What is Love? Does it exist?

[Legion IV]

Yes, people describe love to be a chemical reaction within the body or that it's just an urge to want a family, or primarily sex. Honestly, love has much more meaning. It doesn't even have to be love for your wife or husband. Love can be the matter of accepting someone or something so close that despite it's flaws, you wouldn't leave it for that.

This is exactly the thing I think is impossible. There will never be a point where love involves accepting someone despite their flaws. If someone becomes hurt, or changes, love will not keep others nearby. The others will always leave. When it stops being advantageous to the individual, they will leave. For example, say someone suffers an accident and becomes physically disabled or disfigured. Who will stand by him? No one. No matter how close they were before, the individuals friends would find the time they spend with him more and more strained, less and less enjoyable. Eventually, they will leave.

It's only logical.

Only gonna respond because of how wrong you are, from my personel experiances.

Oh fwaks i never really liked you from all the hate you gave me months ago but it was fun, you always seemed happy. I hate to see anyone upset but am more annoyned by your current attitude.

I know its been said 100 times but am gonna say the same thing. The only reason your saying all this crap is cause your hurt thats it. Your upset about a relationship and you now feel love is just nothing. Comon man, be the smart fwaks i use to know. It just your emotions going crazy, i had the same thing happen everyone whos been in a relationship as had this happen. Half the crap your feeling is all chemicals. who knows how long it will take for you to recover and become the good old fwaks this forum loves. 6 months? 5 years? I dunno but it wont be like this forever unless you force itn to be this way.

Now for you asinine statement. You say once it inconveniences someone they'll leave simple as that bullshit. A quik story moment that ruines everything you said.

Many a millenia ago, i met this little girl forget exatcly when but it was at a park, me being much older i didnt really care but she was playing gameboy, was playing pokomon gold i think if i remember. She told me about all these pokomon asked me what i had and how we should duel our pokomon, such exitcment in her eyes lol. I was all bleh about it cause yet again am older its not cool to hang with the younger kids. We played pokomon every few days when we would see eacthother at the park (i go for a walk everyday and i always go past the park)

Now fast forward, she got into this big car accident from this fucking idiot driver on the way to the park. Cant even remember how shocked i was, I was on very good terms with her parents i practicly the big brother to her. I biked all the way to the hospital and you couldnt beileve how bad it was. You have this little girl not even a teenager in a bed bandages everywhere. She lost an eye terrible scars everywhere. a huge one on her left arm. They thought she was going to die. I spent all my time at the hospital, i nver went to class, failed so much stuff everything you could think of thats an "Inconvenience" She turned out alright, some scars will never be gone, she still has a huge one on her left arm so she wears this really long wool glove over it which is now a staple in her style. Were best friends still, Am taking her to a fighting game tournament in a few days in which we've been practicing for, the people there dont care about her scars, they just know she has a kick ass Dormamu,Doom,Sentinal mvc3 team. I did all this for a girl i hardley knew iut all started out with Pokomon. Even though i was like 4 months behind in school and all that other shit (Try getting a phone call at 3 in the morning from her folks because shes crying her eyes out and since your her gaurdian figure you have to go there and hold her till she can go back to sleep because shes depressed that every kid makes fun of her because of her scars).

I dont regreat doing any of it, i'll do it again for her if i have to. Shes not blood, shes my fiance just my best friend.

So fwaks i hope you recover and think diffrently.

If you honestly think your gonna stay this way and be that cold all i have to say is.
I hope all your friends find out this veiw of you and just leave you and stop hanging with you because your basically a gaint leach then. If i don't get enjoyment out of our friendship were done, your just my entertainment, disgusting.

 

[Ugert]

As I just went through the breakup between my fiancee and I, I can actually say love does exist. It's not logical, and often makes no sense whatsoever. In fact, I can say with absolute certitude that love is the most illogical and honestly sometimes just plain dumb emotion in the universe. I've had my fiancee in my life for 7 years, and proposed to her 2 years ago. I have learned through this time that love is the ability to put aside whatever problems you have to listen and help with their problems; to give them absolute support in whatever they do, even if it means leaving you; It's realizing that you really do care for them more than yourself.

