Why are you hetero or homosexual?...

[Titan Buttons]

Man do not sexually attracte me, that is why a heterosexual.

But I have meet people of the same gender that I love and that make me feel 100,000,000 times better/more loved/more cared for then women I've been with, but I'm not sexually attracted to any of them. I just consider them to be family.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

Your OP states that is precisely what you cannot understand. That you've overlooked sexual attraction almost entirely.

I can understand because he has explained.

I'm sorry but he didn't explain anything, he merely stated he was not attracted to women. That's what you claimed you couldn't understand - someone not being attracted to someone else due to their genitalia.

It all smacks of you giving up your argument because barely anyone agrees with you.

He made it clear that sex is a big part of his life and so I'm sure that discomfort could get in the way of any sort of real relationship with a woman. His individual opinion has made it clear to me that for him, that would be the end all be all.

Also, I'm not making any sort of argument. I have no agenda or need of approval. I just want some answers.

 

[orangeapples]

It's in our DNA, it isn't a choice, it's how we're 'programmed'

That is wrong. If that were true homosexuality would be genetic disorder , which it isn't.
Its a physiological thing.

http://www.narth.com/docs/sheep.html

while not a study on humans, it does prove interesting and could be used to argue that homosexuality is indeed a genetic disorder and not psychological.

 

[Heartshield]

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Yeah, it sounds like what you have done is merely to take a vow of abstinance, rather than ceasing to be attracted to things.

Unless you had some kind of operation, you can't simply turn of your sex drive.

Don't tell me what I am and what I'm not. I took no vow of abstinence, I literally changed my biological structure with a series of powerful neurological commands that were given to the rest of my biology over an extensive period of time.

No operation was done, and I assure you that I am able and did "turn off" my sex drive.

I will feel sexual attraction to a specific person, regardless of gender, so long as that person feels identical towards me. This is not to be confused with bisexual, as I have no attraction whatsoever to any gender. I'm in a relationship, and that's the only person I have any semblance of sexual attraction to, and this person is also asexual, so it works out well.

If you're truly unaware that a person can have virtually no sex drive, if none whatsoever, then I ask that you please do some research on asexuality.

If you doubt that the human mind is capable of such feats, I'm afraid I feel no interest in spending my time trying to make some sort of point by explaining the dynamics to you or anybody else. Trust what you will, but I've spent the last several years educating myself on the subject so that I may become an authority in such a regard, as it's highly relevant to my career.

 

[TheSolemnHypnotic]

It's in our DNA, it isn't a choice, it's how we're 'programmed'

That is wrong. If that were true homosexuality would be genetic disorder , which it isn't.
Its a physiological thing.

I'm actually an asexual individual. I have no sexual draw towards males or females at all. To be honest, as impossible as some people may think it, I consciously made myself this way.

To give a brief description, I used to be straight, but when I was younger (In school), I despised how sexual my classmates were towards one another. All anybody would talk about was sex, or who they hooked up with. It made me sick, and so I thought that "liking girls" or "liking boys" would mean to become like the people I hated.

Every single day I SWORE I would never be like the people I hated, and when you tell yourself something with such passion and such absolute conviction, then it will become fact.

Your sexuality isn't "hardwired". You have biological tendencies, but even your biological makeup can be changed with the power of your mind.

There's been reports (As reported by famous professional success coach, Anthony Robbins) that some individuals with split-personality disorder have literally changed their very eye color, and eliminated certain diseases within their own body, such as lactose intolerance. These amazing feats occur simply because when they become another person, that personality has ABSOLUTE CONVICTION that it's real, and that he or she is it's own person.

People will just spew "No, it's how you're born!" without thinking twice, because they have a "progressive" mentality and either don't know any better, or are too foolish to bother to ask questions and learn more about the subject that they're pretending to be an authority on. These people are foolish and should bother doing some semblance of research, rather than thinking that because a bunch of people say it, or their best friend says it, that it's inherently fact.

