Use_Imagination_here said:
Yes there is the overarching theme of patriarchy in that this particular type of empathy is overrepresented, that absolutely does not mean that the motivation for the player stems from it.
Then you can take comfort in the fact that Sarkeesian is not attacking
the player. Ever, at any point. She's attacking the way the story is structured, because it heavily favors one particular brand of empathy -- and, in doing so, is exclusionary to other groups. Each individual player is left to search his/her motivations individually.
Sarkeesian clearly stated that the motivation for the character or the player stems primarily from patriarchal roles, which is empathetically not true. The way that the characters and situations are represented are a direct result of lingering patriarchal roles, the motivation for either the characters or the player has basically nothing to do with it.
And yet it is
far easier for male players, whose social programming generally includes at least a primer in this kind of traditional gender role, to connect to these characters. And, corollary to this, it's a lot harder for people who are
not of this social schema to connect on quite the same level. As you mentioned, if there's not a deeper, base connection, it's seen as fake or forced.
So, why is it okay to focus nearly all of our resources on a trope that is authentic to one narrow group only, rather than having games that focus on different, but equally real, authentic, and relevant tropes? The simple answer: Because games have always been made that way, so more games are bought by people of that group, and so more games are made that way, and so they continue to be bought mostly by people of that group...
Long story short, nothing Sarkeesian says is attacking players. Heck, much of the time she's not even directly condemning developers. She's simply questioning the validity of a belief that is part of the social status quo. Some people
will feel challenged by that. Maybe even attacked. But that's their own defensiveness.
See, while nothing Sarkeesian says is attacking players, plenty of what people
say about what Sarkeesian says does so. Usually, it's her detractors, painting her arguments in a more negative light (often due to the defensiveness mentioned above.)