When is it time to grow up?

[dsau]

Don't blame games. Go get a job. Your only 17 and you are very, very young. You have time to build a future. Are you planning for college? If not do so. If you don't know what you want to do go take gen ed classes at your local community college. That can also be a good way to get you GPA up. You have a long future ahead of you as long as you don't screw it up with drugs and booze.

But don'[t blame games. Take responsibility for your actions. People can play video games and be successful in life at the same time.

im not blaming games in any way shape or form, its my fault i know.

Well, admitting it is the first step towards taking responsibility for your self.. This is a good step. What are you interested in? What do you think you would like to do in life? First off I would go get a job some where local like a pizza shop. Your 17 and that is a perfect place to get some initial job experience. Do you have a car? If not save up and get one.

Do you live with your parents? If so offer to pay for food and utilities. I know it sounds crazy but it can do a lot for making yourself feel responsible. Really because you will be. If you want your own place start saving cash to get one. Start looking for room mates.

It is not that complicated. Get a job. Go to it and do it right. Show up on time and do what they tell you to do well. That builds job history. Think about college.

If you need to stop playing games to make this happen that is ok too. Once you are in the groove of having a job and being responsible maybe you can play games again.

my dad and i share a car but hes getting one in a week or so, so yeah ill have a car. thats also another reason why i couldnt get a job, my parents both work and there werent enough cars, so thatll help. and im actually thinking about going to this local college that specializes in music production and all that good shit. and i like the idea to be independent from them. thanks

 

[AlphaOmega]

2)You don't NEED a job if you are living at home, you only WANT one for spending cash. I had several jobs, but they were all to feed the need- the need for speed. Or other games.

Insurance...I paid my own insurance sine I had legal job age. thats 130 euro's a month right there.

That said, I cant say you did the wrong thing; but maybe slightly overboard. and a GF isnt important. Im 20 and didnt even have a real non-drunk kiss yet and I serously cant really care.

 

[ConstantJoe]

Gaming isn't for kids, but changing your life for the better when you see something wrong is one of the most grown up things to do.
I'd recommend taking up a hobby or sport, something pro-active that'll help you in the future.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

I would say you over reacted.

 

[darkless]

Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional.

remember this and live well.

 

[Dioxide20]

You basically overreacted.
You can game as an adult, it's not something you have to give up. Besides, you're from the U.S. No one expects you to do anything until after you turn 18 anyways.

lol GOD DAMN STEREOTYPES!!!! We Americans really need to step it up.

But yeah, i think you over reacted. You need to find a happy medium when it comes to videogames. You don't need to give them up entirely, you just need to manage your time wisely.

 

[Pimppeter2]

so i ask you all, will this help me grow up and if so how much?
and am i overreacting to much? was this a good idea?

A little, but you have a point.

You need to just relax, this isn't smoking, no need to go all cold turkey. I'll tell you about me.

I consider myself a gamer, hell im on here.

But...

Gaming to me is a passion, but so is basketball, looking good, working out, studying(feeling good), and of course women.

What I'm trying to say is you can work around it. Develope more hobbies, put things like going out or working out ahead of games. As for school? Study hard and game on days you don't need to do lots of shit.

If you really are desperate though, just say fuck it and don't play. Its better for you

 

[dsau]

so i ask you all, will this help me grow up and if so how much?
and am i overreacting to much? was this a good idea?

A little, but you have a point.

You need to just relax, this isn't smoking, no need to go all cold turkey. I'll tell you about me.

I consider myself a gamer, hell im on here.

But...

Gaming to me is a passion, but so is basketball, looking good, working out, studying(feeling good), and of course women.

What I'm trying to say is you can work around it. Develope more hobbies, put things like going out or working out ahead of games. As for school? Study hard and game on days you don't need to do lots of shit.

If you really are desperate though, just say fuck it and don't play. Its better for you

and i sholdve said that i have tried multiple times to game occasionally but it always ends up with me going back to where i was, so i dont think i have a choice

 

[axia777]

my dad and i share a car but hes getting one in a week or so, so yeah ill have a car. thats also another reason why i couldnt get a job, my parents both work and there werent enough cars, so thatll help. and im actually thinking about going to this local college that specializes in music production and all that good shit. and i like the idea to be independent from them. thanks

No problem. I remember how it was to be 17. It can be daunting and confusing at the same time. Music production? That can be lucrative if you apply it right. You know if you got a degree in sound and music production(non-video game related) you can actually apply that to getting a job doing sound production for a video games company. Sound production people in the video games industry can make a lot of money. After around 5 years doing that people can make upwards of $50,000 USD. But be sure to get just a general sound production degree. It is worth more than some degree from Full Sail or another media centric college. It is also way cheaper.

 

[dsau]

my dad and i share a car but hes getting one in a week or so, so yeah ill have a car. thats also another reason why i couldnt get a job, my parents both work and there werent enough cars, so thatll help. and im actually thinking about going to this local college that specializes in music production and all that good shit. and i like the idea to be independent from them. thanks

No problem. I remember how it was to be 17. It can be daunting and confusing at the same time. Music production? That can be lucrative if you apply it right. You know if you got a degree in sound and music production(non-video game related) you can actually apply that to getting a job doing sound production for a video games company. Sound production people in the video games industry can make a lot of money. After around 5 years doing that people can make upwards of $50,000 USD. But be sure to get just a general sound production degree. It is worth more than some degree from Full Sail or another media centric college. It is also way cheaper.

good shit. thanks a lot, im still not sure if going there or to a four year university but that helps a shit load

 

[finalfantasyrules77]

it is time to grow up, when you feel it is right, but deleting all your accounts on everything isn't excatly growing up, you can be a gamer at any age all it is is a pass time, meant for any age

 

[Deleric]

You don't really need to stop playing games to grow up. You just need to treat games more responsibly. Moderate it, don't just quit cold turkey.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Don't play if it isn't fun. But mostly, try not to be insecure about life. Everyone else is just as clueless as you are.

