Virgin want virgin confliction

[CODE-D]

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but are you still with her?

That's a different story. Not important to it at all. After being in a 3 year relationship with a girl who didn't want to have sex with me, I was in a relationship with another girl for a little over a month and we had sex, it was my first time and trust me, it was fantastic.

I'm no longer with said girl, but I seem to attract the crazies, so thats one major reason why.

ahh...i can understand that
and maybe after my first time i probably wouldnt care so much
but that doesnt change the fact i want it to be special and mutually even

 

[eternal-chaplain]

It struck me as familiar when you said you sounded selfish for wanting to be someone else's first. My lover told me he wanted me all to himself and he said he was selfish for that, but to whoever you say that to, it never comes across as selfish, only sweet.

Sorry, that was a tad irrelevant.

It sounds to me like you're saying you seek love, but do you seek to love or to be loved?

 

[Mr.Pandah]

This is the creepiest thread I've seen on this website so far. Did a post actually suggest looking for virgin hangout spots? EWWW...

Have sex with someone who you think is groovy and who thinks you're groovy back. If you create rules other than that, you're going to have unsatisfying relationships. Trust me.

I like this poster.

Very groovy.

TIME TO CHEESE IT!

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Here's an idea.
Stop thinking about this. It's creepy.

Also, pretty fucking shallow. You're only concerned with the sex. What happens if you meet a girl who you like and who likes you back, you guys get along great and she seems about perfect but LO AND BEHOLD she had the gall to not be a virgin? What, do you just drop her?

And besides that, it's stupid and unrealistic. You yourself have said most girls by your age will have slept with somebody at some point. Get fucking comfortable with that fact and stop giving a shit because it isn't important.

 

[CODE-D]

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who can trust internets?
anyway i get it but where we each grew up may be a factor.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

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but are you still with her?

That's a different story. Not important to it at all. After being in a 3 year relationship with a girl who didn't want to have sex with me, I was in a relationship with another girl for a little over a month and we had sex, it was my first time and trust me, it was fantastic.

I'm no longer with said girl, but I seem to attract the crazies, so thats one major reason why.

ahh...i can understand that
and maybe after my first time i probably wouldnt care so much
but that doesnt change the fact i want it to be special and mutually even

We're different people, and I'm not going to explore why you choose to put so much stock into the first time bullshit, but I'll tell you that it doesn't matter one bit.

Go have sex with whomever you choose. Don't let virginity be an obstacle though. Putting that in between yourself and another person is just dumb is what I'm trying to say. There are far more important things out there to worry about.

At this point in my life, I am completely apathetic about the entire situation(Girls and what not). Don't think you have to go out and get laid just to fill some status quo.

 

[Cain_Zeros]

Having your first time be with someone who's more experienced really isn't that bad. You can still build a deep, meaningful relationship, and while there might be comparisons, unless she's a spiteful ***** she'll keep them to herself. Besides which a lot of it's just instinct and if you do a decent job she'll be enjoying herself too much to bother comparing you to any other guys she's been with.

 

[CODE-D]

It struck me as familiar when you said you sounded selfish for wanting to be someone else's first. My lover told me he wanted me all to himself and he said he was selfish for that, but to whoever you say that to, it never comes across as selfish, only sweet.

Sorry, that was a tad irrelevant.

It sounds to me like you're saying you seek love, but do you seek to love or to be loved?

both actually would be great

 

[Dags90]

No no no...

Virgin + Virgin = The worst sex. Ever.

So not universally true.

2-I want somebody with the same exp(which is zero) that way we can explore together and I also want a great long lasting relationship.

I found this bit the strangest. Is the implication supposed to be that non-virgins aren't apt for long lasting relationships?

 

[CODE-D]

Having your first time be with someone who's more experienced really isn't that bad. You can still build a deep, meaningful relationship, and while there might be comparisons, unless she's a spiteful ***** she'll keep them to herself. Besides which a lot of it's just instinct and if you do a decent job she'll be enjoying herself too much to bother comparing you to any other guys she's been with.

thats good advice

 

[Innegativeion]

Here's an idea.
Stop thinking about this. It's creepy.

