Virginity

[Frankleton]

not a big deal

not sacred

Can be sold, though probably shouldn't be if you respect yourself

Promise rings are stupid, if you are promising yourself to someone, why not bone them now

I don't think you should wait til marriage, because I feel that would be like not talking to someone until you're married, it could lead to problems when you find out something doesn't work right or fit correctly. I don't think you should run around and have sex willy nilly. That's a good way to get STDs and a lifetime of burning while urinating.

 

[ThisTypeofThinking]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Depends on the person, but it typically ends up being so at the time.

Eh.

Should not.

Stupid, pointless, and silly.

Personally, I will wait till marriage, and yes I am Christian. I was not entirely convinced of this until a teacher told me something. It is an intimate relationship that you will share with only your wife, and your wife only with you (assuming you marry a virgin). While the "don't do it" in the Bible didn't quite convict me of it, the idea of that did.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

1) It isn't a big deal to me. To me personally, I see no significance in virginity.
2) Virginity isn't sacred to me, though I suppose it is to other people.
3) I suppose it could be sold. See Resident Evil 4 for: "I'll buy it at a high price"
4) I find them to be silly.
5) Waiting really depends on the individual. So, that's a case-by-case scenario. For me, I wanted until the right time/person.

 

[murphy7801]

No
No
I don't respect whores (receiving payment for sex even once makes you one) and people wanting to purchase someone's virginity are creepy.
Ugh.
Enjoy life, just don't be stupid and wind up with a burning itch down thar for the rest o'your days.

Prostitution is normally a life style choice normally act desperation for money.

 

[Legion IV]

This threads so depressing. Things must have really changed. Times have changed, a much more liberal veiwpoint amongts younger people, the "Do whatever you like as long it dosent harm anyone mentality" Then theres the non virgins are aways the most vocal on how unimportant it is ( I WONDER WHY!?)

As for me?

Its extremmly important and always will be i raised myself on my own accord to follow this nobody else.
Its very sacred, you only have it once thats it, give it to that one person you just know your gonna be with and you have my blessings, as for me HA me having a signficant others thats rich.
You sell it i have no respect or sympathy for you.
Promise rings are a cute idea but ultimately pointless, you should never need a materail object to help reinforce your morals.
Yes you should only wait the only thing before marriage i'd say is if your engaged and you just cant wait lol but ya you should be married, learn to wait, enjoy your life dont rush things.

Dam this threads depressing at the age of 18 am already talking about how times changing. Seems the youth and young adults new ideals and morals are largely based on that new liberal mentality. Theres always rushing to try things just to try, they can never wait it seems an impossible thing now.

Am gonna go do somthing with my best friend at least she understands and shares my morales.

Flame on i guess, i assume thats all am gonna get. If it makes you feel better do it, ultimatly i just want my fellow man and women happy.

 

[MasterChief892039]

Because I'm a feminist I don't really like the notion of "virginity" since it's a concept that has historically been used to commodify women and control their sexuality. Or alternatively it's used as an insult or a way of emasculating men, which is rather immature and silly.

When I had sex for the first time it was a pretty big deal for me, but that's because it was a new experience and something I was actively interested in exploring with my partner - I certainly didn't feel like I had "lost" anything afterwards as the phrase "lose your virginity" suggests.

Every woman accepts some kind of payment for sex. Be it direct cash exchange, or wine and dine, or a trip to mcdonalds. it's all paid for.

How incredibly original.

The "all women are prostitutes" line is... well, just plain wrong. A woman in a romantic relationship is not trading money or any other material goods for sex. She uses the relationship as a means of building trust in her partner, at which point she turns her emotional connection with him into a physical one. The same thing should hopefully be able to be said about men in romantic relationships.

It's true that the social conventions for building trust and romantic interest rely heavily on money-fuelled activities (movies, dinner, etc), and that the man is often expected to shoulder the cost, but that tradition is based on an ancient evolutionary need for men to communicate to women that they are capable providers - a need that is slowly eroding away as women gain the ability to participate in the workforce and provide for themselves. Many women already think that expecting men to exclusively pay for dates is impolite (because it is sexist), and pay for the drinks at dinner or for the snacks at the movies. Women like me prefer to pay an even 50/50.

