"Wait, you like a fat chick?"

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

That was the most pessimistic and out of touch post in this thread. Yay for you.

Out of touch! Out of God damn touch?! Surely you mean off topic?

Yeah, it did go off topic, I felt OP needed a kick to the crotch for being a bit of a dick to his friends, though I'm not sure how it's pessimistic. I'm kinda running with the whole 'all your relationships will fail' bit this month, you'll see it multiple posts, my next one should have it, but I wouldn't say it's pessimistic.

I dunno, I guess I'm sick of people trying to live a soap opera love life, making things more dramatic than they are, and it's running into my posts more than usual. Regardless, yay for me!

 

[kgpspyguy]

Being overweight tells a lot about the personality of said person, fat people tend to be weak willed a tad selfish, lazy, unmotivated, the list goes on, for me looks dont matter as much...but I want somebody to go jogging with.

 

[Psychedelic Spartan]

Personally, I don't have a problem with people liking girls who are bigger than what is considered "attractive". First of all, they look normal and also, physical appearance isn't the most important part of a relationship. If you like a girl, go for it. Your friends are MASSIVE chucklefucks and you don't need to listen to their opinions. Also, on a lighter note, you won't lose a big girl. A girl who is too skinny could get lost anywhere, under the bed, in a drawer, etc. God, I need to work on my jokes...

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Being fat is a health risk. Doesn't matter if you're "comfortable" or a "real woman" or think you're a "healthy size". You risk health problems. So NO DEAR SILLY ESCAPISTS, BEING FAT IS NOT A PERFECTLY FINE THING TO BE.

That said, your friend is a huge douche and you shouldn't be friends with him anymore.



CAPTCHA: against the grain

Being a man is a health risk.
Having kids is a health risk.
Drinking soda is a health risk.
Genetics is a health risk.

Everything you do or are heightens a risk of something down the road. By your logic everything is not fine.

Driving a car is a health risk...
Hell, nearly everything is a health risk.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Being afraid of percentages is not justification of singling out fat people.

Hell being of a certain race has health risks that can follow you for the rest of your life. Yet I don't see people saying "don't date the darkies."

certain foods from certain races have health risks, yet I don't see people say "don't eat Mexican food."

No matter what you do, you will have health risks. You might as well pick one because you cant escape it.

This is kind of a ludicrous stance to take. Why not do heroin! The smog in the air might give me lung cancer one day!

Yes, there will be health risks no matter what you do. That is no reason to pursue lifestyles or habits that are directly linked to significant health complications. Having your health explode is no picnic. You know that old truism "At least you have your health"? There's a reason for that.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

1. Your friend is stupid an immature.
2. Would the "being made fun of" angle, like someone suggested, really be a factor? If so, how old are you guys that being made fun of is an issue?

I went through insult hell in my past. What people say about me and the girl I like (If we start dating) Would really have no effect on me, it's down to her.

She is a very nice person, has lots of friends, and is quite social. I find no problems with her being made fun of. I could see extreamly shallow people like the guy I mentioned before making fun of me, but that's about it-
I don't really mind what people say about me. If people call me wierd I tell them to get in line.

 

[Dreiko_v1legacy]

TC, here's your white horse and shining armor, sadly the dragon was eaten by your prospective girlfriend thus you'll just have to fight something else....


Alright that was a bit over the top but meh, I find this kind of moral outrage topics annoying enough to warrant it.




People find things attractive and unattractive, people find other people liking the things they find unattractive as something odd. This is a reasonable thing. They could have worded it better but I don't know if they're "asshats" for feeling as they do. I myself recently became aware of a newer friend dating somebody I would consider fat (though that could be debatable to others I suppose) and I did have that "uhh...you find her attractive...really?" thought come up, of course I didn't say anything and I guess that's the difference between the asses and the normal people but that thought popping up isn't the sign of a bad person.


A somewhat shallow thing it is, yes, definitely, shallowness doesn't have any kind of morality attached to it though.

 

[Waaghpowa]

1. Your friend is stupid an immature.
2. Would the "being made fun of" angle, like someone suggested, really be a factor? If so, how old are you guys that being made fun of is an issue?

