Turning Someone Down.

[Bat Vader]

This happened back in 2010 when I was taking English, Psychology, and Math at a community college. On the days that I had English and Math I had about an hour in a half of free time because of the class end and start times. A female classmate of mine named Jessica would seek me out every time I had free time and would speak with me for about 15 minutes to half an hour. She mainly spoke of stuff I wasn't interested in and I was hardly ever able to get a word in edge wise.

After two weeks of this she comes over and asks if I had ever been on a date. Thinking this was an odd question I just answered truthfully and told her no. She then asked another question and asked if I would be interested in dating her. This floored me because one I only really knew her for two weeks, two because no one has ever asked me that, and three because I have never been interested in relationships. If I was to seek one it would be one night stands or friends with benefits. Nothing long term.

I wasn't interested in dating her and I didn't find her all that attractive either. Plus I didn't want to be distracted from my college work and so I said thank you but I am more interested in completing my classes than I am in dating. She didn't seem all that hurt by it. The very next day I see her walking past me and she is all over some tall guy. So either she was trying to trick me or something else was up. That's it though. We never spoke again after that and honestly I am happy. She was annoying.

Has anyone else ever turned someone down because they weren't interested in them? It doesn't have to apply to relationships.

 

[Queen Michael]

Yes, I have. There was this girl who was in love with me, but she wasn't my type lookswise, so nothing ever happened.

 

[Secondhand Revenant]

This happened back in 2010 when I was taking English, Psychology, and Math at a community college. On the days that I had English and Math I had about an hour in a half of free time because of the class end and start times. A female classmate of mine named Jessica would seek me out every time I had free time and would speak with me for about 15 minutes to half an hour. She mainly spoke of stuff I wasn't interested in and I was hardly ever able to get a word in edge wise.

After two weeks of this she comes over and asks if I had ever been on a date. Thinking this was an odd question I just answered truthfully and told her no. She then asked another question and asked if I would be interested in dating her. This floored me because one I only really knew her for two weeks, two because no one has ever asked me that, and three because I have never been interested in relationships. If I was to seek one it would be one night stands or friends with benefits. Nothing long term.

I wasn't interested in dating her and I didn't find her all that attractive either. Plus I didn't want to be distracted from my college work and so I said thank you but I am more interested in completing my classes than I am in dating. She didn't seem all that hurt by it. The very next day I see her walking past me and she is all over some tall guy. So either she was trying to trick me or something else was up. That's it though. We never spoke again after that and honestly I am happy. She was annoying.

Has anyone else ever turned someone down because they weren't interested in them? It doesn't have to apply to relationships.

I think she was trying to find someone to date. Since you said no she moved on. Given how little she knew you before she asked I don't think she was basing it off any sort of deep interest.

And I have never been in the situation thankfully. It would be awkward.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

That would probably first require not having the social skills of a potato. Unfortunately, I'm still kind of stuck at that point.

I wouldn't have any trouble doing it, though. At least, I think.

 

[Lufia Erim]

I dont turn people down. I usually give them a shot. Best case scenario i enjoyed it and go out again, worst case i hated it and we don't go out again. It's not like they are asking me to marry them. Everyone gets one shot at my heart.

 

[MeatMachine]

I've been asked out by women on three occasions, and only turned one of them down because she was immature even by 16-year-old standards (I was 17, no pedo). All I said was, "sorry, I'm just not very interested in that right now". She was absolutely crushed and her self-esteem was in ruins - I felt a little bad about it, but it was a clear indication she wouldn't have been a good influence on me.

 

[Evil Moo]

I think I implicitly turn everyone down by being passively somewhat hostile towards anyone I don't know well by default. Also, as I'm not used to anyone implying that I'm attractive in any way, I'll tend to assume they are being deceptive in some way if they do so, which leads to further hostility.

One would have to go through a lot of walls to actually reach the point of being explicitly turned down by me (which I would probably do because I have little interest in the traditional relationship dynamic as I've seen it from the outside, and would probably find it more stressful than anything else).

 

[Something Amyss]

It can be difficult if you like someone, but aren't interested in what they have in mind (dating, romance, whatever).

A couple of people have hit on me who were super creepy, so the hardest part was saying "no" before I'd run far enough my voice was inaudible. Okay, slight hyperbole.

That would probably first require not having the social skills of a potato. Unfortunately, I'm still kind of stuck at that point.

I wouldn't have any trouble doing it, though. At least, I think.

Some of my best friends are potatoes! You take that back!

 

[TheVampwizimp_v1legacy]

It can be difficult if you like someone, but aren't interested in what they have in mind (dating, romance, whatever).

A couple of people have hit on me who were super creepy, so the hardest part was saying "no" before I'd run far enough my voice was inaudible. Okay, slight hyperbole.

That would probably first require not having the social skills of a potato. Unfortunately, I'm still kind of stuck at that point.

I wouldn't have any trouble doing it, though. At least, I think.

