What is the worst breakup you ever had

[AvsJoe]

I've never had a bad break-up; they've all been mutual. I've been lucky (though it's also because I've never dated a psycho batsh!t crazy chick, either).

you lucky *****
all mine are unfortunately crazy

Pick a normal girl next time. They're a little less fun, but it's worth it to avoid the emotional roller-coaster/train-wreck that comes pre-packaged with every crazy.

 

[theamazingbean]

Stabbed in leg with steak knife, 16 stitches.

No wait. You win.

I've been real lucky so far.

I think I was pretty lucky. Some women (and men for that matter) save up their crazy for a long time, and slowly release in a "death by inches" manner, draining the life out of you. My harsh, abrasive personality provoked an explosion, thus warning me of the huge crazy beneath the surface. Stitches were out in a couple of weeks, only had to pull a gun on her once more to get it completely over with, whole affair over in 2 months with no irreversible harm or criminal or civil charges. Could have been worse.

 

[Soluncreed]

I've only had one break up. We were going to go to the mall and she called to tell me that we should stop seeing each other. I never really got a reason. The lack of a reaon is what made it worse.

 

[Florion]

(snip)

It... couldn't be that your penchant for judging people was making her uncomfortable, could it? The appropriate response to "I'm afraid I'll say something stupid" is to just be supportive and reassure her of your feelings, not "Stop worrying about saying something stupid and say something already." You're blaming her for everything now, and I suspect you didn't try very hard to be understanding when you were still going out.

I'm sort of like your situation; a boy I was interested in asked me out, I said yes, we held hands and walked home for a week, and then he asked me if I would go to prom with him (it was September; he's a bit impulsive), and I freaked out and told him I didn't like him that much instead of just telling him I didn't want to think about a 9-month relationship that soon.
We continued to be friends for the rest of the year, until we started growing closer again and he asked me out again and I said yes again. But I was so scared of speaking my mind that being with him was extremely stressful, and even more so because my mother kept telling me she thought he was a twerp and I broke up with him again because I couldn't handle that stress on top of school stress. I would call that my worst break-up, because I knew he hadn't done anything wrong; I had headaches for a while because of the guilt.
After I finished with the most stressful part of the school year, we had time to hang out again, and we started getting closer again. I told him I missed him, he took me back. We went to prom, which sounds like kind of a cheesy reunion. xP It was wonderful. But more importantly, he told me "Don't ever feel like you have to say anything at all." And then I realized I was dealing with an impossibly patient person. The irony was that I learned to talk more, simply because I didn't have to.
(*Those of you who have noticed I haven't been the best girlfriend - totally aware of that, it's a learning experience. There's a reason high school relationships aren't very stable; nobody knows what the hell to do! o_o)

So... Maybe she's intimidated by your superior intellect, or maybe Lower-on-the-Ladder Man is just more sensitive to her insecurities. I know what you mean by the "ability to read and understand other people" thing - I've grown up in an artistic family that values education, so I've had the opportunity to meet many perceptive people - but that doesn't make you "better" than anyone else. So don't feel slighted that she's chosen another guy you consider inferior. If he really isn't a good fit for her, they'll break up and maybe you'll have another chance - but only if you really care about her, and don't just want her to fit into some role you've imagined for her where she is totally at ease around you.

 

[quiet_samurai]

I've only broken up with someone once, and it was because she had to move.

Same. Precisely the same, in fact, every word of it. Are we twins?

A few people here have asked me that. I'm going to go with "no", until I can get the real answer out of my parents.

Wait, whoa. So, the reason I've been wondering is that I noticed many similarities between us - the Pokemon playing, the hometown, being Blue Jays fans. I just looked at your profile to find out more, and it seems I know you IRL. You're Matthew Parkinson, and you're in my Humanities class!

Good luck on Monday's multiple-choice test - Alex


OT: Nothing here seems to be as bad as, say, a bad divorce or violent breakup. Maybe we Escapists are better at having non-violent breakups, or perhaps having fewer relationships means you're likely to have fewer nasty breakups? According to the dating threads, many of us here tend to be nice but not very social. Anyone want to provide evidence for or against my theory?

I'm very social, in fact the only time I ever come on the site is beacuse it gives me something to do on my downtime at work. And I really only play games when I have nothing to do or if I buy a brand spankin new one and it intrigues me greatly.

And I'm not very nice either, sure I have good manners and all, but I have been called a sarcastic asshole many...MANY... times.

 

[Blackjack 222]

And I'm not very nice either, sure I have good manners and all, but I have been called a sarcastic asshole many...MANY... times.

