What was your reaction when...

[Not-here-anymore]

My ex-girlfriend told me she loved me. She wasn't ex at the time, but... I dunno. I couldn't reply in kind. I liked her, sure, but didn't love her. So naturally the relationship collapsed about a week later. Pretty much entirely my fault there...

Does drunken friends who you're helping carry home count? That's happened a few times.

Oh, and a female friend of mine (who had a boyfriend at the time) got somewhat drunk and told me she loved me and would abandon her boyfriend to be with me. I ran away. We'd always had a very flirty friendship, but that kind of scared me.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

What was my reaction? I said I loved her too then dumped her a week later. Why? Well I'd won and she was being a miserable *****. I was the victor and I couldn't be arsed with her shit.

 

[Sirisaxman]

Nobody has. Thankfully.
If anyone did, I don't know what I'd do. Probably something harmful.

Love is... kind of a scary topic, you see. And my feelings on it are less than amicable. Half the time I am not even sure if it is real.
I intend to avoid all romance anyway, so I can't imagine this will ever be a problem for me. But unpleasant things have a tendency to happen.

Yeah, we're all poets holding black roses waiting for September to end.

/Sarcasm off

You're prolonging and worsening your problems by running from them.

It's also incredibly silly to think you can avoid something so important in life. Not to mention it's masochistic and honestly it seems like a moody, angst-driven move that I can't understand why any person who cares about themselves would do it.

Or if they could do it, I should say.

I agree i am not eager for it to happen either. Lol every relationship my friends have always end badley. Women have a tendancy to dump nice guys because there to predictible and dull so they run off and find the SCUMMYIEST men on earth oping for excitment then want sympathy when they relize it wasint the best choice. Plus i dont think i've met a women i can get along with. Plus get real sure love is important but one of the most important things? really? Na f that. Love yourself thats number one. Love your family. Love your friends. Love thy neighbor. Then worry about petty relationships that will inevtibly end. Or mabey rush to marrige and get divorced further ruining harming how sacred marrige use to be. This attitude is whats leading kids these days to feel they need a relationship when they dont.Love between a man and a women is not the most important thing in life . Get real.

This. I look at it as a luxury in life. It's nice to have if it works out, but it's not worth it just to be in a relationship for its own sake. Quality over quantity is my motto.

 

[Tdc2182]

I...had a situation very similar to that. XD

When I was in highschool, I dated a girl for all the wrong reasons (not for sex, it's a long and complicated story). Anyway, one night on a date, she told me that she loved me, I told her flat out that I liked her, but I didn't think that I loved her. She said that she was OK with it.

Sometime later, she came to me (we were still dating) and said that she loved me again and knew that I loved her too. Apperently (much like you), I had said something somewhere that she interpreted as "I love you." and she tried to win my love by trying to sleep with me.

By this point, I had studied a bit of psychology and since I had been dating her for a while, I noticed that she was a few cans short of a six pack as Dr. Weird would say.

I didn't sleep with her because I didn't feel like it would have been right to take advantage of a girl who so obviously was just seeking approval and wasn't exactly stable. I thought she was bipolar and possibly schizophrenic. About two years after we stopped dating, she calls me out of the blue, "Guess what? You were right. I went to a shrink the other day and they said I was bipolar and schizophrenic!" in a voice a little too cheery for my tastes.

She's engaged now, refused to take her meds, and convinced that all doctors in any form are evil. Luckily she hates the idea of having children so much that she is at least on birth control. Did I mention that she became a nymphomaniac right after I broke up with her?

Oh yeah, I've had my share of crazy. That's a pie I'd rather skip out on, thanks. XD

I think everyone needs to experience a little bit of crazy before you can really understand a relationship.

 

[elilupe]

The only time its happened when me and the other person were old enough to know what the fuck we were talking about was by someone who lives far away, who I could not see, and who I loved back. So it was in one way nice to know they felt the same way, in another sense not so nice to know I couldn't see her either way.