As for me? I'm a very rare exception. Changing your sexuality is no small feat, and it takes much more than WANTING it to happen, it takes, just as with those with split-personalities, ABSOLUTE CONVICTION. You have to KNOW that you're going to change, not just HOPE that you will. The rest is just persistence and patience.

Having said all of this, I don't condone changing your sexuality if you don't want to. There's no reason. Why should you change it if changing it isn't going to make you any happier?

As for the actual thread topic... Being asexual, I can only say that I'll love a specific person, regardless of their gender, so on some level I can definitely relate to you.

Wow...O_O You are very wise. Thank you.

 

[ZeroMachine]

'Cause I like the tatas and the vajayjays.

I figured you'll be getting a million answers like that, so I felt like I'd put it in one of the least mature possible ways while still being civil. Really, that's all it is though. I am heterosexual because I am a male that is genetically programmed to like poontang.

I have a male best friend that I have a better time with than most girls I've dated, but I'm not physically attracted to him at all. On account of the fact that he has, you know, a penis instead of a vagina. And the lack of tits.

It's all about sexual attraction.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. It's just bisexuality seemed to make the most sense to me.

There is no sense to sexuality. Saying that one makes more sense over the other implies there is some kind of choice, which there is not. No sexuality is superior and none is inferior. People are what they are and that's all there is to it.

DISCLAIMER: I'm NOT, repeat, NOT saying you're wrong about it not being a choice...

... what I am about to say is that, because there is no choice, it makes PERFECT sense. Because we're born that way. That's very... sensy... Sensible? You know what, it just makes sense.

Saying it doesn't make sense is effectively looking at me and saying "it doesn't make sense that you're straight." But the thing is, it totally does. 'Cause it's in me genes, yo.

But, maybe this is just an argument of semantics. Which I hate. I've said my two cents. If you see it a different way, power to you.

 

[boss1592]

it's certainly, at the very least, partially genetic, i would argue the majority of sexuality is genetic, but why should that mean it is a disorder? it's simply a variation, just part of our evolution.

so yea, i'm a straight male because that was what i was genetically predisposed to be, and there was very little in my upbringing to challenge that predisposition

 

[Saviordd1]

Honestly I don't get it either. I'm Bi and I truly don't understand straight people or gay people, not to say i RESENT them, I just don't get why they limit themselves. I date whoever makes me feel good, which ever tool (or tools) their packing is irrelevant to me.

 

[Assassin Xaero]

Because I'm attracted to girls? Other people are attracted to guys. Probably the same way I despise country music and some people think it is the greatest thing in the world... Everyone is different...

 

[Kakujin]

Hetero here, more or less due to never having any romantic feelings or physical attraction towards a male, but have with plenty of females.

 

[Black Arrow Officer]

What do you mean, why? You're born with an attraction towards males, females or both. There's no such thing as changing sexuality.

Also, I have to make a point here: The frequently quoted Bible scripture that supposedly "assures" everyone that homosexuality is a monstrous sin and you're going to hell if you're homosexual, take this in mind: the line says "Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind, as it is an abomination." The term "Abomination" wasn't invented until the 1300's. The actual line is:

כב ואת זכר--לא תשכב משכבי אשה תועבה הוא

As a Hebrew speaker I can translate to "Not shall you lie with man [in the] bed of woman, [it is] against custom." It's the fact that many homophobes and modern churches ignore.

 

[stonethered]

I'm heterosexual.
Why?
Cause chicks is pretty, and dudes isn't.
Why?
If I had to say why I only find girls attractive, I'd have to say it has something to with the generally feminine attitudes and emotions, all-around softness, and boobs. Guys are jerks, seriously, who in their right of mind would want to date a guy =P

 

[Andaxay]

Honestly I don't get it either. I'm Bi and I truly don't understand straight people or gay people, not to say i RESENT them, I just don't get why they limit themselves. I date whoever makes me feel good, which ever tool (or tools) their packing is irrelevant to me.

