when is the right time tell kids about sex

[Ninja_X]

i would say never, because THAT talk is so embarrasing that youre about to puke.
my stepmom just uttered the word once, and i started to yell at her, and i told her that i didn't wan't THAT talk.

but still, IF YOURE EvER GOING TO HAVE THAT TALK, wait for the kid to come to you.
or just leave the school to it, unless you live in Africa or China/Japan

I kinda understand Africa, but why Japan?

 

[mokes310]

When they are old enough to ask.

Exactly that. My parents told me about the birds and the bees before I was ten years old...can't thank them enough...helped me develop a mature view on the subject at a very young age.

 

[Chimpzy_v1legacy]

I'm guessing that it's best to do it when they themselves start asking questions. If they don't start asking by themselves, compulsory sex ed at round 12 will have to fill in. Sure, some may not be ready just yet, but they have to know sometimes.

There are some things they need to avoid doing though.

For example, using a huge, a little over 1ft long wooden dildo to demonstrate how to apply a condom, like during my younger sisters sex ed. Yes, ingraining into young boys a feeling of woeful inadequacy is a sublime idea. As is providing young girls with the idea the average man comes equipped with a girl-splitter.

 

[Gramzon]

i would say never, because THAT talk is so embarrasing that youre about to puke.
my stepmom just uttered the word once, and i started to yell at her, and i told her that i didn't wan't THAT talk.

but still, IF YOURE EvER GOING TO HAVE THAT TALK, wait for the kid to come to you.
or just leave the school to it, unless you live in Africa or China/Japan

I kinda understand Africa, but why Japan?

they have some kind of strange sex law and people flip if they hear that their 18 year old child have become fond of a girl

 

[Woodsey]

Sorry did you mean 'or tell them when they're 13' ?

As soon as they start becoming aware of it, I had my first sex ed lessons in year 4 when I was 8, although some stuff had filtered through before then. I remember when I about 5/6 and one of our friends found out what a condom was. We all thought it was hilarious, and I still remember I had to ask a friend what it was a couple of weeks later because I'd forgotten.

 

[wootsniper]

Well that depends on the child.

When they've reach an age/level of maturity where the possibility of them having sex is there

This! I really think as soon as a kid asks about it that they should be educated about it. Whether you sit them down or do what my mother did (buy a book).

Your mom bought you Hustler as well?

"When they've reach an age/level of maturity where the possibility of them having sex is there"

no way! im i 14 now, and i think i know about sex since i was 7/8, you can't just wait til their 16th birthday

 

[ThePirateMan]

When they start going on the internet.

 

[teisjm]

Well that depends on the child.

When they've reach an age/level of maturity where the possibility of them having sex is there

This! I really think as soon as a kid asks about it that they should be educated about it. Whether you sit them down or do what my mother did (buy a book).

Your mom bought you Hustler as well?

"When they've reach an age/level of maturity where the possibility of them having sex is there"

no way! im i 14 now, and i think i know about sex since i was 8, you can't just wait til their 16th birthday

You think theres not a big chance of kids havng sex befoer 16?

And i'm not talking about lying about where kids come from, i'm talking about talking about safe sex, VD's, condoms and stuff like that. So that they'll know about the stuff.
I think 12-13 maybe fourteen depending on the child

 

[ace_of_something]

Your mom bought you Hustler as well?

Not quite. I dont remember what it was called but I do recall that there were alot of illustrations. One of them being a sperm wearing a top hat and carrying flowers.

I must find this book and make that image my new avatar.

 

[yaik7a]

It is futile . I learned about sex at 9 years old and I basically telling everyone.

 

[Go Fighting In The War Room]

Um... probably by 10 if they haven't asked or the school hasn't taught them. However, no matter who tells them, the first time is always awkward.

 

[zauxz]

Let them find out by themselves.

 

[bluepilot]

Maybe around 10 years old is okay. With a book which has a lot of diagrams and in a way which will hopefully embarrass them enought not to have sex until they go off to University.

 

[Gramzon]

Um... probably by 10 if they haven't asked or the school hasn't taught them. However, no matter who tells them, the first time is always awkward.

not if you have a bottle of my good friend Jack Daniels or my german brother Jaegermeister

 

[TheMatt]

When they are old enough to ask.

This! I really think as soon as a kid asks about it that they should be educated about it. Whether you sit them down or do what my mother did (buy a book).

omg, thanks for making that buried memory resurface. It was called, and I quote.

"The what's happening to my body book for boys"

I remember t so clearly. They had a chart that tracked the size of your nuts. I was a head fo the curve. Like, wayyyyy ahead.

Anyway, thanks again, I'm off to my therapist.

 

[Terramax]

When they are old enough to ask.

I agree with this along with many others. But to elaborate I think it's important you don't try to keep sex a secret are avoid talking about it in front of them. The more you do that, the more they'll think it's the forbidden fruit.

Unless you're religious and believe in no sex before marriage, in which case you tell them about it on the evening of their wedding

 

[notsosavagemessiah]

Soon as you think they'll understand. The more they know the better off they'll be.

 

[Lynx]

When they are old enough to ask.

What I was gonna say.
And I didn't start thinking sex seemed like an awkward subject until my classmates in second grade started telling me "it was gross." I used to ask them why they thought so, but they never had an answer.

 

[Pandalisk]

Well when they ask of course, why tell a 6 year old about condom use?, Ten seems like a minimum.