Hey same with me! Sucks dont it...

Yeah. Tried long distance with her.

I learned to never try long distance from the experience.

Yeah me and her want to try long distance but we have also heard its not a good idea so...yeah XD

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

I was in shock. I also got a strange sense of deja vu, like an out-of-body experience. I was humbled by it, and she became my first girlfriend. Yay!

Except she forced me into cunulingus beforehand so it was also kind of yucky. (I shan't go into further detail there...)

I don't know if I should laugh or not. All I shall say is that you must have been doing something right. XD

It's just it was with my best friend and it was extremely awkward for me! ...but feel free to laugh regardless, in retrospect it is kinda funny. Oh and we were watching Watchmen at the time, so now everytime I watch The Comedian's funeral scene it's all I can think about.

*laughs nervously*

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I was in shock. I also got a strange sense of deja vu, like an out-of-body experience. I was humbled by it, and she became my first girlfriend. Yay!

Except she forced me into cunulingus beforehand so it was also kind of yucky. (I shan't go into further detail there...)

I don't know if I should laugh or not. All I shall say is that you must have been doing something right. XD

It's just it was with my best friend and it was extremely awkward for me! ...but feel free to laugh regardless, in retrospect it is kinda funny. Oh and we were watching Watchmen at the time, so now everytime I watch The Comedian's funeral scene it's all I can think about.

*laughs nervously*

I say I don't know if I should laugh because I've been in a situation...not exactly like that but similar enough that it brought back...interresting memories. XD

Just the thought of a someone forcing something like that then saying that they love you makes me chuckle. Reminds me of the good times I had in highschool and my abusive female friend. XD

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I still remember the first time my boyfriend said it.

St. Paddy's Day, 2010. We had been together for a very short time, but I was already pretty crazy about him and thought he felt the same way. We'd been kind of dancing around the words for awhile, but one evening we were camming while I was working on something and talking about how the visit I was intending to make would go.

I was looking away, and ended up saying it first as part of a sentence. "Yeah, I love you, but I need to spend time with so-and-so too while I'm out there." He went dead silent, and I turned to look at the camera to see him looking a little shocked. Replaying what I'd said, I clapped a hand over my mouth and just shut up.

He teased me for a little while, and I kept insisting that I hadn't meant to say it, it slipped out, it was out of context... then he looked me dead in the eyes and asked "So you don't want me to say it back?"

I thought my heart was going to stop, but I managed, "Not if you don't want to."

He responded with "I love you. Silly girl."

Still makes me smile, and we laugh about it now.

 

[Redd]

Crap. Where do I begin? I've never been a suave person, due to having to much common sense and not wanting to just flirt with someone for now reason ( common sense in this situation would be the common sense not to flirt with someone who seems like they would shiv you in the lung for not saying they look pretty or something. ) Anyway! I digress, the first time it happened I was about eleven or twelve. It had been a friend I had known for a while. I don't really think she meant it as " I love you, be with me " as much as " You've always been my best friend, thanks. "

She was getting ready to move, I didn't know till the day before because her parents knew how much we liked each other. She came outside and we were about to just go run around the neighborhood when she said " Listen, I'm moving tomorrow. I just wanted to say, I love you. " She then proceeded to kiss me on the cheek, take my twinkie and ran off. It was heart breaking but, I got over it. Unfortunately I have never seen or heard from her again. I hope she's having a good life.

But the first time someone actually told me I love you and meant it was when I was about I'd say sixteen or seventeen. She was a nice girl albeit very bible thumpy ( I mean nothing by it. ) And being an atheist didn't help much. One day she took my hand while at school and we just walked to class. Before I went in she hugged me and said " I really do love you, ya know? " I smiled and just nodded saying " I know, I love you too. " three days later she broke up with me over religious reasons. She took my heart, a few of my cds and a few friends. To be honest, it sucked. I later found out that as soon as she broke up with me she had started dating her ex...who was a satanist. So in this case, ***** can go to hell. She can go to hell and die.

