What do you find unattractive or turns you off?

[Singularly Datarific]

I find it unattractive if they are too muscular. Don't overdue it at the gym. Also, girls with unreasonable mood swings.

Whaaat? What's wrong with musc-

Oh.

Anyways, it's never one particular thing for me- instead just a general thing about personality and how we interact.
I suppose I don't like people without self-esteem. We're all equal, there's no point in moping around if you think you're not as good in some respect. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS. Everybody is different in respects, so stop focusing on the little things. They are little.

 

[Wapox]

excessive splashing of Perfume... Heck I'd rather just smell clean hair and well... I'm a sucker for cute face.. so an ugly/disorderly (not meaning quirks.. I like quirks) face would turn me off.. possibly a PARTY DRINK DANCE PARTY DRINK DANCE lifestyle puts me off as well... I'm too quiet for that.. although a good party never hurts.. just not every weekend from Thu-Sun morning. ah... what I wouldn't give for a "normal" female to have a rel.. with


Oh and religion... Stop telling me about it and keep it to yourself and I might accept it... don't try to change me.. I like me... probably moreso than you..

 

[Dags90]

Oh they were named after a Mr Cardigan? Cardigans are not in my opinion a mans piece of clothing. Much like low V-Neck tops. Yick.

Actually, the Earl of Cardigan. Your opinion is contrary to history, I'm afraid. Cardigans have been enjoyed by Earls and fishermen alike for their warmth and utility.

 

[damselgaming]

Oh they were named after a Mr Cardigan? Cardigans are not in my opinion a mans piece of clothing. Much like low V-Neck tops. Yick.

Actually, the Earl of Cardigan. Your opinion is contrary to history, I'm afraid. Cardigans have been enjoyed by Earls and fishermen alike for their warmth and utility.

Seriously? You learn something new every day. I just hope this isn't like the time my Dad told me flip-flops were named after Phillipe Phillop, a french inventor... bad times.

 

[Casual Shinji]

Being a stupid *****, i.e. being highly unintelligent and having an extremely nasty character.

I could nitpick about smoking or looks, but it mainly comes down to how emotionally comfortable I feel with someone.

 

[___________________]

Males.

 

[Ryank1908]

Smoking - probably the most stupid thing humanity is refusing to let go of, and is so, so, so unattractive. You smoke ---> You are either stupid (You think its cool) or you're feeble (Seriously. Get a grip and give it up).

I actually just enjoy smoking. Is that so abhorrent?

More on-topic, I'll split it into physical turn-offs and personality turn-offs.

Physical - Bad skin. One of the biggest attractions for me is if a girl has a really nice, clear, porcelain complexion; it's one of the first things I notice. If she's got marks and acne and tan lines all over the shop it puts me off. Make-up and over-tanning are big no-no's too. Give me a redheaded girl with nice eyes and a china-doll complexion, and I'll start believing in god.

Personality - No emotional or intellectual depth, or indeed, a little too much of it. If a girl has nothing to talk about but shit she's seen in a magazine or gossip about her friends, then I won't be able to stand her company for more than ten seconds. Then again, if she's arrogantly spouting philosophy pertinent to what exactly it is that I'm doing wrong or don't understand, same deal. Finding a balance is a big deal for me.

 

[ZeroMachine]

Definitely smoking.

Smoking, and, although this may be a given, lying.

Had to deal with both at the end of the last one...

I think the key factor would be 'excessive or addictive'. So smoking, hard drugs, alcoholism (because very few of us would be against a partner getting a little trashed every now and then, but most of us would be against him/her being a chronic drinker).

So yeah, for me the biggest turn offs are addictions and that thig where people go that bit too far (with anything really, whether it be the gym, pets, talking about games, whatever, there is just that point where it goes from 'interest/hobby/whatever to 'obsession/compulsion'). So really, the things that turn me off are things that are 'too far', it's hard to explain, but if you've seen it happen then you'll know exactly what I'm talking about.

Nope, that's not it for me at all. Smoking literally disgusts me. I have nothing against the people that do smoke- it's just that if someone does smoke, I can't sit next to them until their smell goes away. It's that bad.

I just assumed that the smell was a given to be honest. I mean, I feel the same way about the smell (sometimes it can be a challenge just to not cringe when I walk past smokers, just from the smell alone), but I figured that if your partner had a medical reason for an occasional cigarette (let's say on average, two a month) and only lied to you for a very good reason, and only a couple times at most, you probably wouldn't be so turned off by it.

Before, definitely, but we're talking "I caught her with a pack and she started smoking regularly and lied to me about it to my face".

Which, by the way, was also a broken promise, as she promised she never smoked and never would. We were planning on moving in together at the time that happened, so that's a rather major thing (though, for the record, it was only one of MANY majorly fucked up things that contributed to our break up).

Also, what sort of medical reason would there be to smoke a cigarette?

