What should I do with this thing of sentimental value?

[Hader]

So I have this framed picture, that I just dug up while cleaning, it's a drawing (a pretty good one, compared to my lack of artistic abilities at least) that a girl made for me on my birthday a couple years back. I found this picture along with some old photos of her.

Long story short, this last fall, despite a good 2 years of being good friends and a short time of dating, she decided she wants nothing more to do with me. There is much to it, but we will leave it at that.

So I haven't talked to her in many months, and I surely don't plan to, but with this little memento I found, I stopped myself from burning it on the spot because of one little thought I had.

Perhaps I should give it all back to her? To prove a point, my mind tells me, I should. This action would blindside her as well as probably piss her off. But either way, I wouldn't care what she thinks. I entertain this idea still though. She had a bad habit of keeping her vehicles windows slightly cracked open, so I could just pop by while she works and drops it in easy and inconspicuously.

So escapist, decide for me. Burn it, or give it back? An no poll. This is not something I shall quantify to make a decision.

EDIT: Mmmmkay fine, I won't burn it
But I will rid myself of it one way or the other

 

[Gxas]

I wouldn't burn it, but I wouldn't give it back either. Just toss it. If you don't want it, just throw it out. Burning it seems, to me, like an insult to her. I could never do that to a person.

 

[Saelune]

Give it back. If only for the sake of good karma. Just in case you ever leave something at someone you later break up with but want it back.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

You could ASK her if she wants them. But of course that wouldn't be nearly as dramatic.

I don't know, if they're taking up space, scan the lot onto your computer and just toss them. If she doesn't come for them in a year or two, you can delete them if you feel like it. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

 

[GrimTuesday]

It all depends on how you feel about her at this juncture. If you still want to be friends, I would return it to her via the car window option, if you just want to forget about her, burn it. Or if you want to get one last fuck you in, return it to her personally, cause nothing says fuck you like returning a heartfelt gift.

 

[AroLombardi]

I like that car-window idea. Mainly because that's really dramatic.

 

[Hader]

Well, do you have any idea why she all of a sudden didn't want to have anything to do with you anymore? I'm not asking you to tell me, I'm just asking you to think. Is it something that is going to keep you permanently away from her?

Once old wounds are sealed, it's best not to reopen them.

I do not want to go into details.

But I say burn it because, for one, it's always fun to burn something. Secondly, yes, she was utterly horrible to me and while I don't harbor bad feelings about that now, I can't ever say I am happy with how she was about it. So I have my reasons.

 

[Hader]

You could ASK her if she wants them. But of course that wouldn't be nearly as dramatic.

I don't know, if they're taking up space, scan the lot onto your computer and just toss them. If she doesn't come for them in a year or two, you can delete them if you feel like it. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

To clarify, these were gifts from her. Not just things she left with me on accident.

 

[Ladette]

Without knowing the details, dropping it in through her car window sounds really, really stalker-ish.

 

[Hader]

Without knowing the details, dropping it in through her car window sounds really, really stalker-ish.

Perhaps, but I am no stranger to her.

 

[Ladette]

Without knowing the details, dropping it in through her car window sounds really, really stalker-ish.

Perhaps, but I am no stranger to her.

Just saying, as a female, i'd be pretty disturbed if an ex did that.

 

[Hader]

Without knowing the details, dropping it in through her car window sounds really, really stalker-ish.

Perhaps, but I am no stranger to her.

Just saying, as a female, i'd be pretty disturbed if an ex did that.

I can understand that. And I have no ill intentions. If I did do that, I think she knows me fairly well enough to get the point. It isn't necessarily a nice one, but stalker-ish it is not either.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Either throw it away if it means nothing to you or keep it tucked away if it does. Don't go dropping stuff in her car. That's just creepy.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

You could ASK her if she wants them. But of course that wouldn't be nearly as dramatic.

I don't know, if they're taking up space, scan the lot onto your computer and just toss them. If she doesn't come for them in a year or two, you can delete them if you feel like it. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

To clarify, these were gifts from her. Not just things she left with me on accident.

Just dump them if you don't want them, then. I don't see what the problem is.

If they were gifts, why would she want them back? It's not like there is some practical use she could get out of them. If you gave them to her she'd probably just bin them herself.

Don't want to get rid of them? Keep them. Tuck them in a pretty box with lovehearts all over it and forget about them. Move on.
Again, it doesn't have to be a big deal. It only becomes this difficult choice when you make it so.

 

[Hader]

Well, do you have any idea why she all of a sudden didn't want to have anything to do with you anymore? I'm not asking you to tell me, I'm just asking you to think. Is it something that is going to keep you permanently away from her?

Once old wounds are sealed, it's best not to reopen them.

I do not want to go into details.

But I say burn it because, for one, it's always fun to burn something. Secondly, yes, she was utterly horrible to me and while I don't harbor bad feelings about that now, I can't ever say I am happy with how she was about it. So I have my reasons.

You know what's better than burning it? Throwing it in the fucking trash.

I have no idea what she did, and frankly it's none of my business. But what will you get from torching it? Some sort of satisfaction? If you're planning on burning it, then that would symbolize malice and ill will. Throwing it in the trash will just symbolize that it's in the past and it doesn't bother you anymore.

It's your choice, no skin off my back, I'm just giving my suggestions, which is what this thread was about in the first place.

This has crossed my mind, don't worry. But regardless of what I did (if I didn't give it back), I would always just say, I got rid of it, right? To burn it, or trash it, seems of little significance to me in this case.

 

[emeraldrafael]

Dont burn it.

Give it back, but say that you enjoyed the good times, and that if she would like a clean break, you can respect that. Then give it back with the stuff you found, thank her for the time you had together, and say that you give it to her with hopes she'll remember the good times you two had, as you will.

 

[HapexIndustries]

I'd throw it out also. I wouldn't even think about it. Fuck that ***** and fuck that picture.

Burning it ritualizes the event, which can be unhealthy. Don't imbue it with more power than it deserves. Also, do not hate, there is no point. Dispassion is the way to go. Throw it out because that is logically what you would do with something that is worthless to you or anyone else.

I've been through a number of fucked up relationships so I know how you feel, but letting go is much better than gripping that ill will with both hands. Prove to yourself that you're a better person and have gotten over it and just toss the thing or give it to Salvation Army or something.

 

[Hader]

You could ASK her if she wants them. But of course that wouldn't be nearly as dramatic.

I don't know, if they're taking up space, scan the lot onto your computer and just toss them. If she doesn't come for them in a year or two, you can delete them if you feel like it. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

To clarify, these were gifts from her. Not just things she left with me on accident.

Just dump them if you don't want them, then. I don't see what the problem is.

If they were gifts, why would she want them back? It's not like there is some practical use she could get out of them. If you gave them to her she'd probably just bin them herself.

Don't want to get rid of them? Keep them. Tuck them in a pretty box with lovehearts all over it and forget about them. Move on.
Again, it doesn't have to be a big deal. It only becomes this difficult choice when you make it so.

The point is not to give it back to her so she has another pretty picture frame to use.

I want rid of it. I felt it might be slightly...creative, to try my latter option.