To those with an older sibling....

[Grey Day for Elcia]

Well, he punched me while holding a billiard ball once. And then there was the one time he chased me around a department store and shoved me over into a table. And then there was that time where he was a massive dick and a parasite that's never given anything back to the world- oh wait, that's all the time. My mistake.

It makes me sound like a terrible person, I'm sure, but I don't believe in inherent unconditional love. The only thing that connects us is biological, so to be completely honest, when I get the call that he's died of heart disease or something (since he eats nothing but fast food and never exercises), the first thing I feel will be a bit of shock, which will fade into relief. Because karma's a *****, whether you're my brother or not.

That's super, super sad.

I hope you guys can come to some sort of peace soon. I understand what you mean about family being biological and nothing else (I have mild autism and grew up wondering why people 'loved' their family as much as they did when they were their family by virtue of chance and nothing else. I since learned about evolution and how attachments help us survive, blah blah blah) but nothing feels worse in your stomach than when someone passing away while you have bitterness in your heart towards them. It's this feeling of regret and sadness; sadness that you felt this way about them and now they are gone forever and sadness that they knew you felt that way.

I'm not preaching to you, but seriously, think about it. No matter how much you don't care about someone and no matter how much of a shit they have been, that feeling when they go or even in twenty years time when you are sitting down and thinking about people you've lost contact with, is horrible.

 

[kiwi_poo]

I don't remember any torturing of those sorts. My brother just used me as a punching bag.
So not that bad, I guess.
Except my low self-esteem (which I partly attribute to my brother), but what can you do?

Oh, and insults (both shallow and deep), but they're basically a given. Right?

 

[pointless vandalism]

I had 2 older siblings. They used to play this great game of " Lets chase our youngest brother, tackle him and spit in his mouth" . Yeah..."Character building events" I suppose. Now I am a giant meat head and they cant mess with me at all. How you like them apples?

 

[soren7550]

My older brothers and my younger brother ganged up on me and beat me up. Afterwords, I'd be ostracized.

Oh yeah, and the constant name calling. Forgot about that for some reason.

 

[Smiley Face]

Oldest of 2 brothers here. My brother usually get along fairly well - way back when, we had our own ways of ticking each other off. He was always the Golden Boy who could do no wrong and I the Black Sheep (which now I'm kind of glad of), and I eventually got good enough at scaring him that with one look I could spook him into running across an entire football field to get away from me.

 

[Fappy]

I am that guy everyone in the thread hates. I terrorized my little sister

 

[CentralScrtnzr]

Well, he punched me while holding a billiard ball once. And then there was the one time he chased me around a department store and shoved me over into a table. And then there was that time where he was a massive dick and a parasite that's never given anything back to the world- oh wait, that's all the time. My mistake.

It makes me sound like a terrible person, I'm sure, but I don't believe in inherent unconditional love. The only thing that connects us is biological, so to be completely honest, when I get the call that he's died of heart disease or something (since he eats nothing but fast food and never exercises), the first thing I feel will be a bit of shock, which will fade into relief. Because karma's a *****, whether you're my brother or not.

That's super, super sad.

I hope you guys can come to some sort of peace soon. I understand what you mean about family being biological and nothing else (I have mild autism and grew up wondering why people 'loved' their family as much as they did when they were their family by virtue of chance and nothing else. I since learned about evolution and how attachments help us survive, blah blah blah) but nothing feels worse in your stomach than when someone passing away while you have bitterness in your heart towards them. It's this feeling of regret and sadness; sadness that you felt this way about them and now they are gone forever and sadness that they knew you felt that way.

I'm not preaching to you, but seriously, think about it. No matter how much you don't care about someone and no matter how much of a shit they have been, that feeling when they go or even in twenty years time when you are sitting down and thinking about people you've lost contact with, is horrible.

I'm not autistic but I can echo your commentary regarding family attachment. I have no special attachment to family beyond the bonds that I've formed with specific members.

 

[Chanel Tompkins]

Eh. The worst my older brother did was break my N64 controller. But that was a good thing in itself, as that meant there was only one controller for a long time, so he had to ask my permission when he had a game he wanted to play.

 

[loc978]

My brother and I used to wrestle around and he used to beat the ever-loving shit out of me. He's three years older than me... but I was the one who did all the psychological terrorizing.

We've long since apologized for being dicks to each other as kids.

 

[xmbts]

*Deep breath*

Telling me our mom hated me, gashing my face open and giving me a concussion, kicked me in the head and gave me another concussion, Ran over my thumb with a skateboard, ran over my finger with that same skateboard a few days later.

Saying I'm stupid, useless, ugly, whiny, left me stranded on top of a swing-set because I was terrified of heights, broke things and blamed me, always successfully. spread rumors of my having sex with this girl at school.

Shoved me during a race making me land on pavement and scraping my arm leg and face, picked me up and threw me into a glass door, punched me in the stomach (Which unknown to us could have killed me), And one time during dinner she laughed while drinking some soda and sprayed it out of her nose all over my food.

But yeah me and her get along fine these days. >.>

 

[TheGreatKlaid]

Oldest of three. I am a conniving jackass, and I whap my brother whenever he says something stupid. He once tried to tell me he got a death knight in WoW before we had a 55 character. I told him take a screenshot using alt+F4. I also, convinced him baugette was a dirty word.... My sister is boring though, she sits in her room and plays Pokemon...

