what freaks you out the most about women or men ?

[dragoness]

sorry about the huge quote, but in my experience, (being a nice guy myself) nice guys are often shy... and very self-conscious. the nicer the guy, the more likely he's been taken advantage of and/or lead on by a vindictive ex, and so they write off all but the *most* obvious signals as friendly flirtation, and don't know where to go from there.
As a general rule, the nice guys will be nervous as hell, but will treat you with more respect than you'd think was possible before giving one a chance.

i dunno, i did manage to find one nice guy, and he was fabulous. i mean, we actually dated! not this, i'll hang out in your dorm room, you hang out in mine. granted he was 10 years older then me, and much more learned. however, when he moved, it kinda went downhill from there. now i feel like the evil woman from his past whenever i call and or he buys me college books cause "damnit, you're working full time just to pay for tuition, you shouldn't have to pay for books too". -sigh- i really miss him T_T

 

[Takoto]

Girls who wear a ton of make-up scare me, and boys who have extremely short hair scare me.

:c

 

[Jonatron]

Unfortunately, it's likely far too cryptic for a good, kind, nice guy (With possible bad Intellectual Whore issues and a lack of experience). It's very friendly, but, that's it. It's really friendly. Like a female friend, not a girl friend. How to change that? I have no clue... I do hope you find the solution. It's a right bugger of a situation to be found in.

What would be a suitable way to go about things? Owch. If you have some mildly succesful, wise, and irresputably sound female friend (The male versions are fairly widespread, often the 'taken' of the old addage) and find from them, how they signal to the average nice guy, they'll give you a much better answer than any guy could.
Again, I wish you luck. As an alone (and what I'd consider, 'nice') guy, I feel your problem. (But the reputation pool of high school! Tank-ish, nerdy, and undeniably pequliar, I simply have to wait it out until further eduation and beyond and hope that lack of experience isn't a major crippler.)
(If anyone says offtopic, I shall unleash my internetfacestab device to the world!)

Maybe Alpha males? Gah, darn cave man patterns...

How conservatively?

LOL. i've given up on hanging out with women. reason: all they care to talk about is 1. shopping, 2. that cute guy (he's not cute!), 3. how soon their next baby is due, 4. does this make me look fat?, 5. i need a new pair of (insert clothing article here), 6. etc. yea. i got sick of that. my last female friend moved off to another version of the same college. as for a male friend, he lives a few states away. i used to fall into a few cliques in highschool. but once i hit college, everything meshed together, and no one picked on me anymore. ^_^ and i have yet to see an alpha male. more like alpha p***ies.

as for dressing, i wear jeans(all year, mostly. i detest skirts. if you have to learn how to sit, to not show everything off.... yea, no.) and either comfortable, not kinky sweaters (in winter) or t-shirts in summer. i used to wear tank tops, or spaghetti strap tops, but that was before i moved north and in with my grandmother >.<

Fair enough on the skirts. I've never understood how they put up with the hassle. (Same goes for bags. I've got my first 'manbag' and... my shoulder cries every day. Not to mention makes me look like a right nancy(the wincing, not the manbag).
Kinky sweaters? I must investigate.

You do sound like a pretty sound person to hang around with, but it'd seem you're missing something subtle. Experiment? There must be something you're missing. Something simple.

 

[dragoness]

The fact that men talk about bodily functions like if they were the most amazing thing ever.

Same here.
I'm not a big fan of crude humor, which is why I have exactly 0 guy friends.

But what about us guys here on the Interweb?

On topic: The way women overreact to things. It gets to the point of hilarity at times.

true! used to be every single thing that happened to me made me go "ouch". prodding, poking, pulling hair, smacking my back. yea. i even lost a toenail, only it didn't hurt, and i said ouch anyways. >.<

 

[dragoness]

Fair enough on the skirts. I've never understood how they put up with the hassle. (Same goes for bags. I've got my first 'manbag' and... my shoulder cries every day. Not to mention makes me look like a right nancy(the wincing, not the manbag).
Kinky sweaters? I must investigate.

You do sound like a pretty sound person to hang around with, but it'd seem you're missing something subtle. Experiment? There must be something you're missing. Something simple.

i still to this day, don't like carrying purses. i fear i'll forget where i put it, or that i had one at all. i love jeans, cause my back pocket IS my purse. got everything i do and don't need XD

kinky sweaters are those obnoxious things that cling to stomachs, making breasts look larger then they really are. and they are like so low cut, that you might not be wearing a shirt. more a push-em-up-throw-em-out kinda thing. -cringe- i prefer boatnecks with a possibility of letting maybe a part of a shoulder out. anything more.... i'd have to seriously consider my actions of the day

i don't see what i could be missing on though! that's my issue. if perhaps someone were to hang out with me, but then say what my issues were, then that would help like a TON. but none of my "friends" ever offered up that. maybe i'm too clingy?