Irritable Bowel Syndrome

Which, incidentally one would find a turnoff, I'm assuming

... Hm... yeah. I'd... I'd say so.

Also, what sort of medical reason would there be to smoke a cigarette?

http://www.mosquitomagnetdepot.com/info/mosquitoinfo.html

If it's the only defence you've got, it might be worth the risks, but I'd suggest using it like a joss stick instead.

Is it just me, or does "joss stick" sound like what Joss Whedon would call his penis?

 

[Oisin XD]

A friend of mine once dated a smoker... He said kissing her was like licking an ashtray... Nice.

While i guess religion wouldn't rule a girl out completely for me, it would still make us incompatible, since I would be picking it apart all the time.

Makeup. Lips and eyes? Fine. Foundation or concealer or whatever, that makes your finger sticky when you touch her face? gtfo.

Obesity. Pretty common turn-off. Tattoos as well. I will openly call anyone with a tattoo an idiot. To their face. Even to family. Has yielded some pretty negative responses, but it's principle.

Stupidity. If I can't have some sort of intelligent conversation, I get bored and frustrated really fast. The alternative is just to listen to my incessant rambling about physics, robotics, AI, politics and ethics, while pretending to still be interested. That works too.

Of course, I am by no means perfect myself, especially because I have a nasty habit of criticizing others as if I am.

(I am not being a hypocrite, btw. I am not guilty of any of the above, although stupidity is sort of subjective, I suppose.)

 

[Dr Snakeman]

As many have already mentioned, smoking is a huge turn-off. It stinks, I don't want to have to breathe it in. Also, if you smoke, it's clear that you don't care about yourself, so why should I?

This might sound like a really dickish thing to say, but... no fat chicks. Don't get me wrong; there's a bit of body type variance between skinny and fat, but once that threshold is crossed... no thanks.

Finally, and most importantly, stupid and/or mean chicks. If I can't carry on a conversation with you without wanting to punch myself in the face repeatedly, I'm not going to be attracted to you.

As a side note, I actually think that tattoos can be attractive. If she's already pretty, and the tat is high quality and not some skanky crap, it can really be quite beautiful.

 

[Keepitclean]

Being fat is a massive turn off. Being active is a massive part of my life and being fat generally indicates that she is sedentary and unhealthy. Being fat is also aesthetically displeasing. It's so much worse if they are proud of it too.

The other major one is being religious. Not like a lot of people who believe in little bits here and there and are non practising. The people that are preachy. I saw a girl a couple of times who had let her Christianity define her as a person and she tried to put it on me too. I had none of it and promptly got the fuck out of there.

This doesn't mean that I don't like religious girls. One of my best friends is a creationist but she has so much more to offer as a person that it doesn't matter. I didn't know she was a creationist until after I had been friends with her for months and it's not like she hides it.

Personality - No emotional or intellectual depth, or indeed, a little too much of it. If a girl has nothing to talk about but shit she's seen in a magazine or gossip about her friends, then I won't be able to stand her company for more than ten seconds. Then again, if she's arrogantly spouting philosophy pertinent to what exactly it is that I'm doing wrong or don't understand, same deal. Finding a balance is a big deal for me.

I wouldn't call call arrogantly spouting of philosophy "depth" by any standard. I often find that people who do just that are trying too hard to cover for something.

 

[Dags90]

Seriously? You learn something new every day. I just hope this isn't like the time my Dad told me flip-flops were named after Phillipe Phillop, a french inventor... bad times.

That they're so utilitarian should shine a hint at their historical manliness. A lot of modern fashion was once strictly men's fashion. Even the captcha is backing me up on the Earl of Cardigan.

 

[imagremlin]

Stupidity. Closely followed by the ever popular smoking

 

[Rayne870]

ribs, i dont like seeing girls that are horrendously skinny. in fact if a girl is less than 130 lbs at 5'6" i wont look twice at her.

 

[Berethond]

Feet!

This so, so much. Bare feet are disgusting. Please don't make me look at them.

 

[thirion1850]

Arrogance, ignorance, stupidity, obesity, no interest or ability to keep things intriguing, the extreme of bad looks or sense of style aaaaaaaaaand... yeah, I know you might say I need to lower my standards, but these are probably staples for many.

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

Not crazy. Seriously if a girl is all well-adjusted and ordinary i get bored really quickly.

 

[valkeminator]

Smoking and Arrogance. I've had my shares with arrogant girls, and yeah... its a pretty big turn off...

Weight and body size may pose as an issue, but in the end I guess its all in the face for me.

 

[Keepitclean]

Oh, and short fingers. They freak me the fuck out.

Same here, I don't know why. It's not like I have a hand fetish or anything. The religious girl that I mentioned in another post on this thread had hands like that. She had normal sized pal but her fingers and her thumb in particular was tiny. It really stood out because she wore a thumb ring.