I'm heterosexual, and have never felt like I'm "limiting" myself just 'cause I'm not attracted to women. I've had so many female friends over the years, but can never say I've been drawn to any with thoughts of a relationship. I too date whoever makes me feel good, but I've never felt like I wanted to date a woman. Not because I don't want to, it's simply because women aren't attractive in a relationship-type/sexual-type light to me.

I feel good with my female friends. I could never see myself in a relationship with any of them, though. I couldn't change these feelings if I wanted to, it's just how I naturally am.

 

[Adrian Neyland]

There is no reason for sexuallity, it is not somthing that can be rationalised, you are what you are. I dont belive that people canchange sexuallity, I think it is somthing that is encoded in your mind at birth. I dont think that hetrosexuallity or homosexuallity is something that you pick up or can be taught (It's nature rather than nurture) but sometimes people can be unsure of what their sexuallity is.

 

[Communist partisan]

I prefer both genders, thank you very much...

And we can't choose what we are attracted too, if you would try forcing me to be attracted to the other gender (if I was strait) I would set you on fire.

There's nothing to even discuss here, if somebody isn't attracted to both genders WHO GIVES A SINGLE FUCK!? I don't think I've seen a more stupid thread that is actually trying to be logical and have a important subject.

 

[TheEndlessSleep]

I took no vow of abstinence, I literally changed my biological structure with a series of powerful neurological commands that were given to the rest of my biology over an extensive period of time.

It's perfectly possible to be asexual. (Nothing against them)

It is not possible to change your sexuality merely by thinking hard about it... if i sit here and tell myself that I am going to become gay, I cannot see how it could possibly make me crave penis.

Sexuality can indeed shift over time, but through natural means, rather than manual ones.

 

[Roserari]

Flavor of the week.

#Beingasinsensitiveashumanlypossible

 

[CroutonsOfDeath]

Well, for the most part I'm heterosexual. When it comes to sexual attraction and interaction, I am only interested in women. Yet I've always been able to comfortably say that some men are good looking, weirdly enough feminine ones. I think part of it is the fact I grew up around women (Lesbian couple raised me; had two sisters, 4 if you count my wifes family too.) and actually get uncomfortable around "Manly men." Yet while I can admit that and all, when it comes to the idea of having sex with another man - I have no interest. I'm not against homosexuality of course and I do not care or mind homosexual men or women; yet I would be lying if I said that the idea of myself being sexually engaged with another man didn't disgust me a little.

It's just the way I see it.

 

[JackVykios]

I guess I agree with the OP. Were I to come across some wonderfull person that felt the same about me, then I would be quite the idiot to dismiss them based on their gender alone. By agreeing with this logic, I can't really answer the question well though, I guess different people have different tastes? No idea. Personally, character/looks matter more to me than gender.

I agree with this. I just feel there are too many people waiting to inflict pain on eah other for one to dismiss someone who genuinely has thier best intrest at heart based on gender.

Logic doesn't come into it. Love is emotional. Sexual attraction is emotional. The value system your brain uses to determine things like attraction cannot be easily deduced, no matter how the question is asked, and sex is so deeply ingrained into our being that finding its roots is like looking for the seed that started a redwood.
Bare bones answer: I am attracted to women because I find them sexually appealing; I see/interact with the right woman and my brain tells me she's a good candidate for sexual advance; I start to get aroused. I see/interact with the wrong woman or a man, then arousal doesn't take effect. I'm not going to rule out the possibility that there is a guy out there who could turn me on, but I haven't met him.

When sex is involved, the easiest way to think of it is: everything is acceptable between two consenting adults. Doesn't matter what; if it turns them on and they aren't causing harm, then it is acceptable, because the sheer amount of things that can turn people on...there's no point even asking "why" to most of it. Everyone is screwed up sexually, and, as such, nobody is.

 

[TheComfyChair]

I'm heterosexual because it's natural to be so (it's also natural to be homosexual, but normally with some kind of non-standard circumstances when younger, normally most people will be heterosexual because that's exactly what the species needs).

Of course, it's not a binary thing you aren't 'straight' or 'gay' in a 0 or 1 fashion, there's a lot of varying factors.