When Uninteresting Women ATTACK! 2: People To Do In Denver When You're Dead.

[SimuLord]

I'm sorry, I'll bite. What is the purpose of this? I appreciate the discussion but what is the motivation for posting stories about girls you have dated? Is it to brag in a subtle way or something? Like, 'look at all the girls I attract and look how boring or stupid they are and how much better I am'?

I really do apologise if I am coming across as rude here, but I am quite curious.

In answer to your question yes I do believe there is someone for everyone. I don't see it as a law of universe or anything but there are a heap of people out there and at least one of them will be perfect for you. However, bitching about your past relationships and how such awful people they have been on the internet isn't exactly a trait that will attract the sort of girls you like.

What's the motivation? I'm a born storyteller---and from the general run of replies and the friends I've made with my open sharing of my tales both successful and not, I'd say I've got at least a modicum of skill at the art. It's not for everyone and yes, I'm aware it can come off as horribly self-promotional at times (although that's tempered by dating being to me what stunts are to Super Dave Osborne.)

It's also very cathartic. Like "hai internetz, u can has laff at mai expense". A little bit of wordcraft about a subject at which I've a great deal of experience (failing miserably with women) reminds me there's stuff in this world besides "Effective Business Writing"---the homework for which sucks the very soul out of me and which I despise with every fiber of my being as a hideous bastardization of my talents.

 

[Kortney]

I'm sorry, I'll bite. What is the purpose of this? I appreciate the discussion but what is the motivation for posting stories about girls you have dated? Is it to brag in a subtle way or something? Like, 'look at all the girls I attract and look how boring or stupid they are and how much better I am'?

I really do apologise if I am coming across as rude here, but I am quite curious.

In answer to your question yes I do believe there is someone for everyone. I don't see it as a law of universe or anything but there are a heap of people out there and at least one of them will be perfect for you. However, bitching about your past relationships and how such awful people they have been on the internet isn't exactly a trait that will attract the sort of girls you like.

What's the motivation? I'm a born storyteller---and from the general run of replies and the friends I've made with my open sharing of my tales both successful and not, I'd say I've got at least a modicum of skill at the art. It's not for everyone and yes, I'm aware it can come off as horribly self-promotional at times (although that's tempered by dating being to me what stunts are to Super Dave Osborne.)

It's also very cathartic. Like "hai internetz, u can has laff at mai expense". A little bit of wordcraft about a subject at which I've a great deal of experience (failing miserably with women) reminds me there's stuff in this world besides "Effective Business Writing"---the homework for which sucks the very soul out of me and which I despise with every fiber of my being as a hideous bastardization of my talents.

That makes enough sense I suppose. I apologise for misinterpreting what you were saying for arrogance. As long as you raise valid discussion points (which you admittedly do) you can do what you please. My apologies.

 

[SimuLord]

I'm sorry, I'll bite. What is the purpose of this? I appreciate the discussion but what is the motivation for posting stories about girls you have dated? Is it to brag in a subtle way or something? Like, 'look at all the girls I attract and look how boring or stupid they are and how much better I am'?

I really do apologise if I am coming across as rude here, but I am quite curious.

In answer to your question yes I do believe there is someone for everyone. I don't see it as a law of universe or anything but there are a heap of people out there and at least one of them will be perfect for you. However, bitching about your past relationships and how such awful people they have been on the internet isn't exactly a trait that will attract the sort of girls you like.

What's the motivation? I'm a born storyteller---and from the general run of replies and the friends I've made with my open sharing of my tales both successful and not, I'd say I've got at least a modicum of skill at the art. It's not for everyone and yes, I'm aware it can come off as horribly self-promotional at times (although that's tempered by dating being to me what stunts are to Super Dave Osborne.)

It's also very cathartic. Like "hai internetz, u can has laff at mai expense". A little bit of wordcraft about a subject at which I've a great deal of experience (failing miserably with women) reminds me there's stuff in this world besides "Effective Business Writing"---the homework for which sucks the very soul out of me and which I despise with every fiber of my being as a hideous bastardization of my talents.

That makes enough sense I suppose. I apologise for misinterpreting what you were saying for arrogance. As long as you raise valid discussion points (which you admittedly do) you can do what you please. My apologies.

For what it's worth, I am under no illusions whatsoever about being "better" than anyone else. Except at accounting. I'll gladly let everyone in my 401 class know that I'm getting the highest grade this semester and if they don't like it they're welcome to try and top me (or pull a LeBron and study with me.)

 

[Kortney]

I'm sorry, I'll bite. What is the purpose of this? I appreciate the discussion but what is the motivation for posting stories about girls you have dated? Is it to brag in a subtle way or something? Like, 'look at all the girls I attract and look how boring or stupid they are and how much better I am'?

I really do apologise if I am coming across as rude here, but I am quite curious.

In answer to your question yes I do believe there is someone for everyone. I don't see it as a law of universe or anything but there are a heap of people out there and at least one of them will be perfect for you. However, bitching about your past relationships and how such awful people they have been on the internet isn't exactly a trait that will attract the sort of girls you like.

