take it slow and actually get to know someone well before you place that kind of emotional weight on them.
That is quite possibly one of the most romantic love stories I've ever heard.MisguidedZen said:
My story's more ordinary. Met my girlfriend on an internet community (not dating-related) where you would write short stories, articles, poems and stuff and upload them. It was less a chatting community than it was a literary gathering, but that's besides the point. Anyway, we met there about 7 years ago, meaning I was 11 and she was 12. Been talking steadily since then, first by commenting eachother's works, then by e-mail and then by MSN. Then by phone. And in december 2007, she came to visit me. She lives exactly 1000 km away from me, mind you, so the visit was no small thing. She stayed for a week, anyway, and sometime during the middle of that week we got together. And now, after many more visits, we're moving in together at her place come summer.
I think the main reason for us becoming a couple is that we've known eachother since we were children, and have, in some ways, shaped eachother's personalities to a degree, which means we're highly compatible on a mental level. Also, she's hot. Our defining moment? The visit, more specifically a night when we were sitting on my bed, talking, and suddenly ran out of things to say. And we kissed.
When I was at uni, this random girl pops onto one of the on-campus IRC channels for help installing a webcam someone bought her in China.
By some small miracle she didn't kick me out of her room and we've now been together a little shy of 3 years, hopefully getting married in September.
By some small miracle she didn't kick me out of her room and we've now been together a little shy of 3 years, hopefully getting married in September.
I'm currently not dating this girl, though I wish I was, but I guess I'll explain how I feel.
See, I've never been for dating, and I rue anything to do with relationships. That was untill a couple years back, I went to this camp like thing in the summer. There was this girl I had never met, but there was just something about her, like she glowed,I really liked her. I had no courage, and we barely talk. after the camp ended I figured I'd never see her again, and I was kickig myself for not at least getting her number or something.
Well, when I went to the high school, dreading every second of it as usual, I walked into my health class and across the room, there she sat, smiling. I just sat down and tried to ignore her, which was a pain her smile is really pretty, she got up and walked over to me and said "do you remember me?" I smiled and said "of course."
Here recently she went through a pretty big brake up, I've been giving her support, another one of my good friends, a guy, has asked her out. I'm not sure what her opinion is on him, but hopefully she will look at me a little differntly, and if not, I'm fine with that, I can wait.
See, I've never been for dating, and I rue anything to do with relationships. That was untill a couple years back, I went to this camp like thing in the summer. There was this girl I had never met, but there was just something about her, like she glowed,I really liked her. I had no courage, and we barely talk. after the camp ended I figured I'd never see her again, and I was kickig myself for not at least getting her number or something.
Well, when I went to the high school, dreading every second of it as usual, I walked into my health class and across the room, there she sat, smiling. I just sat down and tried to ignore her, which was a pain her smile is really pretty, she got up and walked over to me and said "do you remember me?" I smiled and said "of course."
Here recently she went through a pretty big brake up, I've been giving her support, another one of my good friends, a guy, has asked her out. I'm not sure what her opinion is on him, but hopefully she will look at me a little differntly, and if not, I'm fine with that, I can wait.
I have to side with the majority here and praise this story, so touching.MisguidedZen said:
As for myself, I have no story as I have never dated, nor have I any intention to. I have this apathetic demeanor toward the entire concept and prefer to allow it to happen when it happens, so to speak. With that stated, there have been two girls I have liked and met only via the Internet however distant has impeded any possibility of that, at least as far as things stand.
I have lost faith in serious relationships. I can be a very loving person and in the past people have exploited that to no end. It makes me very difficult to trust people, especially prospective girlfriends, so I've solved my trust issue by staying out of serious relationships. If I don't get too caught up in it it can't hurt me when it inevitably ends.