What is Love?

[Dr Namgge]

love is when you realise you care more about someone else's well-being rather than your own. Not in a "push a child out of the way of a speeding car" way, but more of a "I'd rather do something purely to please them than doing something just to please myself, as I'd be happier pleasing them than I cold be pleasing just myself"

alternatively: love is a number [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BaQOGZGmQ0U]

 

[mocruz1200]

Baby Don't Hurt Me....

this was the first thing that came to my mind upon reading your title

 

[Emperor Inferno]

It's the desire for a person to be happy, and being happy because of them.

When you love a person, offenses become more hurtful, and good things become much better. Sex with that person is better simply because you love them. There is a deep caring about what happens to that person, and what they want, need, and feel. Being in their presence, talking to them, and remembering good times with them makes you happy, as does the knowledge that they are happy. Every emotion is driven to the extreme, be it happy, sad, or angry. Love doesn't make a damn bit of sense, but it has the potential to be the one thing that makes life most fulfilling.

You had me right up until...

It's also almost impossible to find, and not worth the pain and suffering you endure in the meantime and as a result, so why fucking bother?

Which I totally disagree with.
1)If it isn't worth searching for and fighting for, then it wouldn't be worth having.

2)But speaking as someone who is indeed very much in love with his wife, but had to get through a lot of crappy relationships that left scars of their own, it is absolutely worth finding and fighting for.

1)That's what I'm saying, it's not worth having because of that.

2)I percieve that your judgment is clouded by the love you feel right now. It's a common symptom of being in love, I've had that too. Don't worry. Sooner or later, it'll go to shit and then you'll say to yourself, "wow. That jerk on the Escapist was right."

 

[UberCharlie]

Not a lot of folks around here have a positive opinion on love. I think it's kind of nice.

The concept is a fluid one. Love is when you let people past your walls. It's when you make yourself vulnerable by connecting with them. It's trust. Also, there's fucking.

That's how I define relationships between you kooky kids nowadays. You're either really, really good friends or you're fucking.

Anyway, cheer up everybody!

 

[Baby Tea]

...Sooner or later, it'll go to shit and then you'll say to yourself, "wow. That jerk on the Escapist was right."

Wow. I really feel sorry for you.
What a horrible way to live.

I've watched my parents marriage of over 35 years just get stronger and stronger, with them both loving each other more now then they ever did.
I've also watched close family go through a very upsetting divorce.
And I've also come to know and love my wife, through good times and through bad times.

And through all of those, I've seen what love is, romantic and otherwise.
I cannot imagine my life without it, and I cannot see life being worth anything without it.
If you truly are as cynical as you sound, and not just someone who is speaking from bitter memories and thoughts (Because we all have those), then, again, I'm truly very sorry. I've been through enough relationships that crushed me in the end, but instead of jading me, it just made me more careful, yet more determined.

Besides: ever see the 'emo' episode of South Park?

Butters : I love life
Stan : Huh? But you just got dumped.
Butters : Well yea and I am sad, but at the same time I'm really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It's like...it makes me feel alive, you know? It makes me feel human. The only way i could feel this sad now, is if I felt something really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good. So what i guess im feeling is...like a beautiful sadness.

 

[Emperor Inferno]

...Sooner or later, it'll go to shit and then you'll say to yourself, "wow. That jerk on the Escapist was right."

Wow. I really feel sorry for you.
What a horrible way to live.

I've watched my parents marriage of over 35 years just get stronger and stronger, with them both loving each other more now then they ever did.
I've also watched close family go through a very upsetting divorce.
And I've also come to know and love my wife, through good times and through bad times.

And through all of those, I've seen what love is, romantic and otherwise.
I cannot imagine my life without it, and I cannot see life being worth anything without it.
If you truly are as cynical as you sound, and not just someone who is speaking from bitter memories and thoughts (Because we all have those), then, again, I'm truly very sorry. I've been through enough relationships that crushed me in the end, but instead of jading me, it just made me more careful, yet more determined.

Besides: ever see the 'emo' episode of South Park?

Butters : I love life
Stan : Huh? But you just got dumped.
Butters : Well yea and I am sad, but at the same time I'm really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It's like...it makes me feel alive, you know? It makes me feel human. The only way i could feel this sad now, is if I felt something really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good. So what i guess im feeling is...like a beautiful sadness.

Yeah, made me more careful, too. In the sense that if any girl ever shows signs of doing anything like what my ex did, I will destroy her utterly. I'm too intelligent, and too wise now, to let myself get hurt like that again. From now on, I'll be observant, be attentive, and strike first at the first sign of a girl trying to hurt me. Same thing with the determination, I'm determined now to not get hurt again.

