What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing? (Change of topic)

[Archemetis]

At the end of the day, I bet even your mother is happily aware that he is a grown man and has likely been jerking it since before he met her.

She couldn't possibly have a problem with something practically all guys do.

Especially provided most guys now days just own up to doing it.
Chances are, she already knows.

[EDIT]:
As a side note, if all he was looking at was girls with their shirts off, the least you could do is tell him to get some more interesting material... I mean jeez...

 

[Nerotharis]

It's okay, he was just playing mass effect and was at the part where he was bangin' the blue chick so false alarm. Be back later I got porn to watch.

 

[Levziemuch]

Sorry your mom not put out enough =P j/k that sucks

 

[Tinblitz]

In my humble opinion (and it really is humble... I mean, we are talking humble pie for breakfast lunch dinner and midnight snack here), I think you are overreacting slightly. It's not abnormal for a married man to bash a couple out once in a while. a long as he wasn't watching any real hardcore stuff, then it should be fine. It's not like he's cheating on her (if that's the way you feel it is), if you feel awquard talking to him just think, he know's that there is a possibility that you also make handparty, so it feels the same for him...

 

[Zersy]

OK, this is what happened:

I was staying home from school and I was downstairs and David (my step-dad) was up-stairs. I went to go up to ask him something, he was in his room (I assumed he was working). I knock, a pause.

I wait.

I wait.

I wait.

And then, "Come in!"
I step inside, just in time to see a picture disappear off-screen.
A picture of a woman...
...with her top-off.

At first I thought, "yeah, relax, all guys do it, right?"
Then, "I wonder what I should do, should I tell mum?"

Now I can't even look at him in the face. I hate talking to him. It doesn't even feel right to be in the same room as him!

What should I do??? HELP!

(Sad that I had to drop the effortlessly emotionless candor that is The Escapist identity, but whatever.)

~EDIT~

OK, people are getting the wrong idea. it's not that there's anything wrong with a guy having a wank, it's just... he's my step-dad! He's married to my mother. I mean, is she OK with it? If it were anyone else, my friend, my dad, my cousin, it would be fine! It;s more about a sense of betrayal than anything else (I have a tingling feeling that no one but those who have had this happen to them could understand...).

~EDIT~

Look, I'm not trying to troll. Here's the question: In a situation like this, what should I do?

Just forget about it , it's not like he's cheating on your mum (sorry if i'm offensive) shrug it off it's nothing to panic about

 

[DM.]

Hey guess what OP?

I and about 95% of this site community and moderators masturbate frequently, and 5% of those people are masturbating right now.

Thank the heavens it wasn't child porn and be done with it.

 

[Nerotharis]

I'm masturbating right now!

 

[Nmil-ek]

Well obviously you tell your mother, what are you insensative? You go right up to her face and tell her "mom dad's not been getting enough the mans actualy been watching... PORN *thunder* go fix it now!"

There you go, send the check in the mail.

 

[AngloDoom]

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

There was never a "masturbation is wrong" sentence, but I think he feels slightly odd considering his step-dad is in a very serious relationship (looking after a child that isn't his) and is exploring his urges for other women. While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.


Is that clear now?

Ahh, thankyou. Mind if I use this in the OP?

Feel free, I'm happy to have helped.

While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.

Ok, Im going to go ahead and just assume that many of you here are young (early 20's and younger) so perhaps you havent actually experianced a long term sexual relationship, because some of your comments are incredibly naive.

Men masturbate, always have done, and until they invent a pill that turns off our most basic primeval instincts, they always will. This includes when they are sexually active or not. Some do it more than others. Women masturbate too. Its life, its a way of releiving sexual tension that exists in us all naturally. Sometimes your partner doesnt want or cant have sex - maybe you dont want to have sex - a wank is conveniant, safe and natural.

This has absolutely nothing to do with how your stepdad feels towards your mother - seriously. One day you will be in a similar situation, I promise you. Dont mention it to him or your mom, unless you feel you realy need to do, but honestly it would just embaress you all.