I think most gamers are like that(violent minority known as trolls excluded of course)

 

[Lisolet]

I told someone I was gay after she finished oral. Sorta went like this...

Iiiiiiiiiii'm gay.

That sounds more like her worst breakup, not yours. You however, I gotta say, come off as quite a bastard.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

Text message.
I wasn't bothered by it at all.

The only other "breakup" was when we just stopped seeing eachother, no words were said, we just stopped meeting up.

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Don't bother quoting me, I'm fed up of nearly every post I make turning into a philosophical and ideology debate
Actually, I'll only use this when it's likely it will happen.​

Perfect evidence against the existance of god, abortion must be ok!

OT: Wow that sounds weird, ive never heard of that happening before, ive never broken up with a girl, my first and current girlfriend is all ive ever had, and its going fantastically. shame we are going to uni in different sides of the country, we have another two years before that happens though. Thats going to suck.

 

[Chancie]

He had met someone over World of Warcraft and they'd been talking for three days (yes, three). She apparently had trust issues and didn't want him talking to any other girls.

Yeah, he was a moron. I don't need him anyway.

 

[Mercurio128]

Came home from work and everything was gone.

MY furniture, clothes, bed, stereo, tv, pots, pans, food, family gifts & photos,
stuff I've had since childhood - EVERYTHING.

Went to the Bank and our joint account was closed by her after
withdrawing the $2,500 balance.

She ran off with one of her college instructor's.
All I had were the clothes on my back and no clue whatsoever.

Even her family didn't know what was going on or where she ran off to.

18 months later I found out that she left pregnant and
vanished on inheritance of $40,000 from a trust cash out
because she turned just turned 21.

She lost the baby from partying on the money and was broke in 4 months.

And you think you'd know someone after living together for 2 years.

My heart wasn't as broke as my head was blown away.

Holy Shit, you win this thread.

And I thought over facebook was harsh..

 

[AgDr_ODST]

since I no longer count the girl I meet a camp and wound up splitting from within 2 days. I've not experienced one yet

 

[Johanthemonster666]

My first and only girlfriend(I later came out of the closet) broke up with me while I was away at summer camp (she apparently had cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend several times during our entire relationship). Her ex even called my phone to rub this in my face with a message that I listen to shortly after I got cellphone reception back (I had been in a wilderness area for three weeks).

But I don't really consider that experience to be a huge deal.

When I came out as being gay, it made a lot of sens as to why I prefered female companions instead of female love interests. I've been quite happy.

I'll just add one (medium length) breakup tale with my first boyfriend.
He wasn't the brightest guy in the world and was probably a bad start to me after coming to terms with myself. I had suspected he was a cheater and rather insincere from that start; he looked at other men while we were on dates and tended to only care about me if I were in some state of undress -_-

He finally decided to get rid of me by asking a friend of his to flirt with me (via text message) and see if I'd say anything that would make it appear as if I were a dishonest cheater. Well I knew that something was up,but I also knew that his friend actually did have a crush on me anyway..so I rather jokingly said "sure, I'll go on a date with you as long you let (my current boyfriend) know ahead of time"

Well, my ex probably figured that was as close as he'd get to me even remotely saying I'd cheat on him (he knew I was a loyal person) and used it as an excuse to dump me later that day. *facepalm* He knew it was a joke but still dramatically stretched out of context and calmy said "we should just be friends". Never heard from his friend again (he probably felt guilty, though I'm not sure).

It wasn't a horrible breakup, just me letting go of a jerk who ironically sleept with someone he had had his eye on a couple days later.

This may all seem rather melodramatic (it is, but none of it upsets me at all to be honest).
I've been with my current boyfriend for over 2 years and things have remained happy and stable since the day we met. The key to our success I suppose is that we communicate everything that we feel is important to discuss and support eachother beyond being simple lovers but as best friends and partners who are in it together regardless of what may come up.

 

[Lust]

He finally decided to get rid of me by asking a friend of his to flirt with me (via text message) and see if I'd say anything that would make it appear as if I were a dishonest cheater. Well I knew that something was up,but I also knew that his friend actually did have a crush on me anyway..so I rather jokingly said "sure, I'll go on a date with you as long you let (my current boyfriend) know ahead of time"

Well, my ex probably figured that was as close as he'd get to me even remotely saying I'd cheat on him (he knew I was a loyal person) and used it as an excuse to dump me later that day. *facepalm* He knew it was a joke but still dramatically stretched out of context and calmy said "we should just be friends". Never heard from his friend again (he probably felt guilty, though I'm not sure).

Something similar happened to me. Except that I think my girlfriend broke up with me that way because she was too lazy tell me. Good thing I had me a chocolate chip cookie at the time. Ohhh............happy days.

