Virginity

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Not bothered
Not scared
Selling it is for whores...
Promise rings are stupid... What do they do? put an electric fence over a vagina?

I can wait until I get a girlfriend who I know really like.
But till marige? Well, not really. I disagree, Darth Sidious... (The pope seriously looks like him...)

 

[WeOwnTheSky]

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

You don't HAVE to be married to be monogamous. I'm saying you should be monogamous regardless of marriage, and if you're married, then don't cheat.

And yeah, obviously, I'm just saying its a reason for some people to wait for marriage.

 

[major28]

who buys virginity i?????
has anyone honestly been having sex and thought hmmmmmmm this sex is pretty good but it would be even better if the vagina was bleeding YEAH

will i get probation for this or not lets wait and see

 

[jawakiller]

Do what you want... Unless it involves my chick, in that case, fuck off. But seriously do what you want. If you wanna sleep with some random babe, go ahead. If you wanna wear a fake ring, by all means, do so. That is, if you are responsible enough to deal with any consequence that might arise. If you're thirteen but feel you can deal with all the bullshit involved, power to ya. If you are twenty-five but feel like you're not ready than don't. easy.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.

No, it's like saying if you eat at the same place every day you're less likely to get food poisoning. If they change the cook however, you could be getting the same food, but you might get food poisoning.
The place may also pick up a couple of new, better dishes too.

 

[DarthFennec]

Big deal/not
Umm ... not any more than any other sex :/

sacred/not sacred
Definitely not sacred, no. lol

something that can be sold?(should it)
If you want to. Personally I don't really care either way, mine's already gone 9_9

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
Exceedingly stupid.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I waited till love, mostly because nobody would do it with me before then
Marriage is absolutely worthless. The only reason to get married is for tax reasons 9_9

 

['Stache]

Now this is a thread for the Escapist.

Hey-o!

 

[Odbarc]

[Big deal/not]
It is until you lose it.

[sacred/not sacred]
It's really more of a perspective of self-respect. You'll either share yourself with everyone or no one or something in between. Now a days, it seems like it's more of a tool to get yourself high (dopamine) than to engage in an act of love or reinforce a loving relationship.

[something that can be sold?(should it)]
Anything with a buyer, there will be a seller. The question is 'can it' - yes. And it does. Should it? No.

[Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)]
Pointless. A ring isn't going to stop you from getting raped when your drunk or keep your panties on. If anything, advertising your virginity will either you get ridiculed or lure deviants into hitting on you by people who just want your virginity.

[should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?]
Most guys will take any opportunity.
Most girls will wait for love.
All the 'love' experts say waiting for marriage is the 'best' but by perspective of people who experienced both, I'm told it's the same.

The worst part, everyone is trying to impose their values (or lack thereof) onto people and none of them really have a 'this is the one fact that's true from every perspective' to share.
Everyone is different. Chances are, your going to have some bad sex, bad experiences with sexuality, and bad partners in your life.
If you wait until your married, you can get rid of one or two of those negatives at least.

Lastly, sex is something that seems everyone has eventually anyway. Virginity should be for children and they should stay that way. I'm sure we can agree on that.

 

[superbatranger]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

It's important enough to me that I don't want to lose it to just anyone. Therefore, I don't think it can be sold. I feel that would just cheapen it. Waiting for marriage is somewhat unrealistic, so I'd rather wait until I find someone I care about.

 

[SkyeNeko]

Whats your view on virginity
not as big a deal as people make it out to be
sacred-ish.
yeah it can be, dont understand why people would buy it though. is it really that important to you to be the first person to have sex with someone???
pointless. i doubt the ring is going to stop you if you get horny.
depends, what does sex mean for you.

 

[bubba145]

the first semi.
the second a little bit
the third nin
the fourth pretty much an engagement ring just buy that and cut out the middle man.
the fifth i'd wait until i'm engaged then we'll see

 

[Tdc2182]

Not a big deal

Yes I am a very nervous for my first time, I plan to be tanked up.

Sell it? Go ahead. Though it should be regulated and illegal when I am intoxicated

Promise rings. Not rally sure what they are and I never really have been interested in girls who are into it.

No, I think that is stupid. It is something that is suppose to be fun, not binding. And while I encourage people to not do it with total strangers, you shouldn't be forced to be in love with said person before it happens.

(Which sucks because the girl I may very soon start dating is into the right before marriage thing.)

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Yes.

Nothing is truly "sacred" to me as I don't believe in God, but it is important.

No.

No.

No.

 

[Sir Bob]

Don't think its particularly special, but am happy that I did it with someone I love, and not on some random girl

 

[Vampire cat]

Both sides of the "virgin" debate are completely nuts, most of the time... There is no NEED to lose your virginity as soon as possible, it wont make you a better person, "unfortunately" it's a kind of status symbol for boys in school to have had sex. For girls it frequently causes the "slut" label to appear, regardless of how many times you've had sex, it's the nature of teenage girls to be jealous and rude I guess...