Actually, Least I Could Do said it perfectly :
http://leasticoulddo.com/comic/20040520


Really, I can't begin to express how painful love can be, but it's something that everyone should really experience. This is the reason for our existence; to see if we can put aside our ego and truly give another person all the attention and care that we all need.

 

[Ladette]

Love is playing Borderlands with your fiancee, then having sex with her.

It's awesome.

I suppose I should put something in there about getting on very well together, knowing each other very well, blah blah blah.

Love is just one of those things that's hard to explain. Those who've never been in love, are the least qualified to try and describe it.

When you fall in love, you know. It's as easy as that.

Wow....I was going to say something about love being different for everyone, but this post is just brilliant. It's kind of like a tingling sensation that makes you goofy, it isn't something that you can just analyze and look at logically, and there's really no way to define it.

Or maybe......
Some say love it is a river
that drowns the tender reed
Some say love it is a razer
that leaves your soul to bleed

 

[PrototypeC]

I don't understand people who say Love doesn't exist. Of course it exists, we wouldn't bother with other people otherwise! We wouldn't survive as a species! If they ask about True Love, that's a little thornier.

I'm curious what other people think. Is there such a thing as true love? Or is it merely a thing our mind does to trick us in order to propagate the species, or is it a societal norm that has been reinforced over time? Feel free to share your own thoughts and opinions.

A lot of the greatest deeds done by mankind have been done out of basic needs... sure, logically Love is part of a larger whole that involves lust, attraction, a certain amount of overlooking another person's flaws, all out of physical reactions... but logic isn't the be-all end-all. Just because all human feelings begin with "survival" and "procreation" as the center of them, doesn't make them ignoble or unimportant. The human mind is more complex than that.

If you ask me, Love is easy to find. When two people say they're in Love like that makes everything perfect, I worry a little bit. Just think, off the top of your head, how many movies end with everything OK just because two people fell in Love?

True Love... I think it's a beautiful, wonderful and utterly strange thing when two people Love each other to the point of self-sacrifice, to the point of doing literally anything to bring their chosen other happiness. I respect that. I respect it, just as I respect scientists, doctors, God and death; because it's beyond me and I don't understand it. I want to fall in Love that way someday, to be so happy and lost in another person that even my logic fails me. There's something special in that.

 

[spartandude]

Love may only be a chemical reaction and electronic current going on in the brain to cause us to have sex. But we still give it meaning, its still important to us

 

[darthotaku]

according to Renne "I think therefore I am guy" Descartes, the only true given one has is that one exists by virtue of concience, love is an emotional state either caused by true feelings for a person or an emotional illusion through lust. either way, love is completely in the consiousness of the individual, therefore love exists if you believe it exists.
however the person you love may just be an illusion.

 

[CarlMin]

Trust me. Love exists

 

[Yopaz]

Infatuation is when we get chemical signals that tell us we've seen someone we want to use in the process of repoduction.
Love is what makes us stay and take care of the kids we've made.
Those instincts are however repressed to some degree, but they're still instincts, it's needed and it's as real as any other emotion.

 

[googleback]

1. the most powerful force in the universe! though not as powerful as chloroform.
2. yes.

 

[ReligiousNutEruption]

I believe in a thing called love. Just listen to the rhythm of my heart.

 

[PrototypeC]

This seems to me like some way to whine about a past relationship on the internet. You raised a question up and when Daystar Clarion tried explaining to you, you used this thread as an excuse to whine about your previous relationship and try to garner some sympathy. In fact all you've been doing this entire thread is been giving out bits and pieces of a sob story that happened to you. Sorry that happened but you shouldn't be on the internet complaining about it.

I choose to hear the question I wish they were asking, rather than accept the OP's attempts to tell their story. It's an internet defense mechanism!