 

[Samuel Cook]

My last girlfriend and I were organising a holiday a week later to celebrate our 1 year anniversary. The day after we had another argument, so through tears we both agreed that it wasn't working. Bad times indeed.

 

[warprincenataku]

I told someone I was gay after she finished oral. Sorta went like this...

Iiiiiiiiiii'm gay.

That sounds more like her worst breakup, not yours. You however, I gotta say, come off as quite a bastard.

Would it make things any better if I said I wasn't really gay, but I just told her that?

 

[Outright Villainy]

You want something bad? This is absolutely true.

2 years ago i broke up with my fiancee, I caught her in bed with my closest friend (needles to say we are not friends anymore).

I had arranged a supprise birthday party for her 18th and i hasd spent well over £1000 on tickets to makre sure her student friends could come from all over the world. I had given my friend specific instructions to make sure that she was at the venue at the right time, the were over 1 hour late (guess why).
anyway i started to notice that things wernt right and 2 days later i paid a supprise visit to her house only to find the 2 of them att it like rabbits in the spair room.

The next 2 hours is a bit of a blur, but according to her parents i:

* Broke 3 of my friends ribs, his lefty arm in 2 places and Jaw.

* did £3000 damage to her parents cars.

* £2000 damage to their house.

As i am very slow to trust people the loss of 2 of the 4 people that i would rtrust with my life was quite devistating. however after 6 months of therapy and lots of hard work on my part i was able to forgive them. However when i asked a mutual friend to set up a meeting between us, i got a phone call from the police 2 days later. this was not supprising as i had gone of the rails abit during the previous few months. However upon arriving at the police station for a "casual Chat", i was promptly arrested for rape. apparenytly when my ex herd that i wanted to speak to them she decided that rather than say no she would just get me arrested. the case was thrown out of court 3 months later but i am still going through therapy to try and come to terms with it.

P.S. I am sorry if there ae spelling and grammar errors in this i undrestandably find it hard to write aboyut this.

Cheers Escapists.

Well it's good to hear you're getting help, both for trust issues and dealing with rage. If you could hurt someone like that and not remember, no matter what the situation, it's something you'd certainly want to deal with.
I hope you're doing okay now anyway.

 

[Lisolet]

I told someone I was gay after she finished oral. Sorta went like this...

Iiiiiiiiiii'm gay.

That sounds more like her worst breakup, not yours. You however, I gotta say, come off as quite a bastard.

Would it make things any better if I said I wasn't really gay, but I just told her that?

If you had told her that before she put in the effort to get you off, or if you had returned the favor to her, then yes. But since you waited till after, then sorry, no. How's it been going for you since then?

 

[Soxafloppin]

Well my girlfriend who i was really into at the time flat out ignored me for a week and i foolishly decided to pretty much do the same time, after that we didnt speak for roughly 6 months, we then ended up hooking up on a night out and again didnt speak again aftter that for a few months.

Were back to saying hi to eachother now though.

Needless to say i have strange feelings for her :|

 

[Valkyira]

Sorry to resurrect a death thread, but I have just broken up with my girlfriend and it seems appropriate to post it here.

Okay, so we were together for around 5 months? Things were amazing, we had some really great times and some low times but never because of us. She had a lot of stuff going on in her life, she had depression, she had abusive parents and friends, there was one arsehole who actually raped her twice (once before we met, and once two months into the relationship). Throughout all of these bad times, I stood by her and offered her my support. The relationship stayed strong through think and thin until two weeks ago.

She said she needed a break because she had a lot of shit to deal with, I had no other choice but to accept this, so for a week we didn't speak. After she ended the break, we were back to talking but it didn't feel right. She was very distant from me, she didn't tell me anything (she always found it hard to tell me things that were bothering her) and we would often go an hour or so without talking.

4 days ago she said she wanted to break up with me, she said we both want different things and that it was never going to work. We agreed it was the best thing to do (I knew it was coming), so we broke up. Casually speaking for the next few days.

And an hour ago, she came on msn and said that we couldn't talk/see each other anymore. Of course I asked why she didn't want to at least be friends anymore, and she dropped a big fucking bombshell. She told me that she was in love with her ex boyfriend. This guy treated her like shit, and made her miserable. She said she loved him even though she was with me. Obviously I was very shocked by this, and then she went offline.

We had something amazing, she said that somewhere down the line she would want to spend her life with me. But she lied to me a lot and was unfaithful. I don't know if she cheated on me, but it doesn't matter anymore. As I right this, it's all over and I have no-one to talk to about it that would understand. Although venting has helped xD

Sorry for that big wall of text, and also for necro'ing a dead thread.