What is your deal breaker?
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Smoking(I like being able to breathe and not be sent into asthma attacks), lack of intelligence(I need to be able to have a conversation with you), extreme narcissism(If everything HAS to revolve around you I can't deal with it), actual drug usage(if it is a drug and you are taking it for medical reasons depending on the drug and the reason I can excuse it but I am speaking more recreational drug usage and marijuana usage even for medical reasons I can't deal with), overly clingy/borderline stalker(I need my space damn it. It is nice to be wanted but I need breathing room), and unable to take a joke(I can't stand people who take themselves and everything else around them too seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself).
Poor spelling and grammar. Oh dear lord. That is another can of worms entirely. I have friends who complain that I don't talk to them anymore and it is because of how they text me. I have them blocked from text messaging me. I should not need someone to decipher your message to me. Especially when you graduated valedictorian from high school and are working on a Master's or Doctorate degree and can't be arsed to spell out "to" "too" "two"(though if you are referring to the number I will accept the actual number being used) or even "you" correctly.
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Poor spelling and grammar. Oh dear lord. That is another can of worms entirely. I have friends who complain that I don't talk to them anymore and it is because of how they text me. I have them blocked from text messaging me. I should not need someone to decipher your message to me. Especially when you graduated valedictorian from high school and are working on a Master's or Doctorate degree and can't be arsed to spell out "to" "too" "two"(though if you are referring to the number I will accept the actual number being used) or even "you" correctly.
I think I covered everything....
I'm just think it's ok to indulge in fantasies every so often, and it can even be good for a relationship. Particularly given the scenario at the end of your post where it could lead to the end of an otherwise good relationship.Proverbial Jon said:
Really my views on the subject have only really been tested twice. Once as I described in my first reply where she slept around constantly (had at least 3 other guys on the go at any time), and the second involved another girlfriend who slept with her dealer to feed her drug habit. Those were tough times that really pushed the limits and make me really think about how I view relationships, but I stuck through, and am better off for it.
EDIT: You know, for once, I'd like an ordinary non psychotic or emotionally scarred girlfriend. You know one where if I don't here from her for a day or so I don't worry that she's taken an overdose or slit her wrists. I'm starting to wonder if I just have bad luck, or I'm subconsciously attracted to damaged women.
Joe Dirt. If they own a copy of that movie, I distance myself from them.
But seriously... I'm very picky. There are lots of deal breakers. Smoking inside (I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. go outside). Being insane (I don't know how to quantify this concept any more specifically). Refusal to have kids (I don't have to have kids, but I wanna be with someone who at least would want to be a parent). People who try to weaponize my feelings for them is a quick way to make me no longer have those feelings.
But seriously... I'm very picky. There are lots of deal breakers. Smoking inside (I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. go outside). Being insane (I don't know how to quantify this concept any more specifically). Refusal to have kids (I don't have to have kids, but I wanna be with someone who at least would want to be a parent). People who try to weaponize my feelings for them is a quick way to make me no longer have those feelings.
Overly clingy.I don't care how perfect someone is I need some time alone/with my friends.I ended a relationship some years back for this very reason despite the fact that she was pretty much my ideal partner
Poor table manners, I can't find someone attractive if they're a sloppy eater. It's not hard, chew then speak, Chew with you mouth closed...
Other major deal breakers:
Not being able to think critically, so close minded or gulible people.
Stupidity... actually no, not stupidity so much as being uniterested in learning.
Poor general health, I don't mind overweightedness, underweightedness, smoking, drinking, drugs the list goes on but I do mind obesity, dangerously underweightedness, chain smoking, alcholism, and being druged up 24/7. Well unless you're working on fixing your problem then it's more of a minor issue.
Other more minor deal breakers are:
Clingy people; I'm very relaxed about contacting people, I work on the idea that no news is good news, no news for a week might not be good news but news updates every five minutes is a good reason to change the channel.
Not sharing my sence of humour, imagine not laughing with the one you loved, it'ld be a bit rubbish.