 

[Pimppeter2]

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Its all about priorities. (who hasn't heard that)

For example, when I get on the computer, I have the tabs for Nba, the escapist, Askmen, and porn come up. I frequently flip throught them. Thus my mind isn't always on games but other things I like.

Instead of planning to game, fit in gaminging wherever you can. Lets say you go to school untill 3. After school you have a plan to work out for an hour. You have a test tomorrow. Come home at 4 and game till 7. Then study till 10, watch some tv and sleep.


Or, you come hoe from school and you plan to game all day because its a week end. Jenny from french calls because she wants some dick to go see a movie. Go see the fucken movie!


But, if you can't help yourself, sell the fucken 360, erase the escapist, and move on

 

[Agent Larkin]

Just answering the Header question:

When you have a kid.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

You know I'm not sure what to say here....good for you?

 

[axia777]

my dad and i share a car but hes getting one in a week or so, so yeah ill have a car. thats also another reason why i couldnt get a job, my parents both work and there werent enough cars, so thatll help. and im actually thinking about going to this local college that specializes in music production and all that good shit. and i like the idea to be independent from them. thanks

No problem. I remember how it was to be 17. It can be daunting and confusing at the same time. Music production? That can be lucrative if you apply it right. You know if you got a degree in sound and music production(non-video game related) you can actually apply that to getting a job doing sound production for a video games company. Sound production people in the video games industry can make a lot of money. After around 5 years doing that people can make upwards of $50,000 USD. But be sure to get just a general sound production degree. It is worth more than some degree from Full Sail or another media centric college. It is also way cheaper.

good shit. thanks a lot, im still not sure if going there or to a four year university but that helps a shit load

For sound production go for the fully 4 year degree. It will be worth it in the long run. The BS(bachelors of science) in sound production will get you that much more respect when you go to apply for jobs. Also when you graduate, or even when you are still in college, try to get internships. Internships can be very, very valuable to getting you network of contacts up and running.

I cannot stress enough to you. It is not what you know buy who you know. The degree gets you knowledge but the people you will meet in an internship will get you a job. So even if you work for free, do internships.

Your welcome by the way. Good luck. Life is a crazy ride to say the least.

 

[TyphoidMary]

I'm twenty, I've lived on my own since about 3 months after I turned 18, and I play games regularly and have since I was a little kid. I played throughout high school, got good grades (fantastic grades senior year), maintained a long term relationship, and made some really good friends (because of shared interests in... Gaming).

Growing up isn't giving up the things you love, or I'd hate my life and have no friends. It's doing what you need to get done and putting the necessary (and often boring) before the fun stuff.

I agree with previous posters that you overreacted and should have done something like hand over your hard drive til your grades improved. Speaking of which, did your parents not notice the bad grades?

 

[Assassin Xaero]

2)You don't NEED a job if you are living at home, you only WANT one for spending cash. I had several jobs, but they were all to feed the need- the need for speed. Or other games.

Uhh... no? I NEED a job and I'm living at home... sure, I don't have to pay for bills, but I do have to pay for my car insurance and anything that goes wrong with it, college books, and other stuff... Luckily I got a free ride to college through some program at my school...

I'll be 19 in December and I've never had a girl friend, or dated, or any of that stuff... Kinda bothers me and kinda doesn't... I went to a school full of rich spoiled brats, druggies, and jesus freaks... so... I really didn't have any friends even because I didn't really fit in there at all... it also seemed like everyone there just wanted to have sex, and call me crazy, but I would rather be in a relationship with someone that actually care about me and someone I cared about instead of just trying to get into their pants...

School, I got kinda lucky with too since everything came easy to me... but there were other times when I had to sit down and do hours worth of homework on sunday night because I had played Final Fantasy VII instead... that is more about self control... and, I'm kinda glad that I've gotten bored with most the games I have now that college is starting in a few days... I really don't see what stopping gaming has to do with growing up though? I don't see it was childish or anything, but if it is becoming all you do in your life, you need some help... and I know, was there a few years ago...

 

[dsau]

I'm twenty, I've lived on my own since about 3 months after I turned 18, and I play games regularly and have since I was a little kid. I played throughout high school, got good grades (fantastic grades senior year), maintained a long term relationship, and made some really good friends (because of shared interests in... Gaming).

Growing up isn't giving up the things you love, or I'd hate my life and have no friends. It's doing what you need to get done and putting the necessary (and often boring) before the fun stuff.

I agree with previous posters that you overreacted and should have done something like hand over your hard drive til your grades improved. Speaking of which, did your parents not notice the bad grades?

well iv had previous... issues with lots of things and my parents dont really know how to approach me or anything. and they arent horrible, they just arent good. i have a 2.5 gpa but my older siblings all had 3.8s or higher, along with the rest of my family.