I should also note that most men get offended if you try to pay for your share of a date, in which case it's ridiculous to blame women for a cultural tradition that is perpetuated by both sexes.

Anyway, saying that all women exchange sex for some sort of monetary gain -rather than emotional- is a very sexist and frankly, very pitiable view of male-female relationships. If your outlook is based on personal experience, then I have to question your taste in women.




And all that's not even touching on the fact that women enjoy sex and (dear lord) participate in it consensually for their own sexual fulfillment, rather than as some sort of transaction with their partner. Why else would women agree to one-night stands, when men have put no financial investment into the "relationship"? And don't say alcohol... plain old sexual desire is a big motivating factor.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Big Deal? Yes. It's always a big deal when you become part of something bigger than yourself.
Sacred? Yes. The possibility of creating life - that is always sacred.
Something that can be sold? Yes - sacred prostitution. If done right, it can also be beautiful.
Promise rings - idiotic.
Should you wait - Wait until it feels right. When you're ready, go for it - if being ready means being in love, great. If it means choosing to enjoy yourself because you can, that's fine too. The main thing is that you, personally, are ready.
You probably shouldn't wait for marraige - just IMO, but you should always test drive the car before you buy it.

 

[Grabbin Keelz]

Meh virginity....I has it.

I have more important things to do than worry about losing it.

 

[Mcface]

No
No
I don't respect whores (receiving payment for sex even once makes you one) and people wanting to purchase someone's virginity are creepy.
Ugh.
Enjoy life, just don't be stupid and wind up with a burning itch down thar for the rest o'your days.

Every woman accepts some kind of payment for sex. Be it direct cash exchange, or wine and dine, or a trip to mcdonalds. it's all paid for.

 

[BlackWidower]

Don't give a shit, doesn't matter, why would it?

You know, it did matter back a hundred years ago, when women were considered property. If she wasn't a virgin and you married her, it's possible the kid she would give birth to in nine months wouldn't be yours. I'd like to think we've moved past that, and we don't really care.

 

[BlackWidower]

No
No
I don't respect whores (receiving payment for sex even once makes you one) and people wanting to purchase someone's virginity are creepy.
Ugh.
Enjoy life, just don't be stupid and wind up with a burning itch down thar for the rest o'your days.

Every woman accepts some kind of payment for sex. Be it direct cash exchange, or wine and dine, or a trip to mcdonalds. it's all paid for.

So no woman on the planet has sex because she likes sex? Every woman on the planet has to get paid?

 

[Pifflestick]

Not a big deal at all.

Nothing is sacred.

I'm not touching this question with a ten-foot pole, next question.

Stupid, annoying, and useless.

Should probably only lose it to someone you love, but who am I to say whats right? In the end its your body and your choice. If you choose to wait till marraige or just give it away the first chance you get, then thats your choice. As long as you don't rub your choice in someone elses face or act like it makes you morally superior then everything is copasetic

 

[Brawndo]

Perspective for virgins:

Losing your virginity is not a life-changing event. If you were terrible with girls/guys before, you will in all likelihood continue being so. There is no touching heaven, no Tantric melding of spirits, no fireworks, no mindgasm (just a peengasm - and not even in all cases for all people). The most distinct memory I have from my V-day is "Goddamn, this condom feels like wearing a raincoat in the shower."

In today's age of generally declining religious fervor and conservative upbringings, virginity should not be held with high regard as something to be treasured. All I can say is, lose it when you are ready, and not because your friends or some other people are forcing or expecting you to do it. Also, guys, hold out for a girl with a thin waist; I know I'm glad I waited and passed on some earlier, larger opportunities, lol.

 

[Tim Latshaw]

I'm curious about those who've said the combination of "make sure it's with someone you really love and trust" and "you should test it out with someone before you marry them."

Here's my question: If you love someone enough to say, "Yes! This person is special enough to me to have sexual relations with them." and then it turns out to be sub-par, would that be an automatic dealbreaker for you? Would all the feelings you had for that person be nullified by lousy sex, or would those feelings still be strong enough to continue a relationship with that person? Or, alternatively, would you not let your feelings reach that high a level before attempting relations for fear that the world would come crashing down upon a poor bedroom review?

