Virgin want virgin confliction

[CODE-D]

whats up escapos
I am 19 male and a virgin. Now i have no problem with the fact that i am a virgin, the conflict comes from elsewhere. Its that I believe I want another virgin but its not just cause for their virginity, well kind of. its like this
1-I want to be someone elses first too(be that selfish as it may sound)
and knowing that somebody else was their first just sends my mind erratic wondering how they felt about that person or if they look at in regret(which would also worry me)
2-I want somebody with the same exp(which is zero) that way we can explore together and I also want a great long lasting relationship.
3-now the problem comes from my age(19) most girls by now have already done it at least once so I feel as if their is a time clock. What worries me is that ill find the right girl but she'll already have experienced it all and make me feel like an innocent lamb(which is what i dont want)
so any thoughts/advice? besides dont think about or dont let it bother you(that doesnt work or help, i know ive tried several times)

 

[aba1]

I think your over thinking it man

 

[DefunctTheory]

No no no...

Virgin + Virgin = The worst sex. Ever.

I'm not saying you should go trolling for people with experience, but to actually aim for such a catastrophe...

Oh, the humanity.

 

[Gurk]

Dude. Get laid whenever you can, to whoever you can.

 

[Bezz_Ad]

Start meeting more people, I guess? Sooner or later you'll find someone.
The longer you wait, the harder it will be to find someone virgin.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

whats up escapos
I am 19 male and a virgin. Now i have no problem with the fact that i am a virgin, the conflict comes from elsewhere. Its that I believe I want another virgin but its not just cause for their virginity, well kind of. its like this
1-I want to be someone elses first too(be that selfish as it may sound)
and knowing that somebody else was their first just sends my mind erratic wondering how they felt about that person or if they look at in regret(which would also worry me)
2-I want somebody with the same exp(which is zero) that way we can explore together.
3-now the problem comes from my age(19) most girls by now have already done it at least once so I feel as if their is a time clock. What worries me is that ill find the right girl but she'll already have experienced it all and make me feel like an innocent lamb(which is what i dont want)
so any thoughts/advice? besides dont think about or dont let it bother you(that doesnt work or help, i know ive tried several times)

Rofl.

I had sex when I was 20 for the first time with a girl who got around plenty of times. She said I was one of the best and never would've guessed that I was a virgin if I hadn't have told her. (She found out after she complimented me for the sex, so it wasn't a pity one).

You're overthinking this shit. Just get in the bed with whomever you want to share it with and have fun. People put too much stock into this first time bullshit.

 

[crisissuit3]

I thinking your asking for a little too much. But if you find someone with experience you might as well deal with it. Besides, if she actually cared about you she would understand and help you, and not slap you across the face and laughing at you and telling all her friends...

 

[CODE-D]

No no no...

Virgin + Virgin = The worst sex. Ever.

I'm not saying you should go trolling for people with experience, but to actually aim for such a catastrophe...

Oh, the humanity.

but i dont care about how good the sex is at first.
we'll get their in time, its not major science.

 

[kuyo]

No no no...

Virgin + Virgin = The worst sex. Ever.

I'm not saying you should go trolling for people with experience, but to actually aim for such a catastrophe...

Oh, the humanity.

He's right.
Think of it this way:
Are you going to learn physics from Steven Hawking or the Situation?

 

[Avatar Roku]

No no no...

Virgin + Virgin = The worst sex. Ever.

I'm not saying you should go trolling for people with experience, but to actually aim for such a catastrophe...

Oh, the humanity.

I have had that experience and I can say you are wrong. Provided that it is sex within a relationship; that sort of sex just as a one night stand would, in fact, probably be awful.

OT: I get what you're saying.. Having had that experience, I do think it's a good thing to want, but also, I think you shouldn't make that the most important thing. From the way you said that, I gather that a relationship would be important to you, so let me say this: find someone you like. Really like, I mean. On a deep level. If s/he is a virgin, well and good. If not, oh well. But either way, the sex should be meaningful.

 

[CODE-D]

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but are you still with her?

 

[Innegativeion]

He's right.
Think of it this way:
Are you going to learn physics from Steven Hawking or the Situation?

No, actually I don't think I want to think about sex with a virgin in terms of steven hawking and mike the situation.

edit: joking, if you can't tell...

 

[Astoria]

I can see why you'd to be someones first too. My boyfriend and I were each others firsts. I wouldn't let it stop you from getting with someone if you really like them though. If it's right then you probably won't feel inexperienced or anything anyway.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

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but are you still with her?

That's a different story. Not important to it at all. After being in a 3 year relationship with a girl who didn't want to have sex with me, I was in a relationship with another girl for a little over a month and we had sex, it was my first time and trust me, it was fantastic.

I'm no longer with said girl, but I seem to attract the crazies, so thats one major reason why.

 

[Avatar Roku]

I can see why you'd to be someones first too. My boyfriend and I were each others firsts. I wouldn't let it stop you from getting with someone if you really like them though. If it's right then you probably won't feel inexperienced or anything anyway.

And you said what I said, except way better. Well done.

 

[kuyo]

Think of it this way:
Are you going to learn physics from Steven Hawking or the Situation?

No, actually I don't think I want to think about sex with a virgin in terms of steven hawking and mike the situation.

Whose a better teacher for physics? I think the choice is clear, Learn from people who know enough to teach.

 

[Harry Mason]

This is the creepiest thread I've seen on this website so far. Did a post actually suggest looking for virgin hangout spots? EWWW...

Have sex with someone who you think is groovy and who thinks you're groovy back. If you create rules other than that, you're going to have unsatisfying relationships. Trust me.

 

[Katana314]

I'm a virgin, but that's not the issue for me. Heck, if a potential significant other said they couldn't have sex for some random reason, I'd be fine with it.

9 more years until I'm a movie title.