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Ahh... I remember being your age and having that idealistic view. Meeting a woman who has never had sex, falling in love, being the first for each other, and just spending the rest of your lives together... it's a great dream, and I'm sure that there a lucky few in this world who actually get to live that dream. However, if time and experience has taught me nothing else, it's that being with someone you care about is more important than just being her first.
What's in her past shouldn't be more important than what's in your present.
What's in her past shouldn't be more important than what's in your present.
I'll reiterate and emphasizeMonkfish Acc. said:
"A virgin fantasizing"
I don't think "everyone" falls under that category.
Do you remember the first time you gave someone a hug, or a handshake, or made eye contact with them? I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but sex is just another social interaction, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Focus on finding a person you really like, and let the sex be a pert of it, not the whole thing.
Thats why I said most likely. I know its fun...I'm just trying to tell him that its not what the entire "relationship" that he is looking for should be based on. It just doesn't make sense to me to want these things of someone meanwhile you should just be looking for someone you actually...Oh I don't know...LOVE.Dags90 said:
That really makes me happy to hear, because if you only desire one, it isn't really love.CODE-D said:
It is hard to find someone who feels that same way, not desperate for love (looking to love).
I was actually that way in my current relationship, I only sought to love blinding myself to love I was receiving, and now that I've taken a moment to see where I stand, it's real love.
Case in point, now I feel like you're someone who I can talk to really, not someone who uses women to fit in around friends. There isn't any direction some one can set you in, because nobody knows what you want the best but you. You may surprise yourself: I liked women too, always wanting to have one to love, but the moment I laid eyes on Nick, I knew that it didn't matter what gender he was, because love is a feeling, a feeling that is shared, it is not anything as trivial or physical as virginity. Before our first kiss, I was fairly sure he had kissed many girls before, but even then, because he was my first, I let it mean everything (as it turns out, I was his first, but that never made a difference in the way I loved him).
It can be hard to be someone's first I'll agree with you there, but when you love someone more than anything else in the world, you can be their best.
A lot of people say they want a relationship when they just want to get laid. They want the IDEA of a relationship which, to them, actually just means lots of really intense and lovely sex and physical intimacy.CODE-D said:
If you just wanted a good, long relationship, this wouldn't be a big deal.
And it seems you already caught my post about how it is creepy so I suppose I don't need to go into that.
I imagine everyone has been a virgin at some point.Innegativeion said:
Of course, I could be wrong. Maybe womb-fucking is a thing now.
I'm trying to imply the OP sees it as a sort of idealistic romantic "let's go through this together" kind of thing with his would-be lover. I honestly don't see how that's creepy.
The whole "first time" thing isn't really as big a deal as you might think. My advice would be don't worry about whether it's her first time or not, just pay attention to her body language during the act to learn what she is enjoying and what she isn't. Most of all, have fun with it! And try not to be embarrassed, EVERYBODY looks ridiculous in the middle of an orgasm.
BTW, did anybody else click on this thinking it was going to have something to do with Richard Branson?
BTW, did anybody else click on this thinking it was going to have something to do with Richard Branson?
I'm 23, virgin, female, and zero experience. In short, what you're looking does exist. Just be patient and try to meet people. And I do believe that there are dating sites online that cater specifically to virgins so you might could try that. I've tried meeting some guys on nerdpassions.com which is a good site and completely free so you could possibly try going to places like that and simply making it clear you're a virgin and you're looking for a fellow virgin and see how that works out.