And no, I've never seen that episode. Sounds like a funny one, though.

 

[CHangedUsername]

Wow, bravo. That is so amazingly clever, I wish I'd thought of it

You wish you thought of a a argument misrepresenting my words?

I'm saying love is something you do. not something you feel.
That argument has no basis on what I am actually saying

 

[SmartIdiot]

Alright! Another one of these threads, been a while. Love is... the illusion of being overwhelmingly happy in another persons company just to cover up your fear of dying alone. Get over it.

 

[Takoto]

For me, it's wanting to be with someone as much as possible, wanting them to be happy (although... for me right now, I put the happiness of my boyfriend above my own), trusting them with everything you have...

Errh, I don't actually know how to explain it... D:

 

[Trivun]

Baby Don't Hurt Me.....

Now that that is out of the way, what do you think love is? Is it some deep spiritual connection? A gimmick to sell chocolate? or something else all together?

Ninja'd by the OP on a crazy joke. Now THAT is a first...

"Don't hurt me, no more..."

Anyway, I think that love is simply an extremely strong feeling of liking somebody that goes beyond any usual aspects of like. Simply put, it's an extreme version of liking someone that leads to an intense emotional attachment to said person.

 

[historybuff]

Love is confusing but humans use it because it is nice. Or something.

The French invented love to put a civilized face on a biological urge.

Or wait, this. That's perfect.

 

[Nickolai77]

I don't believe in destiny
or the guiding hand of fate
I don't believe in forever
Or love as a mystical state
I don't believe in the stars or the planets
or angels watching from above

I believe there's a ghost of a chance
we can find someone to love

and make it last

That's a lovely little poem that, who wrote it?


Edit: "Love is an exploding cigar that we all willingly smoke", or, "love is an elf that dances a merry jig... and then turns on you with a machine gun"

Love is something that you get forced into by your own biological programming, and usually leads to bad results and problems, but were continueously forced into it again and again, part of my brain is virtually putting a gun to my own head to make go along with it yet again...

 

[SonicKoala]

Wow, bravo. That is so amazingly clever, I wish I'd thought of it

You wish you thought of a a argument misrepresenting my words?

I'm saying love is something you do. not something you feel.
That argument has no basis on what I am actually saying

Yeah, too bad your argument is retarded. Love is not ONLY something you do - you feel love as well. If you deny it, then you'll just continue to make yourself out as the bitter and arrogant individual that you clearly are.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Its when you like spending time with a girl, and you dont just wanna poke her.

 

[Darth Pope]

Damn you all, the OP ninjad me...

Oh, and love is something different to each person I believe.

 

[CHangedUsername]

Yeah, too bad your argument is retarded.

Well. Looks like I lost this one to that profound statement.

EDIT: And where the hell do you get "Bitter" from? Arrogant? Hell yes, but bitter?

 

[skyfire_freckles]

I don't believe in destiny
or the guiding hand of fate
I don't believe in forever
Or love as a mystical state
I don't believe in the stars or the planets
or angels watching from above

I believe there's a ghost of a chance
we can find someone to love

and make it last

That's a lovely little poem that, who wrote it?


Edit: "Love is an exploding cigar that we all willingly smoke", or, "love is an elf that dances a merry jig... and then turns on you with a machine gun"

Love is something that you get forced into by your own biological programming, and usually leads to bad results and problems, but were continueously forced into it again and again, part of my brain is virtually putting a gun to my own head to make go along with it yet again...

Sorry I'm just getting back to this, but the poem is from a song by Rush called Ghost of a Chance.

 

[clairedelune]

"I wish that people who are conventionally supposed to love each other would say to each other, when they fight, "Please- a little less love, and a little more common decency."
-Kurt Vonnegut

 

[badgersprite]

I believe love is a spiritual and emotional connection that occurs with certain people at certain times in your life, and comes to a conclusion when you've both fulfilled your role with each other, and you've moved to the next stage in your life. I don't believe that there's 'one true love' out there for me, because, to me, that would be a sign that I'm not growing as a person.

Certainly, if I were still with the first person I fell in love with, I would have to be suffering from the same insecurities I was when we first met, and the very things I learned through being with her would be for nothing. She was exactly what I needed at the time, but the right person for the rest of my life? No. And I don't think I'll find the person for me to spend the rest of my life with until I'm much older.

Right now, I'm still growing, and so are the people around me. That doesn't mean I don't experience love, it just means that I'm aware that the different loves I'll know in my life are all steps on a journey.

 

[FranzTyphid]

BURNING PAIN!!
its actually quite nice..