What's the motivation? I'm a born storyteller---and from the general run of replies and the friends I've made with my open sharing of my tales both successful and not, I'd say I've got at least a modicum of skill at the art. It's not for everyone and yes, I'm aware it can come off as horribly self-promotional at times (although that's tempered by dating being to me what stunts are to Super Dave Osborne.)

It's also very cathartic. Like "hai internetz, u can has laff at mai expense". A little bit of wordcraft about a subject at which I've a great deal of experience (failing miserably with women) reminds me there's stuff in this world besides "Effective Business Writing"---the homework for which sucks the very soul out of me and which I despise with every fiber of my being as a hideous bastardization of my talents.

That makes enough sense I suppose. I apologise for misinterpreting what you were saying for arrogance. As long as you raise valid discussion points (which you admittedly do) you can do what you please. My apologies.

For what it's worth, I am under no illusions whatsoever about being "better" than anyone else. Except at accounting. I'll gladly let everyone in my 401 class know that I'm getting the highest grade this semester and if they don't like it they're welcome to try and top me (or pull a LeBron and study with me.)

You're an accountant? Perhaps that's why you aren't attracting the right sorts of girls. Accounting is an awfully dull profession. Have you by any chance taken up extreme parachuting? With a wise career move like that you will be able to settle down with a marvelous woman.

 

[SimuLord]

You're an accountant? Perhaps that's why you aren't attracting the right sorts of girls. Accounting is an awfully dull profession. Have you by any chance taken up extreme parachuting? With a wise career move like that you will be able to settle down with a marvelous woman.

Fun fact: Statistically, if a man with a professional degree (doctor/lawyer/accountant/etc.) is married, his spouse is most likely to be a teacher. For girls, this means you're most likely to land a rich guy if you major in education in college. For guys, find out which sororities are full of education majors and hit on those girls!

 

[Kortney]

Fun fact: Statistically, if a man with a professional degree (doctor/lawyer/accountant/etc.) is married, his spouse is most likely to be a teacher. For girls, this means you're most likely to land a rich guy if you major in education in college. For guys, find out which sororities are full of education majors and hit on those girls!

I'd hardly lump accountants along with doctors and lawyers. It sounds as if you want a teacher then. Well, good luck with all that. I still do think accountants are boring - so remember my advice.

 

[SimuLord]

Fun fact: Statistically, if a man with a professional degree (doctor/lawyer/accountant/etc.) is married, his spouse is most likely to be a teacher. For girls, this means you're most likely to land a rich guy if you major in education in college. For guys, find out which sororities are full of education majors and hit on those girls!

I'd hardly lump accountants along with doctors and lawyers. It sounds as if you want a teacher then. Well, good luck with all that. I still do think accountants are boring - so remember my advice.

The other thing about accountants (CPAs in the US, "chartered accountants" in the UK and Commonwealth countries) is that many of us have the souls of poets. Accountancy conferences are dry, dull affairs (unless you REALLY geek out on financial statements---thankfully for me professionally, I do geek out on such things), but an accountant at home is a gentle, loving, caring, wonderful husband and father and does really well with his schoolteacher wife and army of children. Yep...ladies, you want to be happy for life, marry an accountant. You'll be the happiest women in the world.

 

[Palademon]

There's probably someone for everyone, but you may not meet them. And I often consider what people to be there perfect person, merely the best they've met. There could be someone better, but living a distance away or something. My main problem would be finding someone of common interest then figuring out what else I'd like in them. Unfortunately, in real life, too few to find, whereas on the internet and at conventions, too many to talk to :/

 

[Vampire cat]

Muh. I've met some people in my life that I am confident will NEVEr find someone to be happy with (more like be happy with them) because of how THEY are. Not because they atract strange girls, but because they in some way are unable to for example be nice to a girl. Or maybe they are so selfish most people would be amazed it was even possible (I know some people, I can honestly say I thought they were joking at first but they are EXTREMELY selfish)

If your somewhat sane and decent tho, yes there is someone out there if you keep looking around. Very few gets it right on the first few tries, some look until well into their 40's. But if you have some awkward social skills (I'm not pointing anyone out here) then it's more likely to be you (It's not me, it's you!) than the girl. It may sound harsh, but that's how it is =/.

In some cases you'll still find some nut of a girl that enjoys your fatal flaws, and if so; good for you. They say you should just be yourself, but in some cases I think some people need to change =p.

 

[TailstheHedgehog]

It's nice to think there's someone out their genetically programmed to be your soul mate, but I don't really believe it.

 

[Doug]

Whilst I hope there is someone for everyone (else I'm totally screwed), but I doubt it really. The world isn't a nicely ordered place when it comes to stuff like this, and as such I doubt its likely that random chance would generate someone for everyone.

As for myself, I had thought I was destined to be alone forever, but it seems as if there actually are some ladies out their who really do go for the nerds. I just need to find'em.

 

[Outright Villainy]

To the question as to whether some people can be so fucked up they have no reasonable chance at a lasting relationship? Yes, I think it's very likely. In fact I know such an individual who has severe issues with intimacy and trust. Most relationships last about a week and a half, and she can't even hold onto her friends (myself included) because of her need to be a total ***** to people who are nice to her.

