What's a 'deal-breaker' for you when it comes to a possible relationship?

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Reginald

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Don't knock it 'till you've tried it, that's my motto. It's also why all of my deal breakers are all based on personal experiences. It's also why my love life is so awful.

- Drugs. I dated someone who I found out was an alcoholic, loved the side-effects of sleeping pills, and would shoot hop on occasion. Refused any help, claiming she had no problem. She would call me at 2 in the morning, high as a kite being flown by Ozzy Osbourne, and complain about feeling ill, her symptoms matching those of opiate withdrawals.
- Cheating. I was with someone for eight months, who cheated on me at least five times in that period.
- Religious zealots. One girl spent our entire second date trying to convert me to her sect of Christianity.
- Liars. Just in general, I guess.
- Having no self esteem whatsoever. I was with a gorgeous young woman at one point who was convinced she was hideous. She was funny, smart, shared some of my taste in music, but every conversation would turn to her feeling sorry for herself. She was too insecure to be intimate with anybody, and we scarcely saw each other because she was worried we might get carried away and I'd see her nude.
- Hinters. People who drop hints rather than just saying things. I knew a girl throughout highschool that dropped hints for two years. She finally got sick of it and moved to the other side of the country. After that happened, I looked back at our time together and realized she wanted a relationship with me (she totally did, not just wishful thinking). I would've been up for it if she just asked in plain terms, but no, she had to beat around the bush, and so she never got her bush beaten. Sloppy analogy, I know.
- Anyone who left their boyfriend to pursue me. If they did it once, they'll do it again, and next time I'll be the one left behind. Sorry, lady I met at a party one time, I just can't trust you.
- STD's. I knew a girl with heaps of STD's, who wanted to share them. No deal, STD's are a private thing, like using the toilet, or internet piracy.

I have more grievances nobody cares about, very specific ones, though they're probably not appropriate for these fora.
 

Keoul

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-stupid
-Obese
-Short Hair (reminds me of someone I despise >>)
-Selfish
-Massive Hypocrite

Captcha: Enjoy Life
Getting a feeling that the captchas are sentient O.O
 

EeveeElectro

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I couldn't date an animal hater either. Especially those who are really vocal about it... Fairy snuff if you dislike animals, but why do some people think it's okay to say, "Ugh, I hate dogs/cats/rabbits/etc, if one came near me I'd kill it!"
I'd just think you were sick and immature and certainly don't deserve anyone loving you.

Smoker, nope. Druggie, nope. Womanizer, nope.

Also honesty is not always the best policy. Telling me I look fat when I think I look okay today will get you a few weeks of stony silence.
 

MetalMagpie

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Let's have a think...

- very religious
- massively overweight
- controlling
- ideologically incompatible with me

"Ideologically incompatible" here meaning something like "doesn't believe women should have the vote". Disagreeing with me on unimportant points (like whether the Star Wars prequels are any good) is perfectly allowable.
 

Bertylicious

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If we couldn't banter with each other then the relationship would be still-born so that is key. Also, the succesful candidate for the position of love of my life will be:

A smoker
Low self esteem
A slob
Unambitious
Compassionate

We'll live a life of aesthetic bliss.
 

Vault101

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Luna said:
She can't be a gossiping *****,
there are two types of peopel in this world..those who like Gossup, and those who are lying when they say they don't (my brother said that incidently)

[quote/]It would also be nice if she had a hobby besides shopping and facebook, which are not really hobbies. Basically I'd like her to be relatively interesting.[/quote]

awww, come on, not all womens hobbies include shopping and facebook
The Pinray said:
Virgins
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if I may ask, what is it you find off putting about virgins?
 

Lovely Mixture

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Yeah religious zealotry, close-mindedness, and racism would be deal breakers for me. Accepting each others hobbies is a must as well.
 

manic_depressive13

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- They can't be religious. Not even if they're really moderate. It just bothers me.
- Conservative political inclinations piss me off. They have to be on the left of the political spectrum.
- They have to like animals and not give me shit about being vegetarian. They don't have to be vegetarian themselves. They just have to not be cunts about it.
 

