Why are you hetero or homosexual?...
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im hetero. i dont understand how or if anyone can choose their orientation. you are what you are. its like choosing your skin color.
I am straight. I don't think its all that complicated. When I see a girl naked I have an attraction. If I see a guy, I see the same as what I have or what I am. Its my basic instinct to be attracted to the opposite sex
So you do have (some) sexual attraction to someone (and admit you can feel sexual attraction in general depending on circumstance), but you say you're completely asexual?Heartshield said:
Honestly I'm gonna have to agree with TheEndlessSleep and suggest you've just taken a vow of celibacy. You can't change your "biological make up" by thinking about it. That's not how biology works, I can't use will power to fix any biological deficiencies I may have - that's simply not how things work.
People can grow in to, or out of something like lactose intolerance but you can't sit there and think real hard to get rid of the condition. You can control how you respond to things and their effects; to an extent, but you can't simply magic things away.
It's like hypnosis or precognitive suggestion, you can condition a response but you can't change your biology, certainly not something like eye colour - that's hard coded in genetics. You can't wake up and decide to have green eyes if you have blue eyes, blonde hair if you have auburn hair or to be gay if you're straight. You can sleep with (or not sleep with) whoever you want but deciding not to have sex with anyone doesn't make you asexual. It makes you abstinent.
I am a heterosexual, I don't know why I like men, I just do, women just don't do anything for me. You can't just turn attraction on and off like a switch. Sometimes what seems like the logical thing (as in, you find that bisexuality is more logical) isn't the right answer, as the human condition doesn't often follow logic. Feel free to disagree with me, but that is what I think.
I'm not an expert on relationship (having never been in one myself) but I am hetero. I can understand homosexuals but for me personally I have never found a man sexually attractive.
Or in a more joking way; Kate Upton isn't a man, therefore I am not gay.
Or in a more joking way; Kate Upton isn't a man, therefore I am not gay.
I don't really think there is a "why" to it. Sexuality is largely an illogical thing. People can't control their attractions. In fact, the majority of people find their attractions controlling them. So, to summarize, I am what I am because I am. ^_^
Once again, don't tell me what I'm not. Simply because you're limited to that level of thinking doesn't mean I am. I changed myself before I even understood the power that the brain has on a person's biology. To me, it was the most simple decision. It took time, and it took persistence, but it works.TheEndlessSleep said:
You won't ever get anything by WANTING it. You can WANT a million dollars, but that doesn't mean it'll appear in your bank account. You absolutely MUST believe in something if you want to fulfill it. This doesn't mean that if you BELIEVE a million dollars will appear in your bank account, that it will as if by magic, but the beginning of all changes that take place will come internally, and you'll find in absolutely demanding such a desire to be fact that you'll adapt the necessary mindset in order to achieve your goals of having a million dollars in your bank account.
For me, everything was internal. Money is external, but my sexuality is internal, and so I wanted it to change, so internally it changed. It really is that simple.
This will be my last post in this tread, as any more time spent here elaborating will clearly be wasted.
You know yourself, and I know myself. You know me from over a screen and on a couple of forum posts, and from this you deem yourself fit to tell me what I'm capable of?
I caused a shift in my very biology through a deep passion for something, and that passion was spawned from the contempt of the nature the people around me were exhibiting. You can accept that, or you can't. Just because you say it's not possible, or that "natural means" are the only way it could happen, doesn't make you correct by default.
You are correct in YOUR experiences, as your experience and your truest most deep opinion of the subject is obviously what you stated. In the greater spectrum of things, we both know nothing, and that's how things will always be. So instead, we have our experiences, and our opinions, and that's perfectly okay.
Just remember that I'm sharing with you my EXPERIENCE, combined with my EDUCATION, to give you my OPINION, and because I regard that opinion so highly, I address it as fact, since it has been true in my experience.
As for the other question... No, my career is not in hypnotherapy.
That's all.
If it's physiological, then it should be easy enough to change. But it isn't. And most of your physiological biases come from genetic predisposition.tomme69 said:
Originally, eyes were a genetic disorder. But they worked. Everything about you could be counted as a disorder, except it isn't.
More aimed at trying to rationalise why people would consider something like this to be a choice, but you did ask why people are heterosexual or homosexual. In my mind, that's akin to asking why someone's male or female! D=TheSolemnHypnotic said:
(Well, maybe not exactly like that, but very similar)
I'd like to say that if I loved someone it wouldn't matter what gender they are, but sex is a very important part of a relationship. Yeah, there are some girls I might be interested in, but as a gay man I find myself repulsed at the thought of touching a vagina.
