Where to find a gamer girl?

[Casual Shinji]

Maybe you ought to find a girl that you like for who she is, and not whether she plays games or not.

It might sound strange, but you can enjoy other people's company without sharing the exact same interests. That's one of the nice things about meeting people with different interests; You get exposed to different views.

 

[bluepilot]

I don't think it matters to be honest. Life with the second half should be combined but separate. Meaning, it is perfectly fine to have different interests and hobbies from each other. I personally really appreciate the role of games in my relationship. Something to keep him distracted when I have to do something (I still have to help with the hard parts without him feeling that I am taking over his game...it is a delicate balance)

Game plus Guiness plus snacks equals man out of your hair for the rest of the evening.

Then there was that two player incident NEVER to be mentioned again.....

So, your second half can support your gaming without gaming herself, same as golf.

 

[Rawne1980]

beat you for isolated. i live in tasmania

On Topic....

I'll tell you where you can find a gamer girl with 100% success....

Playing bloody games.

 

[StormShaun]

Self snip

beat you for isolated. i live in tasmania

Actually look at the distance between Hobart and Melbourne.
On our hand we live on the far west in Perth leaving a damn huge space between Perth and Adelaide which is our closest city. Do I have to say with a desert inbetween.

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So I think were pretty damn isolated compared to you guys or the rest of the world.

 

[Hoplon]

I heard that if you go to the cross roads at midnight with a copy of halo in your hands...

 

[DoPo]

I saw this yesterday, and I feel it's appropriate to post here

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[Yuno Gasai]

The question is WHY? Why limit yourself to a gamer-girl? Is it because you only spend time gaming and having a girl that's equally committed to the hobby means that you would never have to take her on dates?

This, so much this.

OP, the fact that you're focusing so much on wanting a gamer girl means that you're likely to screw things up if you ever find one. Why? Because you'll be so paranoid about losing her that you'll probably end up behaving in a manner that will encourage her to leave. Putting girls on a pedestal is another thing which will pretty much doom you to failure.

Just relax. Stop looking for love, and let it find you. Let it happen naturally, don't try and force it.

 

[Realitycrash]

So I'm at a loss... here I am, in love with this hobby, but it's impossible to have a social life with it. Perhaps even worse, it seems impossible to find that special someone with whom I can enjoy the hobby together. Seems any girl I'm interested in, I basically have to settle for the fact that she'll just never get this important part of my lifestyle. She'll never understand my simple joys, my sorrows, or any of that. The biggest portion of my life, and it feels like it's completely closed-off to every woman I might date.

I guess there are conventions, sure. Entire events just flooded with people who would share that common interest. Only problem though is that those are just once a year, and the odds of meeting someone who lives in the same area as me are very slim. Less of a problem for people I plan to be just friends with, since we can just meet-up on Vent and play games and talk games. Heck, I have some friends down in Vegas whom I only see in person once a year, if even that often, but that's okay.

Keeping gamer friends online is easy. But a relationship? Long distance relationships are hell! I know, I've been there. Sure it's nice having that emotional support there. Someone to love, someone to really get to know, to basically share my life with, even if it is online... but eventually comes the point when you need the physical part of the relationship. Someone to cuddle-up with during a movie, or while gaming of course, the kissing, the intimacy in general.

Sorry if I seem to just be sadly rambling on, it's the mood I'm in right now. Though I still can't help but wonder, how does a gamer who wants someone with whom to share that part of his life find what he needs?

Define "Gamer" for me, and maybe we can help? Someone who enjoy videogames? Eh, most do. Someone who is "hardcore" and have a "passion" for games, who sits and bitches online about patch-changes and plays games 8 hours a day? Then..You are pretty screwed.
If all you want is someone who shares your passion, but is female, then you are really narrowing yourself quite a lot.

 

[Blunderboy]

You know those places that you, as a gamer enjoy going?
I'd try there.

 

[Woodsey]

How about trying to find a girl that you like. Gamers put far, far too much weight on gaming's importance. It is a hobby, it's not a lifestyle.

 

[Crenelate]

"Gamer-girl"? What, is that like a breed or something? They probably have a lot of underlying health issues. You should try and get one with more genetic diversity.