Some of my best friends are potatoes! You take that back!

All of my lovers have been potatoes. I always said that I've never met a potato I wouldn't eat.



Anyway... I have had to turn a girl down once, it was bad. We were in high school and she was just obsessed with me, for no reason I ever understood. I found her kind of annoying and not at all attractive, so I sort of passively pushed her away for a while until I she finally got the hint. I still feel bad about being an immature dick about it.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

Some of my best friends are potatoes! You take that back!

I stand by my starchy, possibly delicious and yet also possibly bland word choice.

Would a dateable potato be called a po-date-o? :v

 

[Something Amyss]

I stand by my starchy, possibly delicious and yet also possibly bland word choice.

Would a dateable potato be called a po-date-o? :v

You starchist! Look at you, peeling them with your eyes!

 

[FPLOON]

I turned down a mentally challenged person... Does that count?

Other than that, I can't say that I have from a dating-based perspective... From a friendship perspective, of course...

 

[Vault101]

no but I did have to go through the pain of a relationship I didn't want because of a whole lot of reasons

 

[Bat Vader]

no but I did have to go through the pain of a relationship I didn't want because of a whole lot of reasons

This just makes me curious.

 

[Sleepy Sol]

You starchist! Look at you, peeling them with your eyes!

I could get a little rougher and start using an actual potato peeler.

I'm sure some potatoes must like it rough. I know I do.

 

[Joccaren]

Start of highschool. Go to school, pretty much same situation. One of the 'hot' girls in the class comes up, talks to me, asks if I have a girlfriend, then asks if I want to go out with her.

My thought process was basically summed up by no, you're normal, and annoying, and I have games to play.
No regrets.

I'm more the opposite to you in relationships though. I only want real, lasting relationships. If she had of gotten to know me, shown me how she wasn't your stereotypical teenage girl [Impossible. She legitimately was], and become close to me naturally then asked me out... maybe. Ask me off the cuff though? Nope.

Another time was with one of the middling girls in class. Huge ***** though, and she literally wanted to go out with me 'cause she was rich, and she thought I was intelligent enough to become rich in the future [This is the exact reason she told me she wanted to go out]. How to instantly make me not at all interested in the relationship? Make it about money.

Since the end of highschool though I've been happily in a relationship with someone who did everything right. We have our ups and downs, but I'm happy with her, so thankfully as soon as someone starts hinting at liking me I can just casually drop the "Oh, I'm going to see my girlfriend after class" line, and I can avoid such problems with no trouble at all.

Everyone gets one shot at my heart.

This sounds like the hook for some weird anime-assassin-romance-comedy show. I kind of want to see this now, out of morbid curiosity.

 

[Saetha]

There was this weird guy once who tried to flirt with me using impressions of different actors. That was weird as hell, but I never really turned him down. Just kind of... stopped talking to him, which was easy because we were working on a project together and didn't see each other at all after it was finished.

Anyway... I have had to turn a girl down once, it was bad. We were in high school and she was just obsessed with me, for no reason I ever understood. I found her kind of annoying and not at all attractive, so I sort of passively pushed her away for a while until I she finally got the hint. I still feel bad about being an immature dick about it.

Eh, I wouldn't sweat it. We all do dumb immature stuff in high school. I really wish I had a clone of twenty-year-old me on hand so I could have slapped myself before any public humiliation took place.

 

[Scars Unseen]

Hmm... In high school I mostly turned people down due to the fact that I was a stereotypical harem anime protagonist complete with being as dense as a neutron star and not actually getting in a relationship with anyone that pursued me. Highlights include turning down twins for a study date(when none of us actually needed to study) and actually going to see a movie with a girl and not realizing she wanted it to be a romantic date.

The only other time I turned someone down was when a girlfriend wanted to bring a girl she had an online master/slave relationship with into our bedroom. Since I was still fairly new to dating, it kind of weirded me out.

 

[Kae]

Yep, plenty of times actually, I mostly try to be nice and turn them down by just being cold and distant which works most of the time, but some people are clingy, I turned a girl down by telling her I really wasn't interested in dating anyone at the moment and subtly implying I was gay which is not exactly true but it helped lessen the blow a lot, but this other girl I currently work with doesn't really get it, I've told her straight up that I'm not interested in a nice way, I've told her in a rude way I've even tried completely ignoring her and she just won't leave me alone, now that is annoying, I get that I look good and due to my scars and how I always look excessively tired I probably give off some sort of mysterious air but C'mon, no means no, just stop please.

To be honest, I've only ever been legitimately interested in one person and I dated her, sadly we had to part ways due to her moving to the USA[footnote]She has double nationality, well triple actually but whatever.[/footnote] to study forensic medicine, I think I still like her and since I saw her last year[footnote]We dated when we were 15, we're now 24[/footnote] and we got drunk together and talked for a while, I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, which is precisely why I have to turn down everyone, I'm not interested in anyone but her.