If someone can end up with her (the way she is now anyway) and be happy I'd be genuinely surprised.

That said the world can be very surprising sometimes, like me getting a perfect girlfriend who likes me for who I am.

What's the catch?

[small]Seriously, I still get paranoid...[/small]

 

[SimuLord]

To the question as to whether some people can be so fucked up they have no reasonable chance at a lasting relationship? Yes, I think it's very likely. In fact I know such an individual who has severe issues with intimacy and trust. Most relationships last about a week and a half, and she can't even hold onto her friends (myself included) because of her need to be a total ***** to people who are nice to her.

If someone can end up with her (the way she is now anyway) and be happy I'd be genuinely surprised.

That said the world can be very surprising sometimes, like me getting a perfect girlfriend who likes me for who I am.

What's the catch?

[small]Seriously, I still get paranoid...[/small]

Is she autistic/severe Asperger's? Or is she just a thoroughly unpleasant person in general?

 

[Irridium]

FOR DISCUSSION! Do you believe that "there's someone out there for everyone"? Or are some people, by virtue of circumstance, either hardwired to attract people they don't like or so off-the-wall that there's nobody out there who would meet their definition of an ideal mate and thus it's pointless to look? Share your views!

Well, there's this one girl I dated who could hold a relationship and turn it into her becoming something of a "parasite" and leeching off of it for sustenance. She won't be doing that anymore though. Unless she moved to a new town.

Anyway, there may be someone for everyone. Its possible, and honestly it could go either way. If your in a good relationship you'll say yes and if your in a bad one/not in one at all and never have been you'll say no.

I think there is. It'll all come with time. Of course you'll have to meet it halfway and actually try finding someone. He/She's not just going to drop into your lap.

 

[Outright Villainy]

To the question as to whether some people can be so fucked up they have no reasonable chance at a lasting relationship? Yes, I think it's very likely. In fact I know such an individual who has severe issues with intimacy and trust. Most relationships last about a week and a half, and she can't even hold onto her friends (myself included) because of her need to be a total ***** to people who are nice to her.

If someone can end up with her (the way she is now anyway) and be happy I'd be genuinely surprised.

That said the world can be very surprising sometimes, like me getting a perfect girlfriend who likes me for who I am.

What's the catch?

[small]Seriously, I still get paranoid...[/small]

Is she autistic/severe Asperger's? Or is she just a thoroughly unpleasant person in general?

The latter. I mean, she does have issues with depression, but she used it as an excuse to treat everyone like shit. I put up with it for a long time out of sympathy, but in the end there's only so much crap I can take when I'm only trying to help. Having a friend saying they're severely depressed one day, to refusing to talk about or even acknowledge it the next, to then go on to treat you like crap... Well, it kind of wears you down. Especially when it's your best friend and you have to put up with it everyday. I'm surprised the unpredictable mood swings didn't make me snap and mumble incoherently in the corner.

And that's why god should have mercy on someone who tries to date someone like her.
It'd be ten times worse...

[small]Yay, rants! I do love a good rant...[/small]

 

[Scobie]

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[Akas]

In all seriousness, most people have others that they are compatible with, not just one person. However, that one 'true' person, the one that gets you 100%? Not so much. I hate to be a bit depressing, but I'm pretty sure that I probably won't end up with my one true soulmate, and neither will a lot of people. But that doesn't mean they won't end up with someone that's 95% compatible, and for most (if not all), that's enough to get along.

(As for why I probably won't find my 100% soulmate? I have an visually-based eidetic memory (i.e. I can recall random people/events from long ago, but I can't remember long sequences of numbers or stuff like that). Because of that, I think differently, and I'm not sure if anyone would ever be able to 100% understand me)

 

[Jaranja]

Muh. I've met some people in my life that I am confident will NEVEr find someone to be happy with (more like be happy with them) because of how THEY are. Not because they atract strange girls, but because they in some way are unable to for example be nice to a girl. Or maybe they are so selfish most people would be amazed it was even possible (I know some people, I can honestly say I thought they were joking at first but they are EXTREMELY selfish)

If your somewhat sane and decent tho, yes there is someone out there if you keep looking around. Very few gets it right on the first few tries, some look until well into their 40's. But if you have some awkward social skills (I'm not pointing anyone out here) then it's more likely to be you (It's not me, it's you!) than the girl. It may sound harsh, but that's how it is =/.

In some cases you'll still find some nut of a girl that enjoys your fatal flaws, and if so; good for you.

I feel lucky that I found this... O.O

I'll pretty much agree with what Suki said here. However, if you do find the girl that likes everything about you, even the apparent negative things, praise the heavens that you found her because, out of everyone in the world, think how lucky you are to have found one that's right for you.

They say you should just be yourself, but in some cases I think some people need to change =p.

Oh yes, definitely. Not change who you are but more rid yourself of the blatantly negative aspects of your personality. If something needs altering, it'll be damn obvious... As I've found out from my wonderful girlfriend. >.>