What do women find attractive? (Women only)

[iLazy]

Chris Evans, Tom Hiddleston, Chris Hemsworth, Richard Madden and Viggo Mortensen are good examples of males I find attractive.

I tend to go for guys who are around 6 feet, since I'm 5'2". I like the size difference. I'm guessing it's because I've grown up with men who have been over 6 feet, but I just prefer taller guys.

I really like well groomed facial/ body hair. A good beard and nice chest/ happy trail... love it. Not a big fan of back hair.

I also like deeper voices. Fenris, Garrus, Thane, and Alistair are great examples.

Personality though is a make it or break it. Number one is you have to have a sense of humour. I'm sorry, but you got to be able to laugh at a good racist joke or one of those other, if this was on television it would be censored, jokes. I also don't like clingy guys, or guys who want to show the world who they're dating. I really hate it when couples over do it with the PDA. Don't get me wrong, I'll be affectionate, but I'm the let's cuddle in private rather then let's make out on that bench. I also look for intelligence. Sometimes you just wanna lay on a hill, looking at the stars and just talk about... well everything.

Bonus points if they can put up with my shit and I can put up with theirs. I'm so fucking weird sometimes, so if they can accept that, they are golden.

Edit: I FORGOT TO MENTION. I don't care if you are the hottest guy on earth, you have to bath regularly and DO NOT wear a shit load on cologne. Cologne makes me sneeze D:

 

[Tilted_Logic]

Definitely the eyes. What they reveal about the person - even if all they're screaming is "I'm a mystery, come figure me out".

 

[waj9876]

Yo, guy here, I'm gonna post anyway.

Huh...So the only thing keeping me from being attractive to the female populace is that I'm slightly shorter than average, and that I'm slightly out of shape? (I need to get off my ass and move around more. Too much computer.) As I have most of the common things being said.

Not to sound vain, I've got damn pretty eyes and hair. Okay, that totally sounded vain. But it's true. Hopefully. All my life I've been told by girls I have pretty, dark eyes with long eyelashes for a guy. Those same girls were either WAY older than me, or then promptly friend-zoned me, but whatever. Same with my hair...Though that's a more recent thing now that I'm letting it grow out thick and long enough to pass my eyes and nearly touch my shoulders.

Holy crap I sound extremely vain and arrogant about my appearance...Alright, maybe I am a little. Still true though.

 

[MidnightCat]

Eyes. I was served by a guy today who had the most beautiful, clear blue eyes... his slightly-scruffy-but-neat hair and facial hair were nice too. I guess I particularly like dark hair and light eyes.

I think the conclusion we're nearing, if any, is that Viggo Mortensen as Aragorn has almost perfect all-round appeal.

Yessssss.

 

[Micromyni]

"It boils all down to this: a very strong personality. Power, confidence, skills, intelligence. It's all in our genes - we need an alpha male to protect us and to give us healthy children."

Oi! That is generalizing, my good lady! I myself prefer shy guys I can pick up with one hand and dominate the shit out of! >

 

[Colour Scientist]

I'm going to sound pretty shallow next to all of the 'eyes' and 'personality' answers but the OP meant physical attributes and at least I'm being honest.

First and foremost, he has to be broad at the shoulders with a really nice pair of arms. Muscle-y but not overly so. Arms are my thing.

A bit of chest hair is always good and happy-trails are always a plus.

I rarely find myself attracted to guys that are shorter than me or really thin.

Also, I don't like beer-bellies. By that I mean I don't like when a guy's stomach looks abnormally huge compared to the rest of his body. When it's out of proportion, rather than the guy just being big.

 

[ReinWeisserRitter]

I have the desire to say "This is the dumbest topic ever." way too often lately.

Also, I'm not even attracted to men. I'm not even attracted to particular physical traits in women. There's your relevancy.

 

[Xixikal]

It's really about personality for me. Humorous, opinionated but not overwhelmingly so, HAS to like video games - how could they deal with me if they didn't?!
Physically, I like my men how I like my coffee: warm, rich and can keep me up all night.

Heheh, love that one. But in reality, sleek but muscular... if I were to compare them to an animal, it would be a panther. Except the body hair! No chest hair, back hair, or... hair on the buttocks. Accents of European origin are pretty much in the green zone, especially swedish accents for me. I could go on...

 

[Eleima]

Oh wow, what do women find attractive, that's a very vast question, you're going to end up with a boat load of different answers. Now if you're asking what *I* find attractive, well, I guess what I immediately noticed about my hubby was his eyes. And he made me laugh so hard. That would be the two things that caught my attention, the eyes and the great sense of humor. I'm also partial to a nice set of shoulders (broad but not too broad, not steroid infused broad). A deep voice can also give me the chills, but it's not a pre-requisite per se.
In the end, I agree with what some of the previous posters said, it's more the general picture than any specific thing, and personality will also play a major role. You can be the best looking dude in the world, if you're a jerk, that's going to be a major turn off. So be nice, be confident, and work with what you've got. A little confidence can go a long way.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I'm going to sound pretty shallow next to all of the 'eyes' and 'personality' answers but the OP meant physical attributes and at least I'm being honest.

I don't think being attracted to a good body is more shallow than being attracted to a good personality.
In both cases, you're still just aiming to get the best.