But yeah, there you go. My first time(s).

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

I say I don't know if I should laugh because I've been in a situation...not exactly like that but similar enough that it brought back...interresting memories. XD

Just the thought of a someone forcing something like that then saying that they love you makes me chuckle. Reminds me of the good times I had in highschool and my abusive female friend. XD

That wraps up my first girlfriend in a nutshell. Dominating, abusive - female, friend. There are other details that I know the more juicy of Escapists would appreciate, but for the sake of maintaining illusions, I'll keep my gob shut on those ones.

I still remember the first time my boyfriend said it.

St. Paddy's Day, 2010. We had been together for a very short time, but I was already pretty crazy about him and thought he felt the same way. We'd been kind of dancing around the words for awhile, but one evening we were camming while I was working on something and talking about how the visit I was intending to make would go.

I was looking away, and ended up saying it first as part of a sentence. "Yeah, I love you, but I need to spend time with so-and-so too while I'm out there." He went dead silent, and I turned to look at the camera to see him looking a little shocked. Replaying what I'd said, I clapped a hand over my mouth and just shut up.

He teased me for a little while, and I kept insisting that I hadn't meant to say it, it slipped out, it was out of context... then he looked me dead in the eyes and asked "So you don't want me to say it back?"

I thought my heart was going to stop, but I managed, "Not if you don't want to."

He responded with "I love you. Silly girl."

Still makes me smile, and we laugh about it now.

That story is so freakin' cute it makes me want to get a million kittens into a house and bask in their disgusting cuteness. Or, y'know, just play Kirby's Epic Yarn.

 

[smurf_you]

There have been a few occasions that this has happened to me, and honestly besides my bf that Im with now, it's been.... awkward, especially since it's been from guys that I've known for a long time, that I have NEVER had feelings for.... now I just need to get one of them to Stop. Freaking. Calling. Me. >.<

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

There have been a few occasions that this has happened to me, and honestly besides my bf that Im with now, it's been.... awkward, especially since it's been from guys that I've known for a long time, that I have NEVER had feelings for.... now I just need to get one of them to Stop. Freaking. Calling. Me. >.<

I used to have a super crush on one of my close female friends. I thought I was in love with her and told her so. She told me that would never work out, but I, because I guess I'm something of a masochist, kept holding out hope for it for a little while longer.

Then I finally came to my senses and got over it. We're still friends, but other than having the crush on her, I never went super stalker or anything. Hell, I never even went stalker. I did have an unfortunate habit of calling her either while she was about to get in, in, or getting out of the shower though. Never figured that one out. XD

 

[Palademon]

I questioned their sanity, failed to commit my own feelings, then wondered why only people I meet over the internet can ever love me.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I say I don't know if I should laugh because I've been in a situation...not exactly like that but similar enough that it brought back...interresting memories. XD

Just the thought of a someone forcing something like that then saying that they love you makes me chuckle. Reminds me of the good times I had in highschool and my abusive female friend. XD

That wraps up my first girlfriend in a nutshell. Dominating, abusive - female, friend. There are other details that I know the more juicy of Escapists would appreciate, but for the sake of maintaining illusions, I'll keep my gob shut on those ones.

I think that part of the broblem was that I liked my abusive female friend. She wasn't...dominating exactly, more like I was wrapped around her finger and she knew it. My first gf in a nutshell though...if I put it in words, I'd probably just get banned. XD

So I'll leave out my opinion and just give facts. She cheated on me with my best friend. I'm not friends with either of them anymore, oddly enough though, not because of that. My second gf was crazy, she was bipolar and schizophrenic, I've had a few more sorta kinda gf since then. One had a bf she neglected to tell me about and he caught us, which ended in me being stabbed in the shoulder. Only my current gf seems to have her head on straight and is a decent person.

 

[EeveeElectro]

My first boyfriend said it to me and it made my heart soar. Looking back though, it was a, "I love... Now we can sleep together."