Getting your opinion from magazines would be pretty bad too.
Okay I'm kinda going off and sounding really picky. oh well, at least I'm not too vain. And I think most people would agree with most of what I've put.
Other major deal breakers:
Not being able to think critically, so close minded or gulible people.
Stupidity... actually no, not stupidity so much as being uniterested in learning.
Poor general health, I don't mind overweightedness, underweightedness, smoking, drinking, drugs the list goes on but I do mind obesity, dangerously underweightedness, chain smoking, alcholism, and being druged up 24/7. Well unless you're working on fixing your problem then it's more of a minor issue.
Other more minor deal breakers are:
Clingy people; I'm very relaxed about contacting people, I work on the idea that no news is good news, no news for a week might not be good news but news updates every five minutes is a good reason to change the channel.
Not sharing my sence of humour, imagine not laughing with the one you loved, it'ld be a bit rubbish.
Getting your opinion from magazines would be pretty bad too.
Okay I'm kinda going off and sounding really picky. oh well, at least I'm not too vain. And I think most people would agree with most of what I've put.
Carrying on about her ex. As soon as a girl brings up her ex in conversation (especially if it's comparative towards me) I start to lose interest. If you're not over your ex don't start looking for a new relationship. Automatic Friend-Zone ticket.
Yes, I know that sort of thing may go away with time, but I'm not willing to wait through a few months of "so-and-so used to do that." or "that was so-and-so's favorite."
Tried it, didn't like it, automatic deal-breaker from now on.
Yes, I know that sort of thing may go away with time, but I'm not willing to wait through a few months of "so-and-so used to do that." or "that was so-and-so's favorite."
Tried it, didn't like it, automatic deal-breaker from now on.
That's not a deal breaker...that's a sanity-shattering, spine breaker.tobi the good boy said:
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Smoker seems really popular...so I'll go with vegan. If she flat out refuses to eat the foods I like and tries to convert me, I'd have to say no. I'd break up with her by taking her to McDonald's on that very special day, and tell her that my one true love is in my hands...
*[sub]I feel as though I have met that one special, perfect person: she is not a smoker or, a vegan and I love her much more than the McRib, who is a temptress and a tease. I love McRib but she isn't the one[/sub]
My first response was infidelity. But assuming he's the man of my dreams, he'd never do that. And I bet it's too obvious an answer...
So... I think I'll go with kids. I don't want kids. I'm not gonna change my mind or be forced to. Either if he wants kids or he already has one. That's just not going to work out. I'm terribly sorry.
I can't think of anymore off the top of my head but I'm sure they'll come if I think about it some more.
So... I think I'll go with kids. I don't want kids. I'm not gonna change my mind or be forced to. Either if he wants kids or he already has one. That's just not going to work out. I'm terribly sorry.
I can't think of anymore off the top of my head but I'm sure they'll come if I think about it some more.
A-fuckin'-men.neonsword13-ops said:
For me it'd be stupidity. I can't abide cretins for too long. I seriously dislike having to endlessly dumb down my arguments to the point where they've become so diluted from their original form that they no longer argue for the same point.
Being too into "family", nothing annoys me more then people who just cant accept the fact that no matter what your beliefs the relationship is between two people (or more depending on where you are from I guess) not Us + Mom + Dad + Brothers and Sisters.
It really irritates the shit out of me.
It really irritates the shit out of me.
I have a lot of deal-breakers, and I don't think that's unreasonable. But if I had to pick my top one, it would be that she absolutely must be willing to entertain my fetish. There's a certain something that turns me on, and if she's unwilling to do it, that's a deal-breaker for me. You may call this shallow, but I have needs. And I can't go my entire life without fulfilling those needs. "One time" isn't good enough either. (Ladies, if you introduce something new in the bedroom, and your man likes it, it's on the menu. When it comes to men and sex, there is no such thing as "one time.") She's gotta be willing to do this certain thing for me, and she's gotta be willing to do it frequently.