On the other side, why protect it like it's the holy grail? You'll never have sex like teenage sex, parents should remember this and allow their children to lose their virginity whenever they feel like it. In many ways the first kiss is a much more memorable and important event in most young peoples lives. Also, why is it called "losing" your virginity, it sounds so negative, cant we cook up some happy word for it instead, or at least a somewhat neutral one?

Sell whatever you want to sell, as long as all involved parties agree I don't really care, nor should all the arm-flailers around the world. Promise rings... Meh, nothing wrong with them I guess, it's a way of committing to a belief and I'm all for people being allowed to have their own beliefs. Personally, I couldn't be bothered, similar to how most of my life choices go... Whatever works, you know...

Wait until whenever feels right/your so doped up on various substances your unable to make a sentient decision and it'll happen for you... (yes, that goes for both cases Oo)

 

[Shraggler]

Big deal/not:
Not a big deal unless you're going through puberty combined with people. When I was growing up. there was an unsaid social pressure to lose one's V-card ASAP once you hit High school. I did not respond well to this and really wish I kept my head on my shoulders the entire time and used that time to do more than I did.

Sacred/not sacred
I imagine everyone is scared the first time through. It's quite similar to riding a bike the first time. The fact that you're naked with another person leaves you feeling quite vulnerable. It's natural to get a bit of a "fight-or-flight" feeling.

Something that can be sold?(should it)
I don't have an opinion either way. What someone wants to do with themselves is their business. I imagine the "market" would be more inclined to accept females selling their virginity rather than males. If I were a woman, I would not sell my virginity. I believe that once it's gone, it's gone and I wouldn't want to cheapen it for money/goods/services/whatever. It's just one of few things you're born with and can never get back.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I don't have an opinion either way again. People will do whatever they want to themselves. I personally think they're stupid. Using tangible items to symbolize a promise of what is intangible and completely up to the person's behavior and choices is a bit weak. It doesn't present any reason to not lose your virginity, it just appears to because it is an object. If you have a decent amount of willpower and well defined reasons why you don't want to lose your virginity, you'll be fine.

Should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I go for the middle option. Love, or whatever you call it during those adolescent years. I find it important to have a decent relationship going on where trust and honesty have been so deeply established that any feeling of anxiety is less about the other person's reaction and more about the feeling like you're going on a roller-coaster for the first time and have no idea what to expect (i.e. apprehension).

 

[Ironrose]

I thought it should be a big deal at the time but since then I have given it a lot less significance, mainly because I made a stupid decision.
I don't think it's sacred but it is to be respected, I truly believe that everyone changes a lot the day they lose their virginity and as such it is something that should not be given up lightly, and treated with respect.
Sadly it can be sold but I honestly don't think it should be, anyone in the position of selling their virginity doesn't really know what they are getting themselves into, and the kind of person who would buy someone's virginity only makes it a much more dangerous and damaging situation.
I don't disrespect people who do the whole promise ring thing but personally I think they are impractical and not exactly the best idea.
and the last I think is a pure preference thing. I thought I was looking for love (but didn't want to wait to be married) but lost my virginity at 14 to my boyfriend at the time (who turned out to be a complete arse hate) who I didn't love at all, but we just reached a point where we realised we weren't that into each other but we still wanted to see what sex with each other would be like.

 

[_Cake_]

I forget my first time. Like I know who it was with but I forget the details. I have been told this is weird.

 

[Devil's Due]

Big Deal? Yup.
Sacred? Yup.
Sold? I have no idea how this is accomplished.
Promise Rings? I have no opinions on this, nor any wish to try one.
Till marriage? No, but till someone you love and have at least been with for well over a year. Then it's all fine in my book. One night stands just to remove the title is the dumbest idea I can think of that relates to sex.

Though before people ask, I'm not religious, I just follow classy morales, and would never date a girl who isn't a virgin. Sorry, just my views on life. There's more people out there in the world that don't mind losing it any chance they get, and that's fine with me. I'll just wait for a truly perfect girl for me.

 

[Memor-X]

well according to Tony, leader of the Australian Liberal party, a female's Virginity is a gift that should be given away lightly.....ofcause these words come out the same mouth of a guy was spends most his TV time in budgie smugglers trying to lure women.

Personally i think it's a big deal, it's something that can't be taken back, unless medical science advances to the point we can age backwards so thus we retain out virginity, which is what my friend want, not because she wants hers back but so it can piss guys off that when a girl looses her virginity, she can get ti back so the guy no longer feels special, then again, she revels in chaos and discord anyway.

not sure if i'm scared to loose mine or not, haven't had a relationship last longer than a week for the situation to even come up.

You can only sell it on eBay, i'm sure there's truck loads of idiots who would think buy someones virginity would get their own back in which case, serves the idiots right for bidding $500 on it

i hope to wait till marriage but ofcause i'll own marry someone who i love and loves me back and if we're like that it might be before, like i said, never had a long enough relationship to reach the situation