Also, pretty fucking shallow. You're only concerned with the sex. What happens if you meet a girl who you like and who likes you back, you guys get along great and she seems about perfect but LO AND BEHOLD she had the gaul to not be a virgin? What, do you just drop her?

And besides that, it's stupid and unrealistic. You yourself have said most girls by your age will have slept with somebody at some point. Get fucking comfortable with that fact and stop giving a shit because it isn't important.

A virgin fantasizing about his first time feels perfectly not creepy/normal to me...

 

[CODE-D]

I found this bit the strangest. Is the implication supposed to be that non-virgins aren't apt for long lasting relationships?

for the people i grew up with, yeah. say for one couple but he was older and she was younger both in high school and it just worked.
its kinda what i wanted(envy)

 

[Cain_Zeros]

Having your first time be with someone who's more experienced really isn't that bad. You can still build a deep, meaningful relationship, and while there might be comparisons, unless she's a spiteful ***** she'll keep them to herself. Besides which a lot of it's just instinct and if you do a decent job she'll be enjoying herself too much to bother comparing you to any other guys she's been with.

thats good advice

I thought so. Basically, find someone you want to be with, and don't factor in experience at all.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Here's an idea.
Stop thinking about this. It's creepy.

Also, pretty fucking shallow. You're only concerned with the sex. What happens if you meet a girl who you like and who likes you back, you guys get along great and she seems about perfect but LO AND BEHOLD she had the gaul to not be a virgin? What, do you just drop her?

And besides that, it's stupid and unrealistic. You yourself have said most girls by your age will have slept with somebody at some point. Get fucking comfortable with that fact and stop giving a shit because it isn't important.

A virgin fantasizing about his first time feels perfectly not creepy/normal to me...

Anyone thinking about how much they'd love to deflower a virgin is a little creepy to me.

I sure fucking hope that isn't normal because then everyone is creepy.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

I found this bit the strangest. Is the implication supposed to be that non-virgins aren't apt for long lasting relationships?

for the people i grew up with, yeah. say for one couple but he was older and she was younger both in high school and it just worked.
its kinda what i wanted(envy)

...It doesn't work out because their not virgins. It just doesn't work out because they don't want to be with eachother. Are you kidding me?

 

[CODE-D]

Here's an idea.
Stop thinking about this. It's creepy.

Also, pretty fucking shallow. You're only concerned with the sex. What happens if you meet a girl who you like and who likes you back, you guys get along great and she seems about perfect but LO AND BEHOLD she had the gaul to not be a virgin? What, do you just drop her?

And besides that, it's stupid and unrealistic. You yourself have said most girls by your age will have slept with somebody at some point. Get fucking comfortable with that fact and stop giving a shit because it isn't important.

I believe
1 i addressed that i want a good long relationship
2 hows it creepy?
3 I guess id feel duped but it wouldnt matter then(i just wish she'd been more open and honest
4 ...ouch

 

[Dags90]

for the people i grew up with, yeah. say for one couple but he was older and she was younger both in high school and it just worked.
its kinda what i wanted(envy)

The people you grew up with were, well, growing up. Many of them probably weren't really looking for longterm relationships. They were looking for fun and sex, and society tell us that the latter should come in a serious relationship or you're some dumb slut.

And it's your virginity. It's not like losing it magically changes your personality. Their relationships failed because they weren't compatible, not because they lost their virginity.

 

[CODE-D]

I found this bit the strangest. Is the implication supposed to be that non-virgins aren't apt for long lasting relationships?

for the people i grew up with, yeah. say for one couple but he was older and she was younger both in high school and it just worked.
its kinda what i wanted(envy)

...It doesn't work out because their not virgins. It just doesn't work out because they don't want to be with eachother. Are you kidding me?

I know but it makes it more special that they were.