Me and my boyfriend don't go a day without saying 'I love you' to each other and that still makes me as happy as it does when he first said it. We were best friends before we got together, and I always tell my friends I love them so it wasn't too much of a big deal. I do adore someone other than my fella telling me they love me though. About once a week a friend will message me with, 'You're beautiful, I love you!!!' ^^;

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I still remember the first time my boyfriend said it.

St. Paddy's Day, 2010. We had been together for a very short time, but I was already pretty crazy about him and thought he felt the same way. We'd been kind of dancing around the words for awhile, but one evening we were camming while I was working on something and talking about how the visit I was intending to make would go.

I was looking away, and ended up saying it first as part of a sentence. "Yeah, I love you, but I need to spend time with so-and-so too while I'm out there." He went dead silent, and I turned to look at the camera to see him looking a little shocked. Replaying what I'd said, I clapped a hand over my mouth and just shut up.

He teased me for a little while, and I kept insisting that I hadn't meant to say it, it slipped out, it was out of context... then he looked me dead in the eyes and asked "So you don't want me to say it back?"

I thought my heart was going to stop, but I managed, "Not if you don't want to."

He responded with "I love you. Silly girl."

Still makes me smile, and we laugh about it now.

This reminds me of the first time I told my gf that I loved her. She was on a trip with some friends of hers, but it was late and she couldn't sleep because something was bothering her. I was on my computer working on a paper and saw her sign into MSN. I did the usual, "Hey babe, you're on late." We talked for a bit, I found out what was bothering her, and told her to call me.

She didn't want to because she was afraid to wake up her friends, I told her to call me again since my phone would ring, not hers. She finally did and I said, "I love you. So cheer up, and we can talk about this more when you get back."

After a shocked pause, she said, "I love you too."

I chuckled and told her that I knew and had known for a while. We just celebrated our seven month anniversary. She's awesome.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

My first boyfriend said it to me and it made my heart soar. Looking back though, it was a, "I love... Now we can sleep together."

Me and my boyfriend don't go a day without saying 'I love you' to each other and that still makes me as happy as it does when he first said it. We were best friends before we got together, and I always tell my friends I love them so it wasn't too much of a big deal. I do adore someone other than my fella telling me they love me though. About once a week a friend will message me with, 'You're beautiful, I love you!!!' ^^;

My gf and I tell each other that we love each other every day. Sometimes she says that she doesn't deserve me or something along those lines. I told her that I love her and that I'm here to stay, no matter what. Her dad hates me, she's been in trouble before and I helped her out, I remind her that if I didn't love her, I wouldn't still be around. She's amazing, and I wouldn't trade her for anyone else.

 

[EeveeElectro]

My first boyfriend said it to me and it made my heart soar. Looking back though, it was a, "I love... Now we can sleep together."

Me and my boyfriend don't go a day without saying 'I love you' to each other and that still makes me as happy as it does when he first said it. We were best friends before we got together, and I always tell my friends I love them so it wasn't too much of a big deal. I do adore someone other than my fella telling me they love me though. About once a week a friend will message me with, 'You're beautiful, I love you!!!' ^^;

My gf and I tell each other that we love each other every day. Sometimes she says that she doesn't deserve me or something along those lines. I told her that I love her and that I'm here to stay, no matter what. Her dad hates me, she's been in trouble before and I helped her out, I remind her that if I didn't love her, I wouldn't still be around. She's amazing, and I wouldn't trade her for anyone else.

Bless. Don't worry, every girl feels like that and I'm sure some guys feel the same at some point. She probably feels that way because you help her out and she feels like she doesn't do anything in return. Which she doesn't need to, because you help out the people you love out of the kindness of your own heart and don't need anything as a thank you.
My exes mum hated me too for some unknown reason. Although she was lovely to my face, but apparently I was a slag and a whore and a money grabbing ***** when I was out of earshot