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Julianking93

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Raykuza said:
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Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Its an intense feeling of happiness around another person(s). You care deeply for them as they you.
Not always. There is unrequited (one-sided) love. It is an incredibly painful experience for both parties. There is little happiness to be found. It almost never ends well.
Does that count as love?
Absolutely. Person A loves and would do anything for person B, but person B simply does not feel the same way about person A for one reason or another. Maybe person B just likes person A as a friend. Maybe person B loves someone else. Maybe person B does not even know who person A is. Unrequited love is not the mutual love of which you speak, but it is still love.
I'm assuming this has happened to you before.

Anyway, I see your point, but if you're friends, that's still a form of love. I love my friends. Its not constricted to just a romantic love.
 

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Emperor Inferno" post="18.157410.3896171 said:
It's the desire for a person to be happy, and being happy because of them.quote]

Exactly wat I told my gf, she just said I shouldn't depend on someone else to make me happy... women...
 

Raykuza

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Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Its an intense feeling of happiness around another person(s). You care deeply for them as they you.
Not always. There is unrequited (one-sided) love. It is an incredibly painful experience for both parties. There is little happiness to be found. It almost never ends well.
Does that count as love?
Absolutely. Person A loves and would do anything for person B, but person B simply does not feel the same way about person A for one reason or another. Maybe person B just likes person A as a friend. Maybe person B loves someone else. Maybe person B does not even know who person A is. Unrequited love is not the mutual love of which you speak, but it is still love.
I'm assuming this has happened to you before.

Anyway, I see your point, but if you're friends, that's still a form of love. I love my friends. Its not constricted to just a romantic love.
You may call me "Person A."

And yes, love for friends and family is called Platonic love, I believe.
 

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SirDeadly said:
she just said I shouldn't depend on someone else to make me happy...
Well you shouldn't.
=/

Love is completely selfless. it isn't about you being happy at all.
Not to mention no one likes a needy partner.
 

Julianking93

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Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Its an intense feeling of happiness around another person(s). You care deeply for them as they you.
Not always. There is unrequited (one-sided) love. It is an incredibly painful experience for both parties. There is little happiness to be found. It almost never ends well.
Does that count as love?
Absolutely. Person A loves and would do anything for person B, but person B simply does not feel the same way about person A for one reason or another. Maybe person B just likes person A as a friend. Maybe person B loves someone else. Maybe person B does not even know who person A is. Unrequited love is not the mutual love of which you speak, but it is still love.
I'm assuming this has happened to you before.

Anyway, I see your point, but if you're friends, that's still a form of love. I love my friends. Its not constricted to just a romantic love.
You may call me "Person A."

And yes, love for friends and family is called Platonic love, I believe.
Right. Its still love and its still happiness when you're around another person.
 

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happiness when you're around another person.

Wrong. Completely wrong.
base a relationship of any kind off that and its going to fail.
 

SirDeadly

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SwmnNE1 said:
SirDeadly said:
she just said I shouldn't depend on someone else to make me happy...
Well you shouldn't.
=/

Love is completely selfless. it isn't about you being happy at all.
Not to mention no one likes a needy partner.
I'm not needy I'm just alot happier when she is.
 

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SwmnNE1 said:
happiness when you're around another person.

Wrong. Completely wrong.
base a relationship of any kind off that and its going to fail.
But.... love is when you feel happy around that other person - you know, the one you LOVE.
 

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SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
happiness when you're around another person.

Wrong. Completely wrong.
base a relationship of any kind off that and its going to fail.
But.... love is when you feel happy around that other person - you know, the one you LOVE.
No. it isn't.
Love is near synonymous with selflessness.

If your relationship is based on how they make you feel it isn't about loving them. Its about how happy you feel.

Emotions are fleeting. Love is not. Love is a verb.
 