In my fantasies, I like big muscolar man. I guess my celebrity crush was Arnold Scwharzenegger when he was still fairly young.
But in real life, I often end up liking men that are nothing like that, just because I love their outgoing and confident personalities. I don't think that makes me any less shallow. "You're not attractive so piss off" is not much different from "you don't have a cool personality so piss off".

While I agree there is nothing wrong with having physical preferences, I disagree that judging someone based on personality is even comparable to judging their physical appearance. Anyone can make the choice to be (to pick a few) kind, compassionate and intellectually curious. However, people can't just decide to be tall, have a chiselled jaw and striking eyes.

Honestly, how can you compare the two? One is how you choose to behave, the other is how you happen to look.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

Ah ha! I am a man! I have invaded this thread! With my penis!

(not literally with my penis, with my figurative penis, my penis in the sense that I'm a... oh never mind)

Anyway. I've been reading this thread with interest and seeing a lot of women say 'good personality, funny, great sense of humour.'

Alright ladies. You walk into a bar, standing at the bar are two men. You're looking for a good time, maybe a boyfriend, and you have two candidates ready and waiting.

Spoiler

Spoiler

Shirt always optional with this guy.

Which one are you going to walk up to?

There is no shame in saying you find physical beauty attractive. I find Chris Hemsworth attractive and I'm a guy (admittedly a biromantic guy but still). I have no problem with saying that he is an amazing specimen of manhood who I would probably gravitate towards before the fat guy with the great sense of humour.

When it comes to choosing which one you'll spend the rest of your life with sure, personality kind of matters. When it comes to picking him out of the nightclub lineup, gotta go with the physical.

Spoiler

 

[Jonluw]

Ah ha! I am a man! I have invaded this thread! With my penis!

(not literally with my penis, with my figurative penis, my penis in the sense that I'm a... oh never mind)

Does that make this another rape thread now?
Damn it, why can't we do anything on this forum without being flooded with rape topics?

 

[bluepilot]

I like them big, whether that be muscles or fat (or a combination of both) I like them big and manly note:by this I do not mean clinically obese). I also like hairy guys, especially chest hair. Personality wise, I want someone funny and sweet who will treat me like a lady.

So hey, line right up. Don't forget the chocolate and flowers.

Oh yeah, big hairy beasts. I like a manly man with a bit of fur on him too.

Yeah, I was so disappointed at the end of "Beauty and the beast" when my big sexy beast turned into this man-girl-child thing...curse his golden locks

I live in Japan and the lack of hairy man-beasts is very disappointing

 

[Tiddles]

These threads are very amusing.

Just to play along other than eyes, hair and hygiene. Shoulders can be really attractive, a great smile is good, humour is important but for me a great understanding of irony is essential. I went on a date with a guy who thought irony related to ironing... I dated him for about 15 minutes blah blah blah aesthetic qualities impinging on the personal etc. 2 cents deposited.

 

[cerealnmuffin]

I like the kinda of writer/ musician/nerdy indie look, a guy with glasses, skinny, no facial hair, and dresses nice. Huge points if they actually play piano or guitar. As for personality, I think a bit of shyness is adorable, someone who I can have conversations with, very sensitive, likes video games but also the arts, and share similar outlooks on life. Hairy or muscled is a turn off for me.

Though to be honest, I lean more towards girls like me, bookwormish nerds with glasses.

 

[trollnystan]

Besides a sense of humour?

I'm a walking cliché; tall, dark and handsome usually does it for me!

Body type... I guess lean and muscular, although I also like the more stocky type.

Spoiler: Famous people I find attractive

Make of that what you will.

 

[theonewhois3]

snipy

Do you often invade threads with your penis?

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

I like them big, whether that be muscles or fat (or a combination of both) I like them big and manly note:by this I do not mean clinically obese). I also like hairy guys, especially chest hair. Personality wise, I want someone funny and sweet who will treat me like a lady.

So hey, line right up. Don't forget the chocolate and flowers.

Yay! Time for me to be creepy and stalkerish over the internet!

Seriously though, the reason I quoted you is because this actually did once get me a girl. She really liked the hairy chest thing, and being an ex high school rugby player who at the time was still in pretty good shape didn't hurt. When I grew a goatee it was like she couldn't get enough of me.

I have definitely found that recently being a big guy with actual muscles and hair instead of a skinny hairless thing has started to be a detriment. I'm a musician by trade, and I always see the skinny effeminate dudes getting the chicks instead of me. Very disappointing.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I'm going to sound pretty shallow next to all of the 'eyes' and 'personality' answers but the OP meant physical attributes and at least I'm being honest.

I don't think being attracted to a good body is more shallow than being attracted to a good personality.
In both cases, you're still just aiming to get the best.

In my fantasies, I like big muscolar man. I guess my celebrity crush was Arnold Scwharzenegger when he was still fairly young.
But in real life, I often end up liking men that are nothing like that, just because I love their outgoing and confident personalities. I don't think that makes me any less shallow. "You're not attractive so piss off" is not much different from "you don't have a cool personality so piss off".

Oh, don't get me wrong, the personality has to be there too and is probably definitely more important. I just assumed the OP was just about physical attributes.