I think the misunderstanding is coming from the notion that I believe masturbation in a relationship is wrong. I don't. I masturbate, my ex-girlfriend used to masturbate, I realise it's totally natural and there's nothing to be ashamed of. However, I believe it can be done without imagining someone besides your partner.
I'm not saying that I'm morally superior and I'm not egotistical enough to demand the whole world reports to me for their judgement; I just simply believe that in my relationships, I see masturbating to the image or fantasy of another person besides the person you are in a sexual relationship with is a small betrayal. I am intentionally hard on myself when it comes to relationships, and I know that this is not at all the 'right' or even most popular view on things. It's just my personal thoughts on it; I will find my girlfriend attractive both sexually and romantically, why masturbate to the image of a random plastic interwebs stranger?

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

There was never a "masturbation is wrong" sentence, but I think he feels slightly odd considering his step-dad is in a very serious relationship (looking after a child that isn't his) and is exploring his urges for other women. While there's nothing wrong with being attracted to women while in a relationship and masturbating in a relationship, I'd considering it a betrayal to my girlfriend if I was masturbating to porn or another person in general when I was in a close, serious, sexual relationship with her.


Is that clear now?

Most of us get that.

Showing sexual interest in a woman you will never meet isn't really a betrayal. It's just sexual release.

It's like saying a woman using an Adult Toy when she is on her own is cheating. What's going on in her mind could be anything (or anyone).

I know that my view isn?t a popular one. I wouldn?t consider myself a jealous type, but perhaps on this particular subject I am; I don?t do it because I would feel slightly inadequate and ask myself what I was doing wrong if I knew my girlfriend was having sexual desires of another person. To be honest, I wouldn?t feel I was doing enough for her. Again, highly personal, I?m hard on myself and have strangely low confidence in certain situations, but that?s how I personally feel. Not trying to take any moral high-ground.

Uhm...I think its the fact that his step-dad is lusting over other women. Not just internally, but looking them up and using them as masturbation material. I'm not going to pretend I know anything about the OP, but the fact that he has a step-dad allures he has probably seen his parents' relationship go down in flames.

From this perspective, his step-dad is showing a sexual interest in other women and is also exploring it in secrecy, meaning that, to some degree, he realises it is either not acceptable or appropriate.

Because... Everyone else has huge, moaning wanks out in public? I mean, I used to run around the garden naked, but I was five at the time... Ever since then, it's been dingy rooms with an internet connection for me

OT - Dude, everybody masturbates. You do, your dad does, your step dad does and, for bonus points, I'll put money on your mum doing it too! There's only really a sense of betrayal there if the women on the sites he goes on are more ugly than your mum. That's an actual scientifically-proven fact.

I'll leave you with a quote from one of my favourite comedians; "When you're a teenager, you always think the worst thing that can happen is your mum catching you masturbating, but that's because you never think it'll happen the other way round."

Again, I find nothing wrong with masturbation. Not even masturbating in a relationship, it's just the conscious decision to have a sexual fantasy about someone besides your partner that makes me feel odd. As I have said many times before, this is highly personal and I'm sorry if people believed I was trying to belittle them with my comments.

 

[Faps]

He might have just been getting ideas to surprise your mother with?

I'd never know what a reverse cowboy is if it wasn't for porn and my gf loves it. Thank you porn!

 

[Nerotharis]

He might have just been getting ideas to surprise your mother with?

I'd never know what a reverse cowboy is if it wasn't for porn and my gf loves it. Thank you porn!

What is a reverse cowboy per say?

 

[Slash Dementia]

How awkward would the talk with your mom be? Wouldn't it be easier to just forget it?

Maybe you can have him catch you watching some.

 

[Legion]

Most of us get that.

Showing sexual interest in a woman you will never meet isn't really a betrayal. It's just sexual release.

It's like saying a woman using an Adult Toy when she is on her own is cheating. What's going on in her mind could be anything (or anyone).