 

[Jonatron]

Girls who wear a ton of make-up scare me

This. Who said Terracotta was attractive? Hell, I live in scotland, where ghostly white is natural. It looks BLOODY FREAKISH to be bright orange.

 

[Jonatron]

Fair enough on the skirts. I've never understood how they put up with the hassle. (Same goes for bags. I've got my first 'manbag' and... my shoulder cries every day. Not to mention makes me look like a right nancy(the wincing, not the manbag).
Kinky sweaters? I must investigate.

You do sound like a pretty sound person to hang around with, but it'd seem you're missing something subtle. Experiment? There must be something you're missing. Something simple.

i still to this day, don't like carrying purses. i fear i'll forget where i put it, or that i had one at all. i love jeans, cause my back pocket IS my purse. got everything i do and don't need XD

kinky sweaters are those obnoxious things that cling to stomachs, making breasts look larger then they really are. and they are like so low cut, that you might not be wearing a shirt. more a push-em-up-throw-em-out kinda thing. -cringe- i prefer boatnecks with a possibility of letting maybe a part of a shoulder out. anything more.... i'd have to seriously consider my actions of the day

i don't see what i could be missing on though! that's my issue. if perhaps someone were to hang out with me, but then say what my issues were, then that would help like a TON. but none of my "friends" ever offered up that. maybe i'm too clingy?

Well, your guy friends wouldn't be impartial, unfortunately. Change of dress could affect things. Which colours do you tend to wear? Other than the traditional blue of denim.

 

[dragoness]

Fair enough on the skirts. I've never understood how they put up with the hassle. (Same goes for bags. I've got my first 'manbag' and... my shoulder cries every day. Not to mention makes me look like a right nancy(the wincing, not the manbag).
Kinky sweaters? I must investigate.

You do sound like a pretty sound person to hang around with, but it'd seem you're missing something subtle. Experiment? There must be something you're missing. Something simple.

i still to this day, don't like carrying purses. i fear i'll forget where i put it, or that i had one at all. i love jeans, cause my back pocket IS my purse. got everything i do and don't need XD

kinky sweaters are those obnoxious things that cling to stomachs, making breasts look larger then they really are. and they are like so low cut, that you might not be wearing a shirt. more a push-em-up-throw-em-out kinda thing. -cringe- i prefer boatnecks with a possibility of letting maybe a part of a shoulder out. anything more.... i'd have to seriously consider my actions of the day

i don't see what i could be missing on though! that's my issue. if perhaps someone were to hang out with me, but then say what my issues were, then that would help like a TON. but none of my "friends" ever offered up that. maybe i'm too clingy?

Well, your guy friends wouldn't be impartial, unfortunately. Change of dress could affect things. Which colours do you tend to wear? Other than the traditional blue of denim.

ah, i have a pair of green jeans, but most of my shirts range from teal to red. maybe a pinky/purply thing, or a black one or two. i've even got a gray one with a cat wearing a bowler hat on it. XD

 

[Terramax]

and I guess there's more interesting things to say about a bad boyfriend than a good one?

i disagree. i don't always go for the a-holes. sometimes i get stuck with them. sometimes the nice guys don't seem interested, and this guy here, who'll sleep around(cheating on me for 3 weeks) before finally ditching me before prom, seems like the perfect dude!

That's what I was getting at. Women find nice guys uninteresting. The cheaters are the ones that apparently have the interesting lives.

bull! it's the a-holes that pay attention to you, after your advances on the nice guy fail! or after he moves to another state, no matter how close he was to you T_T

Sorry I misread your post. I thought you said the nice guy isn't interesting.

Although it's different where I'm at. All my lying, cheating friends can't shake the girls off, whilst the nice guy can't anything for begging.

 

[Jonatron]

Fair enough on the skirts. I've never understood how they put up with the hassle. (Same goes for bags. I've got my first 'manbag' and... my shoulder cries every day. Not to mention makes me look like a right nancy(the wincing, not the manbag).
Kinky sweaters? I must investigate.

You do sound like a pretty sound person to hang around with, but it'd seem you're missing something subtle. Experiment? There must be something you're missing. Something simple.

i still to this day, don't like carrying purses. i fear i'll forget where i put it, or that i had one at all. i love jeans, cause my back pocket IS my purse. got everything i do and don't need XD

kinky sweaters are those obnoxious things that cling to stomachs, making breasts look larger then they really are. and they are like so low cut, that you might not be wearing a shirt. more a push-em-up-throw-em-out kinda thing. -cringe- i prefer boatnecks with a possibility of letting maybe a part of a shoulder out. anything more.... i'd have to seriously consider my actions of the day

i don't see what i could be missing on though! that's my issue. if perhaps someone were to hang out with me, but then say what my issues were, then that would help like a TON. but none of my "friends" ever offered up that. maybe i'm too clingy?