 

[ReligiousNutEruption]

Love is complicated. We've all been there, and everyone finds meaning eventually.

Yes, I've been there - and it almost destroyed me. I have since vowed never to bow to the tyranny of that horrific, despicable feeling ever again.

You sound like one of the goth kids from South Park.

 

[Jegsimmons]

some people describe love as being with someone you can always talk to.
i say its being with someone you dont need to say anything to.

you know what i'm talking about.

 

[mortalkiller]

my opinion is that people try to be together for a few reasons neighter of those are love

people get together to ''not be alone''

meaning they just want to be accepted and liked by the other person

i though about it an found that people who like the other person only for themself so satisfy

their self esteem are egocentric and deserve no attention

then there are people who just want to have sex and after a few ''hook ups'' they leave

and they dont even care about the other

then there are people who look for ''true love'' and will never find it since they are egotist

and are mostly lying about their true intentions

me i realise that finding love and getting a relationship with someone is pointless and stupid

why would i love someone only if its for myself?

many would tell me that they actualy like the person their with

maybe...but do they the relationship? or do they like the ''idea of being with someone''

felling accepted and loved to yourself or actualy loving the person strenght and weaknesses?

in the end i look at someone and realise love is just a social pressure

go out there and SHOW people your popullar and you can get someone to love you

how many times did i hear ''HEY i got a girlfriend / boyfriend!'' and everyone was proud of
that person

to many time and each time i think its stupid since everyone hide their true intention for the
felling of being accepted

if you think of it love is pointless just an invisible wall between friends and lovers

after that you look at what people say and do when their in love

they kiss? good for them...they have sex?

great for them, but the more i think about it, the more i think sex is overrated and is an
other social pressure people put of themself

GET OUT THERE AND GET SOMEONE AND HAVE SEX!!

sex is overrated by everyone and is an other social pressure

screw that...its only for yourself and it makes me sick

then you show love by?...giving flowers? buying presents?

why?? social pressure? because everyone does it? commen sense? to keep the relationship
interesting??

i have no clue though i hope i figure it out in the future

also there is love at first site of people having fantasies

i never get that or i dont fully understand the meaning behind it

im always baffled on how people think the is something called love

in my opinion love exist, but since the chances of finding true love and not ''liking someone
because you dont want to be alone or to fell accepted'' are so small i dont think it exist

maybe im wrong

personally, i hope i am because if i am i'll never want to love and like anyone i meet


hopefully that cleared your question if loves exist

 

[Ampersand]

From the outside looking in it's a perplexing emotion, I thought i knew what it was years ago, I loved my family and i had a number of friends that i'd do anything for. Then I started noticing feelings for one person in particular that quite frankly knocked me on my ass. It was like simultaneously feeling the weakest and most powerful i'd ever been. You feel like you could take on the entire world, and for her you would, but it's accompanied by a crushing doubt that there is no way you could ever be good enough for her.

I seriously doubt that everyone, or even most people experience real love, I'd say most people are forced to settle and that I just got really really retardedly lucky.

 

[ZombieGenesis]

If it didn't exist, I wouldn't have married my wife.

 

[UltraXan]

Love is a cocktail of chemicals and hormones that make you feel certain emotions. These hormones/emotions are triggered when you are with someone of the opposite sex (most of the time, anyway) whom you like to spend your time with. These hormones/emotions are addictive, and so you want to do what every other druggie wants to do: increase the dose and keep at it. This is the build up of friendship -> relationship -> sex -> marriage -> more sex. This is the point where the road splits, where either A) you're still in love and you spend the rest of your life with him/her, or B) your hormone levels drop, you don't love that person any more, and you separate/divorce/murder them in their sleep/cheat with someone who can provide them.

I know this first hand, as I myself am in love. ^_^

I also realize that the whole paragraph I wrote actually makes some sense despite the fact that I was pulling most of it out of my ass, as well as from various experiences and lectures. Who knows, maybe I solved the mystery to life.