Whats wrong with long term relationships?
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Quite a few people on here are agaist marriage, but that's not the same as being against long-term relationships. There was a thread recently where a lot of us said we didn't see the point in expecting every relationship to be long-term from the word go, but that's not the same thing either. And yeah, there are the same few bitter people who've had bad experiences and/or can't get a partner and just seem to be anti all relationships... So I'm not quite sure what you're getting at.
So... OT: nothing wrong with long-term relationships. Or short-term relationships. Or one night stands. Or no relationships at all.
So... OT: nothing wrong with long-term relationships. Or short-term relationships. Or one night stands. Or no relationships at all.
Well in my case, I've found that long-term relationships are awesome, but always end with pain that outweighs the good. Hahaha.
Ive been in two relationships. Starting from 15 ish. The first lasted about 2 years and this ones being going on for 1.5 years. I was surprised, teen relationships pretty much always crumble. However id like to point out the last 2 months of the first one were complete hell.launchpadmcqwak said:
She was lovely but the thing with a long term relationship is that you get stuck in the mechanic, the framework if you will, of a relationship. You stop having fun together, it starts being all arguements but youve just "been" for so long that you dont know how to do anything else.
http://xkcd.com/449/
This happens. Basically the longer you entangle yourselves the more horrible and hard the break off is. Its NEVER overnight. It drags and drags and drags and you watch a once wonderfull relationship die for no reason other than both of you changed in ways that are incompatable. There is no "big bad problem". You cant overcome it. Its inevitable. And the fact youre so stuck to the idea of the relationship being set in stone, the "usual" makes the destruction of it long and arduous as it dies a slow death.
Long term relationships (although my favourite) are frought with pitfalls, deep deep heartbreaks and tricky involving break offs that dont/do work (and have "breaks".... fuck "breaks"). I havnt been in a short term relationship. So i dont know. But thats my thoughts on the matter.
To quote an abundance of katherines: "All relationships end in heartbreak. Through break up or death. Pain is an inevitablity".
The idiot in me will condemn you for not marrying her yet while the smart (and wise-ass)guy says that they don't need to be married to love each other.Daystar Clarion said:
Then the 7 year old in me will run in and say "There's only one can of Mountain Dew left in the fridge!"
Then the sirens from Kill Bill start blaring.
Then the fighting starts. The house gets destroyed, cops come, bodies in streets, lots of blood, swords and knives clashing, guns firing, Gundam comes out, mecha fights, city destroyed(if not annihilated), military comes in with their mechas, more mecha fights, move across the pond fighting, fight British and their mechs, French come out to fight the Brits' mechs with their mechs, Russia decides to end this with their powerful mechas, my mechs combine to form Super Awesome Mecha and fight the Russians, Aliens invade, mechs fly to space, mecha/alien fight in space, S.A.M. destroys the fleet and mother-ship.
Everyone celebrates in space for the victory. My idiot, wise-ass, and 7 y.o. incarnations are sad because they had to use the last mountain dew to power their Mega-Awesome-Buster-Shot to destroy the aliens. Then there's beeping on the radar. "Is that what I think it is?" asks the WA. "What is it?" said the 7 y.o. "Apparently, there's a large reserve of Mountain Dew within the moon's crust!" the WA exclaimed. The S.A.M. returns to it's original three mechas and the idiot and his mecha flies to the moon. "Whoever brings a chunk of it back gets exclusive mining rights!" he yelled over the radio. 7 and Wise-Ass look at each other and 7 asks "Double or nothing?" "Wouldn't be a challenge against that idiot" replied Wise-Ass. And then they raced off to the moon.
OT: I made a long story on this post that I didn't mean to make. Regardless, it only matters that you two can love each other for the long-term relationship to work. And yes, I am craving some Mountain Dew right now.
Well, you either know whether you want to be in it for the long-haul or you don't
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Those who don't, fine, as long as you don't lie outright to people so you can bed 'em.
If you do, be prepared to compromise & work out differences, or you're gonna' have a BAD TIME.......
I dated a couple of crazies, now I've been with my wonderful missus for nearly 8 years now. We're all but married, just a piece of paper at this point. Saving up for that, amongst other things....
But breaking up does suck...
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Those who don't, fine, as long as you don't lie outright to people so you can bed 'em.
If you do, be prepared to compromise & work out differences, or you're gonna' have a BAD TIME.......
I dated a couple of crazies, now I've been with my wonderful missus for nearly 8 years now. We're all but married, just a piece of paper at this point. Saving up for that, amongst other things....
But breaking up does suck...
My first long-term relationship crashed and burned horribly. She ended up getting together with one of my best friends a short time after the break-up in an attempt to get over me, which, combined with some other drama that had happened, sent me into a semi-suicidal depression for the next six months. Looking back, I still don't regret getting into that relationship, which says enough about how good a time I had with that girl in our best times.
So yeah, when it comes to relationships, I'm a fan, as long as it's with the right girl. The alternative to that is pretty much one night stands or fuckbuddies: I've had enough sex with random girls to know I prefer it with a partner I'm in love with, and fuckbuddies is first something you need to be lucky enough to find, and then something you need to keep feelings out of.
So yeah, when it comes to relationships, I'm a fan, as long as it's with the right girl. The alternative to that is pretty much one night stands or fuckbuddies: I've had enough sex with random girls to know I prefer it with a partner I'm in love with, and fuckbuddies is first something you need to be lucky enough to find, and then something you need to keep feelings out of.
Um. Nothing is wrong with them in theory. Couples just don't tend to work out their issues anymore. They tend to flee at the first sign of a major crisis. Hence the staggering divorce rate.
How odd, I'm in neither group. Guess that's what happens when you make gross generalisations.Woodsey said:
OT: I haven't seen a whole lot of railing against long term relationships so much as against marriage, as others have said. The most common claim is that they simply don't see the point in it.
I've been with the same person for over four years and plan on spending decades upon decades with her. I don't see why anyone would be against a long-term relationship but maybe that's just because I don't see the appeal of casual sex. I also kind of thought that was the main goal of getting in a relationship in the first place.
You mean to say that when you talk in GENERAL terms and make GENERALISATIONS that GENERALLY these GENERALISATIONS don't always apply to absolutely everyone, but rather the group in GENERAL?Mr Cwtchy said:
In my day you'd be beaten senseless for spouting such nonsense.
Heres what puts me against long term relationships.
Lust fades.
Now granted, love is a mucousy mix of lust and familiarity, but you have to have a healthy dose ofr both or the long term part aint gonna happen.
Because lust is what fades the quickest, its also why many many many relationships die. Then guys end up feeling neglected, girls end up feeling bored.
But then again I might just be speaking out of cynicism at my last long term relationship ended after 6 years and two bullets. So Perhaps my perspective is not entirely useful /shrug.
Lust fades.
Now granted, love is a mucousy mix of lust and familiarity, but you have to have a healthy dose ofr both or the long term part aint gonna happen.
Because lust is what fades the quickest, its also why many many many relationships die. Then guys end up feeling neglected, girls end up feeling bored.
But then again I might just be speaking out of cynicism at my last long term relationship ended after 6 years and two bullets. So Perhaps my perspective is not entirely useful /shrug.