Because penis is unappealing to me? That, and sexuality isn't a choice, blah blah blah, I'm sorry OP but you just come off as incredibly ignorant.
Why are you hetero or homosexual?...
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I am homosexual because I was born with a predisposition to like dicks.
I actually ended up talking about this kind of thing down the pub once. I said that if I did meet a girl who, personality wise at least, made me feel like we were soul mates I still wouldn't be able to spend the rest of my life with her in a romantic sense because boobs are odd to me and vaginas just creep me out. I'd never be physically able to have sex with her, and sex is a big part of my life.
I actually ended up talking about this kind of thing down the pub once. I said that if I did meet a girl who, personality wise at least, made me feel like we were soul mates I still wouldn't be able to spend the rest of my life with her in a romantic sense because boobs are odd to me and vaginas just creep me out. I'd never be physically able to have sex with her, and sex is a big part of my life.
I can certainly see the attractiveness in females on an objective level, I'd just never want to be involved with one sexually. That's basically the best way I can describe it <.< you're attracted to what you're attracted to.
There are alot of people that are bisexual much to my confusion. I'm straight because I don't find men attractive in any way, shape or form but I find some women to be attractive. Overall though I find humanity to be disgusting so maybe I'm not the best person to ask.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Please read. How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people? I understand that we need some people to reproduce but, idk. If you were in a romantic relationship with some one but met some one else of the same/opposite gender who made you feel 100,000,000 times better/more loved/more cared for, you wouldn't consider them an option based on what's in their pants? Gender is a very flexible thing (feminine characteristics found in males, vice versa). Or do you think this theory is the result of being alone for so long and once I engage in socionormative behaviors I'll be able to see in more black and white than gray?
TLR: How is it you're only heterosexual/homosexual? Am I completely over looking/ undermining the physical/sexual attraction aspect of relationships?
Edit: No, I've never been in a romantic relationship. [I know nothing about sex].
Girls give me boners and men don't. That's pretty much all there is to it. I never asked why, but I can only assume it's because I was born that way.
I'm sorry I come off that way. I just thought I could ask this question (which I've thought of for years to perhaps have a better understanding of myself. And if anything I'd only wish to appear naive.Grey_Focks said:
I have the view that sexualities are just a bias. Everyone just has a preference for a certain set of genders in the same way that a lot of people prefer partners with a certain hair colour or number of limbs.
It would mean that someone who was very attractive in other aspects would perhaps be enough for someone to step outside their preferred gender.
It would mean that someone who was very attractive in other aspects would perhaps be enough for someone to step outside their preferred gender.
I agree with this. I just feel there are too many people waiting to inflict pain on eah other for one to dismiss someone who genuinely has thier best intrest at heart based on gender.grizzlyAssuager said:
Arguably. I've studied psychology and I think that the nurture part of the whole Nature vs Nurture (DNA vs Upbringing) is just as influential. What really isn't our choice is that we're made to reproduce with the other sex and have children - doesn't mean everyone wants to do that. Again, Nature vs Nurture.Dertex said:
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I was much like you a while before I found a girlfriend - lacked the ability to properly perceive the "importance" of sex in relationships. And while, admittedly, I did have fantasies of becoming gay when I was younger (I was a bit messed up back then, admittedly) when I've thought about it now, or even a while before I found a girlfriend, I didn't really want to become gay. It had been a young "ambition" to become a female. During my teenage years, with that thought, it became a "If I was a female, if I could have babies through someone having sex with me, I would find attraction to men."
That probably sounds like an anecdote or a weird tangent, but through all of that I failed to find the importance of sexual attraction. It's only recently, now that I'm in a relationship (to bring it back to that again), that I've found it actually kinda matters. I also only ever found one guy who I'd ever find myself in a relationship with, if I was a woman and the like. But he was in a relationship anyway.
Your OP states that is precisely what you cannot understand. That you've overlooked sexual attraction almost entirely.TheSolemnHypnotic said:
hmm... I'd have to go with, you want the other person happy. So lets say ( I'm male and hetro, so lets use this examlpe) lets say that my best friend and I ( who I have a very bad habit of hugging too much, again, i am hetro) were to have feelings... man this is a little out there for me, so lets say i did have those for him, but not him for me. I'd not want to ruin the friendship, or hurt him, so i'd keep that to myself.TheSolemnHypnotic said:Please read. How is it that people are capable of just sticking to one gender of people? I understand that we need some people to reproduce but, idk. If you were in a romantic relationship with some one but met some one else of the same/opposite gender who made you feel 100,000,000 times better/more loved/more cared for, you wouldn't consider them an option based on what's in their pants? Gender is a very flexible thing (feminine characteristics found in males, vice versa). Or do you think this theory is the result of being alone for so long and once I engage in socionormative behaviors I'll be able to see in more black and white than gray?
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Edit: No, I've never been in a romantic relationship. [I know nothing about sex].
I think that for the most part I'm not homosexual because I desire male friendship, but female comfort, I know it sounds kinda complex, but in essence, it's true
I simply don't "like" males.. I was never a fan of muscles, "manly" behavior and the general thought of sex with a man...
And as muc as it sounds like a bad excuse, I will stick to my fellow females because I feel so much more comfortable in bed... and I have more fun that way, too..
There can be tons of reasons why you go chasing your own gender. Each one works as well as the other.
And as muc as it sounds like a bad excuse, I will stick to my fellow females because I feel so much more comfortable in bed... and I have more fun that way, too..
There can be tons of reasons why you go chasing your own gender. Each one works as well as the other.
Wow...
You're essentially saying that you find it strange that not EVERYBODY is bisexual.
Well, newsflash! - sexuality is not a choice!
Forget sex, do you know anything about biology?
You're essentially saying that you find it strange that not EVERYBODY is bisexual.
Well, newsflash! - sexuality is not a choice!
TheSolemnHypnotic said:
Forget sex, do you know anything about biology?