Honestly, saying you want a gamer girl is a bit insulting, as though there is only one specific type of women who can suit your needs. If you haven't noticed, lots of guys are crazy about sports, most girls are not so much, but relationships still work! (generalization I know)

If your hobby affects your life so much that it leaves no time for a social life, I really doubt that having a girlfriend who plays games to the same degree would lead to a productive and maintainable relationship.

Besides, it's good to have different interests. My advice is to go out, meet people, and see if there's someone you like regardless of whether they play games. The point of a relationship is to take interest in other people and their hobbies and for them to reciprocate. You're already restricting your field by deciding you can only go out with a girl that plays video games.

 

[Jazoni89]

You can always find a friend that's a girl, get her to enjoy videogames with you, and see where it goes from there.

 

[TailstheHedgehog]

online dating?
I've never used it myself cos frankly I'm 18 and all boys around my age are retarded testosterone filled punks with one thing on their mind (yeah yeah, I stereotype - sorry, once-bitten twice-shy all that jazz), but maybe it could suit your needs?
Yet, I just saw a marvellous post above that sends that idea down the toilet.
Just be a gamer, if you want to meet a gamer girl. She will see your arkham asylum t-shirt and starcraft bling and know 'hey, it's a gamer! like me! we must have things in common...'

 

[IndomitableSam]

My twin sister and I are gamers. We tend to go to work, and otherwise stay home other than going out every once in a while. We have a difficult time finding guys as well, but we have each other so we don't really make an effort. Other than no sex, it's a pretty great partnership. And when we fight we can really fight, cause we know we'll never 'break up'.

My suggestion is just talk to people. When you're in the mall, in the grocery store, whatever. Some girls might think you're weird, but take the chance. Talk about anything. Yesterday while at Subway the woman ahead of me saw someone with twin babies and starting cooing over them, so I just started talking to her about twins. Turned into a full on conversation.

And just pay attention. My sister and I both have Mass Effect bags, huge N7 logos printed on them. Not sure how we could advertise any further. Other girls will probably do the same thing. Check their shirts (discreetly!). If they have any key chains or anything hanging off their purse. Listen to ringtones, everything.

But the gamer girls you're looking for are probably girls you wouldn't spare a second glance for. Most of us don't care as much for appearance and don't spend hours working out and then putting in hair extensions and fake eyelashes and caking on the make up. That's time better spent playing or browsing or whatever. It's a good day if I put on mascara and do something other than putting my hair up.

It is really nice to share your life with someone who's primary hobby is the same as yours, but don't limit yourself.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

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But the gamer girls you're looking for are probably girls you wouldn't spare a second glance for. Most of us don't care as much for appearance and don't spend hours working out and then putting in hair extensions and fake eyelashes and caking on the make up. That's time better spent playing or browsing or whatever. It's a good day if I put on mascara and do something other than putting my hair up.
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This lady speaks volumes of truth. <3

That doesn't mean that we (gamer girls) aren't attractive, though. c:

 

[MetalMagpie]

*shrug* Try either a match-making site or World of Warcraft. The advantage of a matching-making site is that location usually gets factored in. The advantage of WoW is that the concentration of gamers is far higher and you'll be having fun at the same time.

(Not that I've tried either of those things but I hear good things about both, especially if you're looking specifically for a gamer.)

On the other hand, you may find a non-gamer who still ticks all the boxes. One of my boyfriend's great passions in life is the electric guitar. Whilst I'm very happy to listen to him play (or talk about tone woods, headstocks, British vs American amps, etc.), I'm never really going to understand why this instrument means so much to him (and I certainly don't play myself). He's had four years to decide if this is a deal-breaker, and so far the answer seems to be no.

But we do share other hobbies (including gaming) so I suppose that makes a difference.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

... Try living where I live, I've gone out with a ton of women, I know a lot of people around here, and the only women I've MET who are gamers, have been in a relationship already for like 2-3 years, or married... or live somewhere else on the island and it didn't work out because of professional difficulties... I just go with it, maybe I'll convert someone into a gamer... Who knows! in other words don't go out looking to "find yourself a girl gamer" just go out and have some fun and meet some women, maybe just maybe one of them will have a passing interest in gaming and you'll be helping the world by bringing in another one to the fold, you never know.