When Uninteresting Women ATTACK! (the anti-relationship-problem thread?)

[SimuLord]

It is commonly held as gospel that women should be careful to whom they give their phone number lest they attract the wrong sort of attention from the wrong sort of men. Well...that advice would seem to have crossed the gender divide.

I've attracted the attentions of a girl who doesn't seem to understand that as a card carrying member of the Beer-Commercial Frat-Boy Misogyny Club? (I blame too much Howard Stern and The Man Show during my formative adolescent and early adult years), I don't have much call in my life for someone who, despite her educated, physically attractive (think a prettier but stylistically similar Daria Morgendorfer from the neck up and a swimsuit model from the neck down) outer appearance is also easily offended, way too idealistic, and damaged goods in every unfortunate-implications way you could possibly imagine without me telling you what's wrong with her emotionally.

Yeah, I know, "shut up, I'll trade places with you if you don't want good-looking women attracted to you." But just because I'm single doesn't mean I don't have standards, and baggage-laden chicks who call me when I'm trying to sleep...well, yeah.

For discussion: Share your stories of members of the opposite sex (or, for our non-traditional readers, the same sex) whom you've rejected...and why you rejected them. There's a lot of "woe is me, nobody wants me" angst around here, but it's gotta cut the other way sometimes, right?

 

[Frequen-Z]

Man, in Primary school, this girl called Amy used to have her friends ask me out all the damn time. I was a weenie and always said no. Fast forward 12 years or so to college- BAM, she's a stunner, unfortunately, her interest in me hasn't lasted.

 

[Secret world leader (shhh)]

WARNING: wall of text inside.

*ahem* well...

Spoiler

I switched on my PS3 one morning to find that some guy who added me after playing my littlebigplanet levels was online. so i joined "his" game to find that it was not him but his sister that was using the account.

she then said to me "i'm sad because i don't have a BF" now, bear in mind that this was like 7 in the morning. and she asked me "will you be my BF" (actual words) when i said "i don't know anything about you" she told me her name was kiara and she was 13 (the age i was at the time) and at this time in the morning when my brain was half-asleep i said i would go out with her.

we played some of those "first date" levels and made our avatars hug and kiss (sad, isn't it?)
she then had to go and from there things went to shit (as they inevitably were going to) i never saw her for months. i met her brother a few times and we would talk and at one point he told me he "didn't have a mom" so i assumed she was either dead or his parents had divorced, i thought if they divorced then kiara would maybe live with her. at another point (still having never seen her since that morning) i learned he lived in [insert place name here]

i googled this place to find that it was in oregon (i live in scotland). i then decided that it would be best to end the stupid misadventure. so i typed up a 3-part letter (due to character restrictions on the PSN messaging). for the months before i had imagined what she was like and i realized as wrote it i had fallen in love with stupid fantasy.

A few days later i asked her brother if he had given the mail to her, he said that he hadn't.

I still don't know if she has gotten them. I hope she has forgotten about me and has some magical boyfreind who loves her tons. i felt strange for the rest of the day and all i could think of was her getting the messages and crying her eyes out. but after a month or three i got over it.

And the moral of the story is, never EVER get with a girl who you don't have means of regular communications with.

so yeah, thats the story of my stupid first real experience with relationships.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

In, like fifth grade I turned a girl down because she seemed annoying. And it didn't seem like she was serious, anyway.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

I once turned down a casual "encounter" on holiday because of a gut feeling, turns out she had something.

 

[WorkerMurphey]

I broke up with a girl because she said "exspecially" and managed to get cracker crumbs in my bed. Also she didn't appreciate video games or football.

 

[DarkPanda XIII]

Mrrr...I played an idiot when it came to a girl that actually liked me.

I was attracted to a brunette during one particular class in high school, one who despite it all, obvious had not a single ounce of interest in chatting with me at all, and rarely, rarely spoke to me unless I was there for some odd assignment and it would benefit her. Sitting at my table, though was a tall and attractive blond who would often mess with me whenever she had the chance. She would do little things, mostly to get my attention, including the point of tossing a rolled up piece of paper at my head, in which when the professor wasn't looking, I tossed back. I even got her to blush a few times when I caught her contradicting herself (including her talking about blessed virgin and I started to explain her previous conversation that involved her explaining this odd thing she saw on a guy's..yeah...) She seemed to up the ante from then on.

Odd part was that I didn't realize she was attracted to me until..well..a week after class ended. I felt a little confused and such, especially since blondes normally don't find me attracted...meh, really my story but it's one that I can't really feel bad about, just shrug.

 

[Valksy]

I pulled the plug on an r/ship with a lass who was very cute and very in to me but who was utterly incapable of expressing an opinion on anything at all. I don't mind if people have different thoughts on subjects...but please please HAVE some bloody thoughts.

Important lesson was learned - pretty packaging is irrelevant if the box is empty.

 

[Irridium]

There was this one crazy woman who really wanted to get with me. When I say crazy, I really mean batshit crazy, like she was a borderline stalker. She was obsessed.

No matter what I said she wouldn't leave me alone. Thankfully her family moved to California. And a couple years later my family moved to Vermont(which is really, really boring by the way. And has shitty internet).

So yeah, got as far away from her as possible. She was actually pretty hot, but I don't care how hot you are. I don't form intimate relations with crazy people. They don't usually end well.