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Emperor Inferno said:
lenneth said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpwK3vFGJp0&feature=related

...now thats out of my system lets have a proper discussion

Emperor Inferno said:
It's the desire for a person to be happy, and being happy because of them.
or Being happy just by being with them
Hey, that's taken out of context. Remember the most important part of my post. The last line.
i guess...but life is made of highs and lows and it's these lows that make the high's much more satisfying.
IE compare the feelings of :
A) someone whose general mood would be "neutral" who then gets into a good relationship
B) someone who just went through a messy break up but shortly after gets into a good relationship

...that probably doesnt sound right but im probably overthinking things by this point

narmeian said:
It's trusting someone with the power to hurt you more than anyone
and hoping that they dont.
We will never trust anyone as easily as the first time
 

Raykuza

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Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Its an intense feeling of happiness around another person(s). You care deeply for them as they you.
Not always. There is unrequited (one-sided) love. It is an incredibly painful experience for both parties. There is little happiness to be found. It almost never ends well.
Does that count as love?
Absolutely. Person A loves and would do anything for person B, but person B simply does not feel the same way about person A for one reason or another. Maybe person B just likes person A as a friend. Maybe person B loves someone else. Maybe person B does not even know who person A is. Unrequited love is not the mutual love of which you speak, but it is still love.
I'm assuming this has happened to you before.

Anyway, I see your point, but if you're friends, that's still a form of love. I love my friends. Its not constricted to just a romantic love.
You may call me "Person A."

And yes, love for friends and family is called Platonic love, I believe.
Right. Its still love and its still happiness when you're around another person.
Again, not necessarily. I love my family to death and would do anything for them, but GOD do I hate spending an extended period of time with those fuckers. Especially my little sister. If she ever needs help, I'll be the first volunteer. If anyone messes with her, I'll mess them up. I love her. But do I like her? Hell no.

What I'm trying to say is basically that love is incredibly complicated and deserves a different definition than just "happiness when you're around another person." If that is truly your only experience with love then you are either very young or very lucky. Very, very, very lucky.
 

SonicKoala

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SwmnNE1 said:
SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
happiness when you're around another person.

Wrong. Completely wrong.
base a relationship of any kind off that and its going to fail.
But.... love is when you feel happy around that other person - you know, the one you LOVE.
No. it isn't.
Love is near synonymous with selflessness.

If your relationship is based on how they make you feel it isn't about loving them. Its about how happy you feel.

Emotions are fleeting. Love is not. Love is a verb.
Wow, dude, you need to pull your head out of your ass. There isn't a single definition of love. Loving someone is to be happy when you're with that person - are you suggesting that being happy when you're around that person is something different? Is that not part of the whole "love" experience? Secondly, it can be about both - you are happy around them, but you also care for them, and because of that you do what you can to make them happy, because by making them happy, this makes you even more happy in return. Also, I strongly disagree with you that "love" can not be factored into the "emotion" category - love is the most powerful emotional a person can have - it's not just "happiness" or "joy" that I feel when I'm with my significant other, it is something far stronger than that, and don't you dare try to tell me it isn't, because it will be YOU that is "completely" wrong.
 

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It's also almost impossible to find, and not worth the pain and suffering you endure in the meantime, so why fucking bother?
I'd have to agree with this sentiment entirely.
 

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SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
happiness when you're around another person.

Wow, dude, you need to pull your head out of your ass. There isn't a single definition of love. Loving someone is to be happy when you're with that person - are you suggesting that being happy when you're around that person is something different? Is that not part of the whole "love" experience? Secondly, it can be about both - you are happy around them, but you also care for them, and because of that you do what you can to make them happy, because by making them happy, this makes you even more happy in return. Also, I strongly disagree with you that "love" can not be factored into the "emotion" category - love is the most powerful emotional a person can have - it's not just "happiness" or "joy" that I feel when I'm with my significant other, it is something far stronger than that, and don't you dare try to tell me it isn't, because it will be YOU that is "completely" wrong.
Love is not and SHOULD NOT be based on emotions.
So Yes, you are wrong and are incredibly naive

Yes I am suggesting its differernt.
That emotion is happiness.