Aprilgold

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Welp, for dudes its very simple.
Can't be a douche.
Can't be doing drugs.
Can't be a smoker.
Can't be a drinker.
Has to at least love me on some level other then for my things / money.
I don't know how a religious gay dude works, but they can't be highly religious, maybe slightly but everything else is a no-go.
 

Powereaver

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There are reasons I don't date anymore, but I'll share some deal-breakers anyway.

-If they are a chain smoker/heavy smoker. I would have to REALLY want the person to put up with smoking. Marijuana is fine though of course. I grew up with my mom as a chain smoker and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore.

-If they suck badly at kissing and refuse to try new things like practice kissing. *It's happened*

-I like people that can talk, I have only been with quiet people and I eventually get tired of doing ALL the talking, wondering if they are even listening. You don't have to be super chatty, just enjoy talking.

-If there personality disagree's with me. *This is probably the biggest deal-breaker and it is very hard to describe in detail*

All you need is love?
The funny thing about me is my friends always get tired of me talking too much they are like can you be quiet for like 5 minutes.. so they have the opposite problem they cant shut me up :D
 

Whateveralot

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I hate it when a girl demands loads of attention. I'm willing to give a lot of attention, but I've been with a completely obsessive girl once and it was a nightmare.

She also needs personality. A will of her own. Something that can act independantly of others.

Arrogance and hypocricy. Two massive and kind of connected things that break deals for me.

Lies. Obviously. But I can understand that some people don't give ALL their information straight away; that would be downright stupid to demand. But lies is a completely different thing.

Also, creativity and playfulness. No boring girls. They would get annoyed by me pretty quickly anyway (I can be all over the place sometimes).
 

The Pinray

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Vault101 said:
The Pinray said:
Virgins
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if I may ask, what is it you find off putting about virgins?
You certainly may ask. I just don't like taking v-cards. I've taken several, and it never ends well. They tend to (not always) get really attached. It can be a good thing, certainly, but it can also be pretty unhealthy. It's just something I'd rather avoid.

If I know the relationship isn't going to last, I don't want her to regret making me her first.

Also, the inexperience is off-putting. That sounds so damn shallow, but I've been in a lot of relationships. I don't like starting from scratch when it comes to that.
 

Vuljatar

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Racism
Socialism
Creationism
Vegetarianism
Strong dislike of Star Wars
Lack of respect for Joss Whedon
Needy/clinging
Hoarding (even on a small scale)

Those are just the biggest deal-breakers that come immediately to mind.
 

Vault101

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The Pinray said:
You certainly may ask. I just don't like taking v-cards. I've taken several, and it never ends well. They tend to (not always) get really attached. It can be a good thing, certainly, but it can also be pretty unhealthy. It's just something I'd rather avoid.

If I know the relationship isn't going to last, I don't want her to regret making me her first.

Also, the inexperience is off-putting. That sounds so damn shallow, but I've been in a lot of relationships. I don't like starting from scratch when it comes to that.
well I imagine most people dont stay forever "with their first"..unless its a "no sex before marrage" type deal

and I can sort of understand that...I'm not sure Id was to get with an inexperienced guy...only because of my lack of experience though
 

piinyouri

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Well physical abuse would be an instant "Get out".

Also any fetish that would be harmful to either of us in any way.

I tend to not get on well with folks who are too overly serious all the time.
 

Vault101

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Vuljatar said:
Hoarding (even on a small scale)

Those are just the biggest deal-breakers that come immediately to mind.
really? I dont see why thats an issue unless its the actual mental disorder hoarding
 

Rawne1980

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Anyone that tries to change me to match their ideals.

My ex didn't drink at all and expected me to stop going out for a pint with my friends. Relationship didn't last long.