Trust me, I was in a relationship with a crazy person once(it was before what happened above). And it was just the worst period of my entire life.

 

[Lust]

-snip-

I turned down a girl because I didn't know who she was.

What I mean is, I was in 6th grade and a couple of girls came up to me. One asked if I wanted to talk to their friend. I asked kindly, "who?" She pointed to who she was, and I couldn't see her.

There was a whole mob of people in the class at the time, blocking my veiw. I said no because I didn't spot her. Maybe I have tunnel vision or something.

 

[Halceon]

Hoboya, there's a few things to say. So, in no particular order

*Cute girl, too young
*Hot girl, glued to her cell phone, no initiative in life and an emo. What was i thinking? Oh, right, hotness.
*Lovely girl, smart too. Didn't care about my interests, no initiative in the relationship. I haven't even gotten a reply to my message of breaking up with her.
*Sex-only relationship, worst time of my life, really.
*Fat chick, abandoned her after first meeting IRL.
*Hot girl, fun to hang with. We had seriously opposite views on fundamental questions - she believed that homeopathy and other bullshit works.

 

[VanityGirl]

Had a couple of guys follow me too closely, called me too much. I don't mind having guy friends, but when you call me at odd hours and what not, I'm not very happy.

 

[SteinFaust]

in grade school, this girl stole my home phone number and address out of the teacher's "emergency contacts" box. she would call me every day after school, and show up at my house at random. did not want.

funniest do not want moment though goes to my friend, though:
poor hygene, emotionally stunted girl-"i like you, do you like me?"
rail-thin friend with mushroom haircut-"HHHelll no!"

 

[Girl With One Eye]

One of my friends used to have a crush on me, he was really smart and he wasnt bad looking, but I didn't think we'd have much in common. I went to prom with him as a friend and he tried to kiss me, probably the most awkward moment of my life. I should add that at the time I'd just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and after that I wasn't going to settle for just anyone.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I'm usually the one getting turned down. However, there was one girl who seemed to take a liking to me freshman year of college. She flat out messaged me "We should date" (I shit you not). I had recently broken up with someone though and wasn't looking for anyone. I didn't find her that attractive anyway (and my standards for attractive are not difficult to meet)

 

[Oh That Dude]

Well I made myself look a complete douche by warning a friend that I wasn't into her and didn't mean to lead her on or anything, she took offense and we didn't speak for a while. I think we're back on track though, and I don't regret saying it one bit. Better that than lose a friend because they got the wrong impression.

 

[Treeinthewoods]

I was afraid I would have to reject a blind date for being fat and ugly but I was lucky in that she also ended up being insanely immature, clingy and all around terrible so I could reject her and pretend I wasn't shallow.

 

[BonsaiK]

It is commonly held as gospel that women should be careful to whom they give their phone number lest they attract the wrong sort of attention from the wrong sort of men. Well...that advice would seem to have crossed the gender divide.

I've attracted the attentions of a girl who doesn't seem to understand that as a card carrying member of the Beer-Commercial Frat-Boy Misogyny Club? (I blame too much Howard Stern and The Man Show during my formative adolescent and early adult years), I don't have much call in my life for someone who, despite her educated, physically attractive (think a prettier but stylistically similar Daria Morgendorfer from the neck up and a swimsuit model from the neck down) outer appearance is also easily offended, way too idealistic, and damaged goods in every unfortunate-implications way you could possibly imagine without me telling you what's wrong with her emotionally.

Yeah, I know, "shut up, I'll trade places with you if you don't want good-looking women attracted to you." But just because I'm single doesn't mean I don't have standards, and baggage-laden chicks who call me when I'm trying to sleep...well, yeah.

For discussion: Share your stories of members of the opposite sex (or, for our non-traditional readers, the same sex) whom you've rejected...and why you rejected them. There's a lot of "woe is me, nobody wants me" angst around here, but it's gotta cut the other way sometimes, right?

Sounds like you did the right thing (assuming you've already rejected her of course). There's nothing misogynist about rejecting someone who you're not interested in because even though they're attractive their brain doesn't do it for you... in fact quite the opposite, you're doing her a favour...

I've turned down quite a few girls in the past few years because they wanted to have children, something which I refuse to do. They were very eligible partners apart from that so it was a shame. I also turned down a girl once because she was a crazy psycho and I decided that my life would be better off without her - she cyber-stalked me for years after the relationship ended. Glad I pulled the plug on that one when I did...

 

[Raikov]

Had a friend's female friend more or less drooling over me at a party at his house some time ago. Good looking, smart. Has a kid, but that don't bother me much.

What bothers me is that she has a boyfriend.

If you're ready to just throw your bf/father-of-your-child away for some guy you just met while being drunk, how the hell am I supposed to trust you?!

That, and I'm not a fan of 'casual encounters'.

 

[Pillypill]

My current girlfriend has threatend me with a gun... twice and shot at me... twice. We live in England, where guns are not legal unless you're a farmer with a permit, though the first time she did this was in Amsterdam... I suppose she got it there and kept it. she says it's alright though because she 'only did it 'cos she loves me'. I've yet to recieve an explanation as to why that is true.

It's far too late to reject her now, she knows where i live: with her.

EDIT: i have just noticed that the vast majority of my sexual partners have tried to kill or have by accident almost killed me in some way or another. I'm sad now.