Virginity

[CarlsonAndPeeters]

I think the idea of virginity isn't a big deal--I don't think a person changes just because they have sex.

I do, however, that its an important decision to become sexually active. You need to be ready. Young kids and teenagers shouldn't have sex, not because its impure or because they need to wait till marriage, but because they're not ready. First of all, they may not be safe, but more importantly, they aren't emotionally/physically prepared to be that close to someone.

That's just my view. I think topics like this are really interesting and for this reason there should be more sex education in schools.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

...may I direct you here for any sex questions you may have ;D
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.260751-Poll-Sex-And-You-Lets-keep-this-mature

Yes, it's a big deal.
I think it's 'sacred', even though that's not the word I'd really use.
...no? o.o.
...whut?
And definitely love. Without doubt.

My view is, I want to lose it with someone I really care about, and will remember. Not love though, as at the age most people lose it, I really don't think they know what love truly means (it's mostly puppy love in my opinion). This way, I can still have strong feelings and fond memories of that person, but it won't be tied with questions like "were we really in love, if we broke up?" and the like.

...which is why you're such a goddamn beast on the advice forums!
I lost it with a girl who I thought I was in love with; but I was only 14, and she broke my heart a year later.
Actually, woah, the year anniversary of us breaking up is drawing near.
...wow, still haven't gotten over it.

SadStef.

AH WELL, that's completely off topic so I'll shh:].

My point was, I guess as I get older, I'll see what love really is, I guess:].
...I hope(Y).

 

[Anarchemitis]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

 

[TeeBs]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

If someones willing to buy it, why not let them?

Its not a big deal to me thats the thing.

 

[drisky]

Well this thread really follows the escapist mob mentality, like any topic on sex.

I've decided to compromise with catabolism on this one. Waiting till marriage is a bit much but it should still be considered as something special, not just thrown around.

 

[PrototypeC]

As the years have gone by, I've found myself less and less interested in the particular details. At this point, it doesn't need to be true love, or even love. All I need is to be actually liked and respected by the girl and vice-versa. I think doing it with a good friend would be better than a Relationship in colossal hewn stone letters, at least for my first time. I understand that as a guy, I don't have a visible, un-retrievable indicator of my lost virginity, so it's less of a big deal. For guys, it's merely emotional (except for that hormonal subconcious emission that non-virginal men have, look it up).

The idea of attaching a price to it? Abhorrent, somewhat disturbing, generally not good. There's already enough of a price... the thing itself! I don't consider my virginity "sacred", but I understand why others might, and respect that. Me, though? I'm ready, already!...

Ladieeees?

 

[Anarchemitis]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

If someones willing to buy it, why not let them?

Freedom is an excellent thing.
The drawbacks are letting idiots do whatever they want. Preemptive example to attempt to circumvent people from quoting this because they jumped to conclusions: making homemade fireworks with gasoline.

 

[Kuroneko97]

Shouldn't give it away so quickly. But it's your choice. Promise rings are basically a way to control you. If you want to lose it, have fun.

 

[Daniel Laeben-Rosen]

And I completely forgot to answer the topic itself so here goes f'reals:
No big deal.
Happens when it happens.
Not sacred in the least.
So on so on.

I do feel the need to step on my little soap-box for a few moments here since it's a phrase I feel desperatly needs an update.
I hate the term "Virgin" since it's so archaeic. For instance: only a woman was a virgin. Sex between two women, did not count. Like, at all. In any way. But that's another topic that's even more stupid.

What I hate about it apart from being a fairly archaeic term I'd hoped we'd grown out of, is the fact that I see it more as "my first intimate experience" and if you then say "well oral sex counts" or something similar... In the end: the question is what do YOU find intimate? To me that's what it all comes down to.
To me for instance, I'm more likely to have good ol' sex with someone than kiss them, because to me that kiss is just more intimate.
When we get to intimacy, it's all about what YOU feel, what YOU think and what YOU feel is right. That's what it all comes down to and I stand by that 100%.

