Where are you in your life ? and are you happy?

[Semudara]

I'm at a low point right now. My usual enthusiasm has been flagging, I feel exhausted and depressed, and I'm not sure why. It's my first semester of college, and the work is piling up. I feel like I'm caught in a vicious cycle and I'm struggling to get out of it, without much luck so far.

No matter what happens, no matter how hard things get or how hopeless things seem, I never forget that ultimately, I can do anything in this world, and there are so many joys to be found in being alive. I never let myself forget that. If you ever feel like committing suicide, if you feel that the weight of everything has simply become too much, do anything else. Run from your current life, change your name, embark on a strange new pilgrimage. No matter what, it's less drastic than death, and I think you'll find that life is ultimately worth living.

 

[Apocalypse Tank]

Nobody else noticed that OP used a triple parenthesis in his post?
You are either breaking new grounds in the world of literature or unprepared for adult life.
I think its the former...

 

[suicide samurai]

31 here, in the states. I assume you're in old Brittany.

Things have been up and down over the ages, and still, I feel no older or wiser than the 18 year old I once was. I still love collecting toys, but deal with health issues and the desire to purchase a house--growing up nips at my heels.


I've been where you are a few times, and yes, it sucks. And yes, it can get better, but not always.

I work for family, installing glass and frames in commercial buildings--it's nto what I want to do, but provides the money I need to buy what I need to do what I want to do.

All I can give--having been close to being in your shoes-- give and take one day at a time, and never lose sight of what you want to do. Also, don't drink water if the offering comes from a horned bloke.

 

[HitoriNoOkami]

22.
I'm graduating from college with a degree in Computer Science and a minor in Japanese.
I'm trying to figure out whether to go to grad school and get my masters or get a job.
I want to work in the video game industry eventually.
My girlfriend is going to be in the same town for 2 more years so I want to stick around for a little while.
She's the only real girlfriend I've ever had and we only started dating a year ago.
I never thought I'd find a girl with the same interests, but there's somebody out there for anybody if you're patient and stay confident.

To everyone feeling down:
Keep your chin up, work hard, and seize the day.
It's never too late to make things better for yourself.
Respect and love those around you and you'll likely get the same in return; maybe later if not now.
Good luck and god bless.

I know that most of the people that come to the escapist probably aren't spiritual or perhaps even hostile to religious ideas, but I find it comforting, so I thought I'd share.

Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Nahum 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.

Matthew 11:25-30
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit

 

[careful]

well thankfully i'm much more financially comfortable and less of a retard then you are, but despite my aristocratic hedonist lifestyle i am a depressed fuckwit just like you. every waking moment is a dull drudgery degrading my patience and mental stability. but even though i feel anguish in every conversation and in every act of my secretly miserable life, i dont act on my feelings like you do. you cannot control the infection of unbridled anger, but you can refrain from acting on it, and you sir do not. your lying, your not numb from emotion. your just in a placid transient mood of calmness. i dont doubt that you have been subject to some serious life-changing pain, but you have a whole life of painfully boring middle age coming. soon your life will be uneventful leaving you time to brood over your sordid past, and thats when the real irreversible psychological damage occurs inflicted by your own repressed insecurities. though i think your too much of a fool to grasp the significance of my words, i do wish the best for you.

 

[Treefingers]

21. University, 4th year.

I'm content. Happy... yeah i guess so, though things could be better. But generally i'm in a pretty good place. The one thing that gets me down at the moment... and it's kind of a big thing, is that the girl of my dreams is now living on the opposite side of the world from me. Which sucks, but you know... Keeping on keeping on. Or something like that.

 

[BelfastSpartan]

Anyone else see the pattern or just me.....Moody teens depressed with life contemplating suicide, blah, blah, blah
I went through it and had the world hates me feelings and contemplated suicide, etc it's a given.
At the end of the day though life is what you make of it, if your life is shit then change it!

I went through my teens flunking school, detention pretty much everyday, ended up with hardly any qualifications yada yada
Worked shitty jobs for worse money.

Then decided instead of sitting in a pool of my own pity I'd sort my life out.

Now I'm 23, I'm living and engaged to my girlfriend, getting married next June. Have a house with a mortgage, own my own car. Now in my 2nd year of Uni studying part-time for a degree in Computing to be a software developer, while working full-time at a job I hate but it's very good money for little work and lots of time off.

All of the above has happened within the last 2 years because I decided to get off my arse and something with my life.

 

[dominic.mccoy]

As a relative old timer (32 yrs old and counting), I can say with a little authority thats theres no set plan that works to be happy. Theres a guy on youtube called Tony De Mello, you should check him out. His ideas towards being happy are so simple but make sense. Basically he says that we're programmed from the moment we're born to be unhappy.
Think about it, everything your parents told you is a block in the way of happiness. "You need to get a career" "You need to find a girlfriend/boyfriend", "You need to buy a house" etc.
Its all crap! why do we need those things to be happy? We don't of course, but thats all we hear, our whole lives. And when you don't have those things you feel miserable, imagine that some elses idea of hapiness is making you unhappy!
Its so stupid when you think about it, but think of this:
The country in the world with the happiest people is Nigeria. The average salary there is $300 USD a YEAR. Thats a year, not per month. They have nothing there and are happier than us.

 

[Inconspicuous Trenchcoat]

Deleted for being pointless. Short answer is "sure."

 

[Nexus4]

17, finish high school tomorrow, so I can't say I'm depressed in any way

 

[tzimize]

28, living in the basement of my GFs parents. Working as a teacher in the 4th and 5th grade, unhappy that I have to work, happy because my job could be a WHOLE lot worse.

Life is good because I have good friends, and a job to make money for food and stuff I want to buy, and also that I have a girlfriend which is completely amazing.

All in all, I rate my life 5/10 on a completely unrealistic scale and about 8.5/10 on a realistic one. So yeah. I'm happy :> Most of the time.

 

[smithy_2045]

20. Not happy, but there's light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[antidonkey]

About to be 35. College drop out. Divorced. Making just under 50k a year and I get to hang out in a nicely air conditioned office all day. Have a sweet car and an great motocycle. I'd have to say i'm pretty happy with where I am in my life right now. All I need is a women who probably would have objected to my vehicle purchases.

 

[Ivor The Spider]

Just turned 20, two-and-a-half hours ago. In my second year of universtiy, considering dropping out at the end of the semester. Could be happier persuing a career in music, instead of doing a redundant degree in what is essentially multimedia -with a twist-

 

[Semudara]

At the end of the day though life is what you make of it, if your life is shit then change it!

This. Also...

Find what makes you happy. Rational thought won't tell you what that is, only feelings.

Then pursue that, no matter what. No. Matter. What.

 

[Talal Provides]

28, never completed college, stuck in retail hell, recently ended a 5 and a half year relationship. Sounds like I shouldn't be happy, but I really am. I don't owe anybody anything (except my creditors), I'm free, and I'm really liking the single life.

Girls are pretty great.