Well, your guy friends wouldn't be impartial, unfortunately. Change of dress could affect things. Which colours do you tend to wear? Other than the traditional blue of denim.

ah, i have a pair of green jeans, but most of my shirts range from teal to red. maybe a pinky/purply thing, or a black one or two. i've even got a gray one with a cat wearing a bowler hat on it. XD

Hmm... It could be worthwhile to try out some vibrant, well picked colours? Other than appealing to the basic emotional triggers brought on by exposure to colours... You could always sell out and go for a trashy look! (Although, you don't want to be selling out on morales, and you don't want to shock gran, no doubt. A joke, anyway.)

I doubt trained professionals could be any use, either. Things always have to be so complex and inexplicable... And those in a position to help you, are either unwilling, unknowing, or in more bother themselves...

 

[dragoness]

@terra: well, if he's got a personality, and looks sudo-decent, i'd be willing to give any nice guy a try. just trying to find some around here that's nearly impossible.

@jon: i've got this one shirt, but it kinda doesn't mix well with college atmosphere, and cashier work >.< it's like orange, purple, green, and pink, collaged together, with shoulders showing, and a little bit of a lower cut then i'm used to. if i could find a function that let me wear that, i'm sure i'd get attention. but classrooms and workplaces? totally outrageous.

 

[Jonatron]

@terra: well, if he's got a personality, and looks sudo-decent, i'd be willing to give any nice guy a try. just trying to find some around here that's nearly impossible.

@jon: i've got this one shirt, but it kinda doesn't mix well with college atmosphere, and cashier work >.< it's like orange, purple, green, and pink, collaged together, with shoulders showing, and a little bit of a lower cut then i'm used to. if i could find a function that let me wear that, i'm sure i'd get attention. but classrooms and workplaces? totally outrageous.

I do wonder how folk can wear quite outrageous stuff with no woes, myself. Uh. Both gender's minorities are all screwed, it seems. There must be something amuck. (If I come across pesimistic, I am.)

 

[dragoness]

yea. it's kinda sad. i'm sick of seeing guys boxers in public, cause their pants hang so far down. i myself feel embarrassed when my rump hangs out enough at work to feel a breeze. fricking low rise pants + short shirt. i finally broke down and went to american eagle to get some decent shirts. they are nice and long. hurray for long shirts! and i certainly don't wanna see some chicks stomach hanging out cause she thinks either her new hooker tattoo looks cute, or her new belly button ring is adorable! -gagging sound-

 

[dragoness]

yea, sorry, i'm no blond bombshell with fake boobs, and dyed hair. though i did go raspberry kamikaze once. that was really cool looking. and black. but -shrug- i guess no one is perfect, right?

 

[Shadowfaze]

yea. it's kinda sad. i'm sick of seeing guys boxers in public, cause their pants hang so far down. i myself feel embarrassed when my rump hangs out enough at work to feel a breeze. fricking low rise pants + short shirt. i finally broke down and went to american eagle to get some decent shirts. they are nice and long. hurray for long shirts! and i certainly don't wanna see some chicks stomach hanging out cause she thinks either her new hooker tattoo looks cute, or her new belly button ring is adorable! -gagging sound-

yes, the whole low trousers thing is quite a baffling phenomenon- it makes me quite embaressed for my gender.

 

[yeah_so_no]

"At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them."

- Gavin DeBecker, ?The Gift of Fear?

What freaks me out about men? Men are bigger, stronger, and too many men honestly seem to feel entitled to sex (because face it, the stats are 1 in 4 women will be raped in her life, and that means that there are quite a lot of rapists out there. And since most women are raped by men they know...yeah).

every one keep it on the down low i dont want to be hit by the ban hammer

You ask a question like this, and yes, if people are being truthful, answers like mine will come up. People can argue, but the truth is, women have every right to fear men, especially men they know.

One in three teenage girls has suffered sexual abuse from a boyfriend and one in four has experienced violence in a relationship. [http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2009/sep/01/teenage-sexual-abuse-nspcc-report] And the fact that one of the leading causes of death for pregnant women is homicide [http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/20316.php].

Y'all talk about being freaked out about the fact that women bleed. I'm freaked out because men can and DO make women bleed.

 

[dragoness]

not just guys they know either. if you have step-brothers..... yea. it's not fun. or step-dads. cause mom never believes what her girls are telling her.

 

[dragoness]

oh another thought. why do guys have to wear so much cologne that the after smell lingers for like 15 minutes after he walks out of the room? seriously i'm still smelling axe and this guy whoever he was, left the gym, walked by the "multipurpose room" like 15-20 minutes ago! >.> not saying axe is a bad smell, but jeezum! if it's that potent, don't do it!!!!!!