Well, I don't really look for anything, because I don't really actively seek for any girls. However, that's not what you're really asking, so I'll stop trying to be clever.
The single most important thing, for me, the one thing that it all depends on, is respect. If I couldn't respect her as an equal, or possibly more, it just wouldn't feel worth two shits. I don't care if that person's the most incredible-looking thing in the world (although it should be noted my ideals of beauty are rather weird), or the funniest or what have you. If I can't find that respect, I don't think I could really care about it. I just can't see myself having "a bit of fun" or what have you.
And as to what will make me respect someone, that's a rather complex question. Respect, after all, isn't something that springs up fast. But, in the end, I respect people for many reasons. What I respect her for (yeah, contrary to popular belief and to the shock of many, there's a her), is the fact that she's a genuinely good, genuinely intelligent, headstrong person who isn't afraid to disagree or think for herself. She's someone I can trust and talk to about anything, honestly and without even a smidgeon of shitfaced superiority. I'd respect her, no matter what happened and however all of this ended up going. And I respected her before there was any recognition of anything even possibly happening or ending up in any way. That she's genuinely what I think is one of the prettiest, most beautiful things ever, is just a nice, but ultimately inconsequential bonus. And possibly causation and not correlation. But nevertheless.
And if she, by some miracle, happens to be reading this, then thank you, once again, for everything.
Someone's going to tell you that it just won't happen like that, and you're naive or some shit. But really, these things do happen. They really do, and there's something incredibly honest about it all. Something genuinely good.
The single most important thing, for me, the one thing that it all depends on, is respect. If I couldn't respect her as an equal, or possibly more, it just wouldn't feel worth two shits. I don't care if that person's the most incredible-looking thing in the world (although it should be noted my ideals of beauty are rather weird), or the funniest or what have you. If I can't find that respect, I don't think I could really care about it. I just can't see myself having "a bit of fun" or what have you.
And as to what will make me respect someone, that's a rather complex question. Respect, after all, isn't something that springs up fast. But, in the end, I respect people for many reasons. What I respect her for (yeah, contrary to popular belief and to the shock of many, there's a her), is the fact that she's a genuinely good, genuinely intelligent, headstrong person who isn't afraid to disagree or think for herself. She's someone I can trust and talk to about anything, honestly and without even a smidgeon of shitfaced superiority. I'd respect her, no matter what happened and however all of this ended up going. And I respected her before there was any recognition of anything even possibly happening or ending up in any way. That she's genuinely what I think is one of the prettiest, most beautiful things ever, is just a nice, but ultimately inconsequential bonus. And possibly causation and not correlation. But nevertheless.
And if she, by some miracle, happens to be reading this, then thank you, once again, for everything.
And, really, that's the best way. Getting to know someone without any hidden goals and learning to like and respect someone for the sake of just liking and respecting her and not because you want a relationship. If that goes somewhere, then the foundation for it will be strong as hell.Estocavio said:
Someone's going to tell you that it just won't happen like that, and you're naive or some shit. But really, these things do happen. They really do, and there's something incredibly honest about it all. Something genuinely good.