 

[Screamarie]

My elder sister used to tell me my dad was not actually my dad. She was a vindictive ***** and liked torturing me with it. Unfortunately I grew up to find out it was true and that my mother and step-father had been lying to me the entire time.

My brother took great glee in scaring the shit out of me by jumping out from around corners and the like. My sister partook of this pastime as well, but a lot of it was my brother. To this day I'm a jumpy, twitchy person. Just someone calling my name when I'm not paying attention makes me a deer in the headlights.

Heh, I also managed to have a spiteful older sister, she stole a lot of my stuff and even now likes to try and control people to fit her perfect mould of a perception. More recently i've discovered that a lot of the reason she seemed high strung and angry is down to mental illness of various sorts which may run quite strong in my family.

In general for this topic I come across as the oldest despite being the 2nd, I am by far the tallest and bulkiest of my siblings and I naturally speak in a slow deep semi monotone which seems to convince people I am older than I am. All the rest of them are quite loud and prone to getting into arguments and in the case of my youngest brother having fits and tantrums. All of them have dug chunks of my skin out with their teeth or nails, or spat in my face or just plain screamed at me for whatever reason. This has left me as quite a quiet person who tends to default into being an immovable wall in response to things like this.

There was also this vague idea growing up that I may hurt one of them badly (because I would never react to anything up until the point I was ready to destroy them) and so whenever I was the one who was angry I was seperated and because my parents were more "well what they do to him?" whenever it one of them who was angry, I have lots of little scars for my trouble.

I'm sure my siblings have stories of how I wasn't the best older brother either so I generally try not to judge. In recent years i've had some conversations about things we regret about our shared childhood which has softened some things, I speak very little to most of them now though.

Yeah my sister (though I suppose I should clarify she's my step sister) was the same way. It's very possible she's bi-polar. My sister stole video games from me to pawn when I was 12, 13 years old. She even stole my mother's wedding and engagement ring (my step father had bought her new ones for an anniversary one year).

And I'm sure I was never the perfect little sister, I was the baby after all, but my siblings were 5 to 6 years older than I was. 13 year olds don't want to play with 7 year olds. If I wasn't being ignored, I was being made fun of. Ahh...memories XD

 

[Mr Dizazta]

I love being an evil older brother!

 

[Angerwing]

agaga

 

[Sangreal Gothcraft]

I Love being the older brother... I use to fight with my sister, she would start getting all angry and telling me what to do, i would say shut up your ugly! No Your ugly! Moments later, Please we are gorgeous. And we would laugh it off, Though she would start fights with me which ended up both of us getting gloves and punching the shit out of each other, she thanks me for this though cause she is a girl and most 16 year old girls fight like cats and slaps...She Just goes all "DENTAL APPOIMENT" Not even i would mess with her.

 

[Navvan]

Well I grew up with an older brother and an older sister. My brother (5 years older) liked to do the more traditional teasing. Things like scaring me with stories, chasing me, holding my favorite toys hostage for the fun of it or the one time he tied me up with duck tape until I escaped. He also liked to hog the video games, but honestly I enjoyed just watching him play so I was fine with it. He and I maintain a relatively close relationship for two adults that live 200+ miles from one another.

Note: I don't consider some of the stuff my brother did to fall in this category as it wasn't entirely his fault. When I was between the ages of 14-17 he was heavily on drugs/mentally unstable so I don't hold him accountable for those actions. Although I don't know how I'd feel if I hadn't been able to defend myself during that time frame when he became violent. He's much perfectly fine (as far as former drug user/history of mental illness goes) now.

My sister (2 years older than me) on the other hand seemed to like to torment me whenever she could. She'd get friends to harass me in various ways, try to frame stuff on me, steal my stuff (and never give it back), and so forth. To this day I can't trust her and do not like her as a person. If I can avoid her I will do so, and thus only talk at family functions/gatherings.

They both would try to get me to do stuff by taking advantage my my naivety. Try to trade me 50 pennies for five dollars, get me to do chores for them in exchange for promises that were worded in such a way to be worthless and so forth.

 

[Berithil]

My brothers and I have always had a sibling rivalry. Despite the fact that I'm the oldest, they would always pick on me (sad, huh?) It wasn't physical abuse as much as it was psychological and manipulation. This was mainly due to the fact that they knew they could because, whenever I would go to my parents to tell them, they would always tell me that I'm the oldest and should I take care of it myself. But then when I would get back at my brothers, they would go tell my parents and I would get in trouble. While they were nothing like some of the responses in this thread, it got worse before it got better. My brothers would start telling lies to people, including some people who were my friends, trying to turn people against me. It's no wonder I'm not the most social person.

Now, both my brothers are better, although my youngest brother, who's a teenager now, is still a grade A douche. He stills seems to relish telling others lies about me and hurling insults at me, such as calling me childish and immature, despite the fact that I've always been told by adults that I'm one most mature teens they know. (the hypocrisy is strong in this one)

 

[The .50 Caliber Cow]

My older brother punched me regularly until I ran away from home for good. Yup.

 

[Scarim Coral]

A few things but to be fair I was a wild child when I was little so his childhood was hell after I was born.
One time he got me to think there was a Predator from the film of the same name in the other room. Also he an ass for waking me up by shouting when I was alseep from a film. He's a friggen hypocrite since these days he fall alseep from watching anime film -_- (Yes he's somewhat into animes).