 

[PunkyMcGee]

My view is, I want to lose it with someone I really care about, and will remember. Not love though, as at the age most people lose it, I really don't think they know what love truly means (it's mostly puppy love in my opinion). This way, I can still have strong feelings and fond memories of that person, but it won't be tied with questions like "were we really in love, if we broke up?" and the like.

I have to agree with you on this, people use words like love, hate, good, and evil way to loosely. (I could say stuff about love at first sight, but that's a rant for another day.)
With the mind set and lighter morals of todays culture a lot of pressure is put on the youth off today.

 

[Sejs Cube]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

-Not a big deal.
-Definitely not sacred.
-Issue of sale ties back into how much value you or the potential customer place on it. But if you sell it you're still a whore.
-Promise rings are stupid and pointless. Also creepy.
-You should definitely not wait until marriage, that's ridiculous. Knowing if you're sexually compatible with someone is information you kinda want to have before you commit to being married or not.

The breakdown of this particular social issue is sort of a complex and frankly kind of ugly one, going back to fun things like conditioned guilt over natural urges and the associated ownership of the ability to act on those urges. Not pretty, or enlightened.

Virginity isn't something sacred, or frankly even important. It's simply one state of being. No human being has some sort of secret value that can be lost or retained simply by the fact that they have or have not had sex. Placing a great deal of importance is archaic as shit, and not something to hold on to.

 

[BBMv12]

No big deal, not sacred BUT I'd sell mine. Honest I would for the right ammount, to get some cash to put towards perhaps sorting out some financial problems, who knows, who cares. In fact the person who would care enough to actually BUY "a virginity" mine or anyone elses, is a twat... come to think of it I'm a twat for thinking mine is worth more than a fiver TBH.

As for waiting, well it's like telling a joke. Time it right and everyone present will enjoy it for what it was. Too early and you've made a twat of yourself. Too late and you've made a twat of yourself but at least you've finally told the joke. But no-one found it funny.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not

No.

sacred/not sacred

No.

something that can be sold?(should it)

I think it should be the other way around so I'd actually want to sleep with a virgin.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)

They're awesome if your sense of accomplishment comes from choosing not to get things done.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

The longer you wait, the more catching up you'll have to do. Go for it.

 

[Drummah]

Wait for love.

But not a big deal

 

[kasperbbs]

Threw it away the first chance i got. It's not anyones business what you do with it and if you even care.

 

[chris89300]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

It's not a big deal, people are just shallow if they make fun of it. Just take it easy and don't let it bother you, lose it when it feels right to YOU.

 

[Gladion]

If you're above the age of 8 and STILL a virgin, you can basically drop yourself off a bridge, because you wasted your life. Just my take on the topic.

 

[Project_Xii]

*It's no biggie, just a personal "goal" for most people in life, especially during high school.

*Nah, not sacred. The only reason people believe that is because of religion. If religion had never classed it that way, it would probably mean a lot less

*Definitely not something that should be sold. Selling of the body for any reason is not great.

*The rings are completely and utterly stupid.... unless they're being applied in a small town where there's literally nothing else to do? Might help keep down teen pregnacy I suppose...

*Marriage is outdated, and the concept of waiting until then is fundamentally flawed, since sex plays a large part in why couples will stay together. Love is a much better reason. Oppurtunity is not as good as love... but hey, it's oppurtunity. People shouldn't waste the much needed practise for when love comes along heh.

 

[templargunman]

not a big deal at all
not sacred at all
Something that can be sold? You mean prostitution? Selling off your virginity seems a bit sleazy...
Promise rings are stupid and just increase sodomy rates.
You should wait for any opportunity you're comfortable with, if that's with some chick you just met at a concert and you have a vague idea what her name was that's fine for you, if it's not until your married I accept that too, but it should be what's comfortable for you, not for your parents or your pastor.