I went through insult hell in my past. What people say about me and the girl I like (If we start dating) Would really have no effect on me, it's down to her.

She is a very nice person, has lots of friends, and is quite social. I find no problems with her being made fun of. I could see extreamly shallow people like the guy I mentioned before making fun of me, but that's about it-
I don't really mind what people say about me. If people call me wierd I tell them to get in line.

Are you still in highschool? If yes, then I can understand the social ramifications. Though personally, I literally didn't give a shit about any of that when I was in highschool. Just ignore it and tell everyone to fuck off. Worked wonders for me.

 

[ResonanceSD]

Being fat is a health risk. Doesn't matter if you're "comfortable" or a "real woman" or think you're a "healthy size". You risk health problems. So NO DEAR SILLY ESCAPISTS, BEING FAT IS NOT A PERFECTLY FINE THING TO BE.

That said, your friend is a huge douche and you shouldn't be friends with him anymore.



CAPTCHA: against the grain

I agree with both of the above. If you're fine with it, go for it. However, health risk, etc.

 

[tobi the good boy]

I'm kinda getting the feeling from the way the OP types that I need to hear the other people's opinions for myself because I'm getting a very strong sense of bias in this matter.

 

[joeman098]

Being fat is a health risk. Doesn't matter if you're "comfortable" or a "real woman" or think you're a "healthy size". You risk health problems. So NO DEAR SILLY ESCAPISTS, BEING FAT IS NOT A PERFECTLY FINE THING TO BE.

That said, your friend is a huge douche and you shouldn't be friends with him anymore.

I agree with this man While being fat isnt an OK or good thing its not something that just because you are fat you should be shunned from society every one needs love. and who knows with this guys love she could lose weight and become a 10/10 beauty then would would the dumb friend say? Diamonds are not always the beautiful things you see on rings.

 

[Tyrant55]

I'm honestly not sure what's worse on this site at this point. The fat apologists who seem to think that fat cells can be made from thin air if you aren't genetically blessed for a life of skinny-ness, or the people who think that anybody over 150 pounds is going to die at the age of 30.

OT: Yes OP, your friend is an ass. Nobody should tell you who or what you should find attractive, and ultimately it should come down to more personal traits like personality anyway. Good for you for not being shallow.

 

[GenericAmerican]

I would have said the same thing as your friend. BUT only just to piss you off.

Actually believing that. . .well I'd have to punch a fool.

 

[Dethenger]

Spoiler: Obligatory.

Anyone who has a problem with this is shallower than a kiddie pool and should shut the fuck up. As long as you're cool with it, nobody else should care about it. Ain't nothin' wrong with havin' a little jam on your jelly.

Captcha: It will pass

Gandalf's gonna be pissed.

 

[Samurai Silhouette]

Fuck what other people think, if the two of you make each other happy, that's all there is to it. Don't let other people tell you what's good for you.

 

[lettucethesallad]

Your friend seems like an idiot. Now I'm not personally attracted to fat people myself, but they're people like everyone else. Saying they don't deserve a boyfriend just because they have a body type that he doesn't like is just shallow and immature.

 

[righthead]

I wonder what would happen if said friend were pressed to define what exactly defines a person as fat. Like really pin it down, to the finest detail. Like You're Joe Pesci in Goodfellas and she's you when you're funny.

... or something. Kinda lost it halfway through that metaphor.

 

[Spineyguy]

'Ooh! This person seems to be comfortable enough with their body image for it not to be a major concern to them. I'd better object loudly to this.'

I can see why a friend doing this might think they are 'helping', trying to make sure you don't get ridiculed, but that doesn't make it his business.

Also, I wonder if he'd do the same thing if you started dating a really thick girl. Would he say 'Dude, how can you like a stupid chick?' I somewhat doubt that.

I don't think this is 'looking out for your friend', I think it's just straight-up vanity. If it's about your girl at all then it's 'I don't want to be seen with a fat chick!' If not, then it's projection.

Obviously everyone has their opinions but in this case it's damaging to your relationship with the girl and with your 'friend', my advice would be to ignore the crap out of him. If you're going to drop either of the people in question then drop the idiot who can't look past the skin of a person.