 

[Sniper Team 4]

It's important to me.
Sacred to me as well.
It can be sold. Doesn't mean that it should be in my opinion.
I believe in waiting until marriage.

Sadly, I'm probably going to die a virgin at this rate.

 

[b1u3too]

Virginity is a social concept that adolescents are fascinated with, for the most part. I was a virgin until I got my first boyfriend, and a month or so into our relationship we ripped up my v-card. Until then, I had never thought of being a virgin as a big deal, I was just who I am and happened to not know or care much about anything sexual.

So no, I don't think it's a big deal.

I wouldn't call it sacred, because I'm not religious. I'll admit, I was a little scared, but that was of the consequences. What if my dad heard us? What if I did something wrong? What if I didn't please him? You know, that kind of thing. Afterwards we played BlazBlue, I was more scared of him beating me at my faaaaaaaavourite game than I was of anything relating to the nasty, lol.

I don't think it should be sold, because it's not a big deal. But hey, capitalism says...

Promise Ring? What's that? Like, I promise I'll do the nasty with you, or I promise I might get around to marrying you someday when I'm not busy being a kid? Because I've heard the term used in both contexts.

I say love. Or at least, the physiological perception of it. Mix in a few raging teenage hormones and bonding with a person then yes, it is acceptable to have an intimate relationship with them. I can speak from my experience like a bit of a wank, and say that if it wasn't for my boyfriend getting lethally ill and spending the first few weeks of our relationship in recovery in hospital (he waited until 48 hours after his appendix ruptured to get into emergency), where I spent a few hours every day at his bedside, we probably wouldn't have gotten so close so fast.

But hey, to each their own. I sense unique, thought provoking post, OP. Good on yeh.

 

[Sovereignty]

Big Deal. (Anyone who says otherwise is LYING THROUGH THEIR TEETH). It is a right of passage for boys and girls carried with quite possibly the largest amount of social stigma any other act we'll ever experience will carry. BIG BIG deal in fact. Til you lose it. Then it means little if not a bit of regret, or a wonderfully beautiful memory.

Not Sacred. At least not anymore. We're a fast-food society built on quick creation and instant gratification. The things leading to it mean more then the act itself now.

It probably shouldn't be sold. (Personal opinion I can't actually argue against someone choosing to sell their body from a freedom standpoint... Other then saying it's morally irresponsible and against my own beliefs which is REALLY hard to argue with lol.)

Promise rings are a waste. Like a minor roadblock it wont stop them forever.

Any opportunity. No sense fighting the flow of the next generation. Everything changes and by trying too hard to resist said change you'll just end up alienating yourself and feeling alone. (So unless you wanna feel different... yeah.)

 

[StarsintheBlood]

Yes- your first time is kinda a big deal, at least in my opinion.

No- Not in the sense religions make it out to be ("Sex before marriage is eeeeeeevil!!1!11"). The idea of virginity being sacred sounds like it was started as a propaganda to me.

It can- but it shouldn't.

Rings- I have a purity ring, but it's mostly because I'm in school and it's a great way to weed out the creeps. It helps that my parents didn't tell me to wear it, I chose on my own. I don't plan on getting married, and I'm not Christian or religious by a long shot, I just like how the ring reminds me that I have self-respect. But it's not like it gives you a moral high ground or anything, it's just for personal security.

Love- Waiting until marriage? Pffft. That's like implying one's life is not complete unless they have a spouse. Not everyone gets married. It's just a piece of paper, after all. But still, one night stands? Not very classy, especially not for your first time.

 

[blankedboy]

Whats your view on virginity It's that thing that you have before you have sex. Derp.
Big deal/not Kinda. Obviously it's fairly big the first time, but losing your virginity will lose its lustre after a few times.
sacred/not sacred Nope >:3
something that can be sold?(should it) Virginity, no, sex, yes.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good) Pointless. If you want to, go ahead, but I'm not :/
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? Marraige is pretty much just for legal benefits (like driving together on a learner's license) in my opinion, because it does fuck-all else. But you should at least love them :/

Boring questionnaire. I'm bored. I should get some sleep.