Virginity

[MasterOfWorlds]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

1) Not that big of a deal.
2) ...Eh, I can see valid reasons for both sides.
3) Should not be sold.
4) I think the idea is OK, but not for everyone.
5) Up to the person. Ideally, your first time would be with someone you love, but people have needs and sometimes those needs need to be fucked. XD

 

[Timedraven 117]

No

No

I hope so.

Lol gay

Lol marriage

I hope this was informative.

I love it when people post exactly what I'm thinking.

REPORT... NOT i'm pulling your chain.
Cookie for "refrence"

 

[Zaverexus]

I think one should wait for someone they really love before losing it, but I'm not going to be a prude and say "only when married" and certainly not "only for reproduction"

 

[crudus]

not a big deal
not all that sacred
Anything can be sold...technically
what is a promise ring?
How about financial security?

How the heck can you sell virginity?

It is called prostitution. I do recall a girl selling her virginity for something like $1,000,000.

 

[conflictofinterests]

never had sex and i really don't care if i ever do.

How the heck can you sell virginity?

Bunny ranch.

actually there is a guy who auctioned off his daughters' virginity on ebay.
don't know who it was though.

When arranged marriages happen and a bride price is involved, the bride herself is almost literally being sold, and her price will almost always vary depending on whether or not she is a virgin. So in that sense, virginity can be sold. Also, virgin (as in new) prostitutes can sell their virginity as any other prostitute would sell the service of sex.

 

[SovietSecrets]

Not a big deal to me, but I know for some girls/guys it is.

Sorta..? Depends on the person.

It is something thats sold.

Pointless and stupid.

Love I guess would be the best, but any opportunity works too.

 

[Ironsouled]

Love the bit people forget. No sex until marriage+ two virgin partners that remain monogamous= no more STD's ever (Barring drug use, which they can just die imho... or rape, but I've got my own set of views on that).

given that people aren't going to do that...

Yes, but not in the way most people think
Never heard of a faith that calls virginity 'sacred' (with the exception of a certain sect of greeks, who thought virginity+becoming a eunuch gave you visions...)
Selling... Whores. Nope sorry, no respect from me for them.
Promise Rings? Might have been a nice idea if people weren't amoral dicks who use them for control or as a parent placating meaningless gesture.
Marriage... AIDS sucks from what I hear.

Lets see... lost it to an uncle at age 9. Probably why I'm asexual.

The more time I spend on this site the more I see you people act like a hivemind.
Its just that no one here is responding differentely.

I rust my opinion is non-mainstream enough?

 

[William Dickbringer]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Not that big of a deal really only a big deal because people in high school seem to look down on you for it (but then again what do I know I'm a virgin)
not scared
hey do what you want
pointless and stupid
at least love for me

 

[KatiCentauri]

Not a terribly big deal. Sort of like trying alcohol for the first time, I'd assume.
It's not sacred to me personally, but it is to -some- people, and I say more power to them.
Sell it if you want but please stay a nice distance from me during...
Promise rings are a bit silly to me, but if that's what trips your trigger, yay you.
Personally, I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

The more virgins the better.

Means less children populating the world.

Can't argue with that.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

Big deal/not: Not for me personally, but to others it is. For a lot of people I know it's depended on whether or not they have lost it.

Sacred/not sacred: It only holds as much meaning as you and your partner assign to it.

Something that can be sold?(should it) "Sold"? No. Prostitution is against my ethics.

Promise rings: Good in theory, but not the whole "Not 'til marriage" thing. It's a good idea if it's just waiting until both of you want it and not being pressured into it.

Should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity? As previously stated, until you're both ready and aren't being forced into it.

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

 

[lacktheknack]

Wow, the first few answers read like a /b/ thread.

Anyways:
Not a big deal.
Somewhere between.
No.
Good idea.
Marriage.

*FLAME SHIELD*

 

[Jaime_Wolf]

Might be a big deal, depends on whether the person thinks it's a big deal or not. A blanket statement would be inappropriate. For me, it was a medium deal.

Not religious, so not sacred in that sense. Also not really sacred to me in any other sense (it's just the first time doing something you'll probably do quite a few times).

If people want to sell it and it's their choice, why not? Laws against prostitution are pretty silly, even moreso given the now-standard justification that it's all to protect the prostitutes rather than to punish them.

Promise rings seem mildly hilarious to me. If you're that committed and the only thing stopping you is a religious or social convention, fuck it (and him/her). If you're that committed and you don't feel ready, you shouldn't really need a ring, but I guess it can't hurt.

You should wait until you feel like doing it. Any blanket "you should do x" statement is going to be pretty dumb. That said, I think waiting until marriage is probably a bad idea - an especially bad idea if you have strong views that marriage is an unbreakable bond as some religious people do. If you're entering into an unbreakable bond, you sure as hell better hope that the two of you are sexually compatible.

 

[geldonyetich]

One man's junk is another man's treasure.

Come to think of it, no, lets not apply a sexual connotation to a saying that includes talk of "one man's junk."

 

[Xcelsior]

Not a big deal
Not scared
Sure why not?
Promise rings are just stupid
When the opportunity arises...marriage lolwut?

 

[KatiCentauri]

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

Ah, poor word choice on my part.
I am waiting for love, or Nathan Fillion.

 

[WeOwnTheSky]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

 

[Cap'n Ninja]

I'm waiting for someone tolerable enough that I would openly admit I'd had sex with. I suppose that would qualify as a mark for the love column.
Or Nathan Fillion.

You wouldn't admit to having sex with Nathan Fillion?
I'd be screaming it from the rooftops.

Ah, poor word choice on my part.
I am waiting for love, or Nathan Fillion.

A wise choice.

 

[TheTaco007]

And do you REALLY want to wait until you're married? A: Why the hell would you? (Again, biased Atheist here)

Waiting till you're married isn't just a religious thing. Its proven that having a monogamous relationship and having sex within marriage drastically reduces your chance of STI's and the like.
I think waiting till marriage is best, but if you find someone you love and want to share that experience with, then why not? If you're really happy and its a good relationship, I think it kind of acts as a reminder of how happy you were at that time/ still are.

Personally I believe it is important, and not something you should just give to anyone. I think promise rings are good if you don't wear it when its convenient for you. If you wear it out of devotion or faith, good for you. Don't wear it just to look cool then take it off when your friends start making fun of you, then its just pointless.

A: Why do people have to be married to be monogamous?
B: If you're only having sex with 1 person, of COURSE you're less likely to get an STD. That's like saying that if you only eat food once a week you're less likely to get food poisoning.