I know that my view isn?t a popular one. I wouldn?t consider myself a jealous type, but perhaps on this particular subject I am; I don?t do it because I would feel slightly inadequate and ask myself what I was doing wrong if I knew my girlfriend was having sexual desires of another person. To be honest, I wouldn?t feel I was doing enough for her. Again, highly personal, I?m hard on myself and have strangely low confidence in certain situations, but that?s how I personally feel. Not trying to take any moral high-ground.

I agree. Personally if I were in a long term relationship I would feel a little awkward about it too. I would like to think that my partner is enough for me.

The general point I was trying to make for the OP, however is that he/she shouldn't feel that the Step-Dad is doing anything wrong, or feel any betrayal because it probably doesn't mean anything.

 

[AngloDoom]

Most of us get that.

Showing sexual interest in a woman you will never meet isn't really a betrayal. It's just sexual release.

It's like saying a woman using an Adult Toy when she is on her own is cheating. What's going on in her mind could be anything (or anyone).

I know that my view isn?t a popular one. I wouldn?t consider myself a jealous type, but perhaps on this particular subject I am; I don?t do it because I would feel slightly inadequate and ask myself what I was doing wrong if I knew my girlfriend was having sexual desires of another person. To be honest, I wouldn?t feel I was doing enough for her. Again, highly personal, I?m hard on myself and have strangely low confidence in certain situations, but that?s how I personally feel. Not trying to take any moral high-ground.

I agree. Personally if I were in a long term relationship I would feel a little awkward about it too. I would like to think that my partner is enough for me.

The general point I was trying to make for the OP, however is that he/she shouldn't feel that the Step-Dad is doing anything wrong, or feel any betrayal because it probably doesn't mean anything.

Ah, sorry about that. I was on a defensive train of thought I suppose and kept it rollin' on.

Also, you're the first guy I've ever met to share the same view as me in that...




...Brother?

*Teary-Eyes*

 

[Nerotharis]

So seriously though, just let it go. Everyone does it and its perfectly normal and hes not different than any other man...Unless hes looking at some messed up shit, in which case to tell.

 

[Triple G]

Dude like really, if this dude has a wank at porn while having a woman, than there's probably something no wrong with your mum. It's not hard to satisfy a man, and when your mom can't do even that then it's her fault and not his. There must be a problem it their sex-life if HE has to do this to keep himself going.

That is the most absurd logic I've heard. Just because someone looks at porn does not mean they have a terrible sex life. That's like saying men only check out other women because they think their girlfriends aren't pretty enough.

Stop simplifying. What I was saying is this: If his stepfather has to have a wank at porn while beeing fully able to have way more fun with his wife, there must be something wrong with the wife. Either she doesn't want to have sex or she's incredibly bad(like really bad, a woman doesn't have to do much during sex, most women don't do anything). I was just talking about the possible root of this particular "problem".

 

[cleverlymadeup]

OK, people are getting the wrong idea. it's not that there's anything wrong with a guy having a wank, it's just... he's my step-dad! He's married to my mother. I mean, is she OK with it? If it were anyone else, my friend, my dad, my cousin, it would be fine! It;s more about a sense of betrayal than anything else (I have a tingling feeling that no one but those who have had this happen to them could understand...).

after this statement you're a hypocrite AND a whiny kid that wants to find a way for your mom to break up with your step dad. what if he was looking at pictures of your mom naked and having a wank? would that be wrong then?

you're just being childish

 

[Faps]

He might have just been getting ideas to surprise your mother with?

I'd never know what a reverse cowboy is if it wasn't for porn and my gf loves it. Thank you porn!

What is a reverse cowboy per say?

It's the girl on top but she's facing away from you and she normally sits up as if she was riding a horse

 

[FROGGEman2]

OK, this has left me feeling very patronised and emasculated, and enough people are just saying "You're a pussy, get over it" that I think I'll change the OP here.

Here's the new question: "What is the worst thing you have caught a parent doing?"