Love is not an emotion.

Is happiness love?
Of course not. Happiness is happiness.'

Love is something you do. ot something you feel.
Love is a verb.
 

Julianking93

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Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Raykuza said:
Julianking93 said:
Its an intense feeling of happiness around another person(s). You care deeply for them as they you.
Not always. There is unrequited (one-sided) love. It is an incredibly painful experience for both parties. There is little happiness to be found. It almost never ends well.
Does that count as love?
Absolutely. Person A loves and would do anything for person B, but person B simply does not feel the same way about person A for one reason or another. Maybe person B just likes person A as a friend. Maybe person B loves someone else. Maybe person B does not even know who person A is. Unrequited love is not the mutual love of which you speak, but it is still love.
I'm assuming this has happened to you before.

Anyway, I see your point, but if you're friends, that's still a form of love. I love my friends. Its not constricted to just a romantic love.
You may call me "Person A."

And yes, love for friends and family is called Platonic love, I believe.
Right. Its still love and its still happiness when you're around another person.
Again, not necessarily. I love my family to death and would do anything for them, but GOD do I hate spending an extended period of time with those fuckers. Especially my little sister. If she ever needs help, I'll be the first volunteer. If anyone messes with her, I'll mess them up. I love her. But do I like her? Hell no.

What I'm trying to say is basically that love is incredibly complicated and deserves a different definition than just "happiness when you're around another person." If that is truly your only experience with love then you are either very young or very lucky. Very, very, very lucky.
I don't understand how you can love someone, yet not like them. Is it because they're family that you feel obligated to "love" them?

I can tell you right now that I love my mother and father more than anything and I love spending time with them, but I hate pretty much everyone else in my family. I don't like any of them. I can't stand my grandmother(s), uncle, or cousins. My aunts nice, but that's it.

Besides, that "happiness" that I refer to varies from person to person. I feel much greater love or happiness around my girlfriend (not saying I have one, just using it as an example) than around a group of friends. It is a very powerful emotion but I gave you the definition of what [b/]I[/b] think is love and what I feel.
 

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I don't understand how you can love someone, yet not like them. Is it because they're family that you feel obligated to "love" them?

because Love has nothing to do with you and how you feel.

GOD DAMMIT.
Am I the only one who get this on earth?
 

SonicKoala

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SwmnNE1 said:
SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
SonicKoala said:
SwmnNE1 said:
happiness when you're around another person.

Wow, dude, you need to pull your head out of your ass. There isn't a single definition of love. Loving someone is to be happy when you're with that person - are you suggesting that being happy when you're around that person is something different? Is that not part of the whole "love" experience? Secondly, it can be about both - you are happy around them, but you also care for them, and because of that you do what you can to make them happy, because by making them happy, this makes you even more happy in return. Also, I strongly disagree with you that "love" can not be factored into the "emotion" category - love is the most powerful emotional a person can have - it's not just "happiness" or "joy" that I feel when I'm with my significant other, it is something far stronger than that, and don't you dare try to tell me it isn't, because it will be YOU that is "completely" wrong.
Love is not and SHOULD NOT be based on emotions.
So Yes, you are wrong and are incredibly naive

Yes I am suggesting its differernt.
That emotion is happiness.

Love is not an emotion.

Is happiness love?
Of course not. Happiness is happiness.'

Love is something you do. ot something you feel.
Love is a verb.
Your arrogance astounds me. Love isn't something you feel? Are you fucking kidding me? Love can be a noun too, retard. ASK THE DICTIONARY. "Love" is not a verb - "to love" is the verb, but the WORD "love" is defined as a noun. I'm not sure what kind of shit you've gone through in your life, but it's sad how you've developed this robotic definition of one of the most complex and profound feelings a person can have for another. Who the fuck are you anyway to define love? Seriously.