Why aren't games chicks attracted to big & muscular guys?

[Princess_Dee]

"...in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate)"

That's why.
You sound like an uber douche.
Most "nerdy women" (me) would classify you as a meat head and want nothing further to do with you.

You also don't know the difference between "lose" and "loose."

This is me being catty.

This is me being a model.




This is me leaving to play StarCraft.

 

[ks1234]

"...in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate)"

This is me going out on a limb and saying- you're not that cute...
But thanks for playing.

 

[RobinHood3000]

Long story short, i'm fairly successful (for my age, i'm 23 FYI). I own my own home (yes, own, no roommates) I have two vehicles, a great job, and I go to school...and when I graduate i'm going to have a career as a police officer. Now here's the thing, i'm a pretty big and fairly ripped (i'm 6'3, 260, with about 10% body fat) I workout as a hobby but I just have great genetics so I pack on muscle and loose fat like crazy... but I love it, I love looking this way and it's also good because, as a police officer, I will need to be bigger, stronger, and faster than the criminals i'm chasing down.

Now here's the thing, I love when a girl plays video games. There's nothing that is more of a turn on to me than to see a pretty girl with a controller in her hand or to be interested in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate) Anyway, i've tried talking to a few(and by a few, I mean a lot) of those girls but i'll almost immediately get shut down bc they're like "look, you seem like a great guy... but you're just too fucking big." and then i'm all like "aww...damn... ". Here's the shitty part... they will then go and date some fucking loser who works at Wal-Mart and lives with his parents... because... I don't fucking know why actually.

Okay, so I know that story wasn't short... I was wondering what it is? Why will a gamer girl (because most other women are jumping up and down to be with me but it's kinda like... having a pantry full of Ramen Noodles and fucking hating Ramen) And like I said, this isn't an isolated incident... it's happened more times than I can count. So anyway, what gives?

-EDIT- I like how many who have posted in this thread have made the assumption that having big muscles means that someone is lacking intelligence. In-fact, I believe that both the body and mind have to be strong... I could not of made it to where I am in life today if I was lacking intellect... so I would greatly appreciate it if people would stop assuming that I am not as smart as my nerdy (and slightly smaller) counterparts.

I don't mean to sound like I'm picking on you, man, but it sounds from your post that it might be as much a personality thing as it is a physical thing. I mean, you say that the reason you're attracted to women who play video games is because it's a physical turn-on for you, and when such a woman dates someone that you view as less worthwhile, you key in to his perceived lack of success immediately as a reason why she should have gone with you, and judge him as inferior. You also describe computing, reading, and gaming as things that women hate - which, while stereotypically true of certain demographics, shouldn't be a stereotype you want to hold on to.

The thing is that intellectually-inclined women are less likely to be distracted what are essentially superficial marks of success like the number of cars you own. If your pitch to these women is the same as your pitch to us, they're going to twig right away to the evidence suggesting that what you view as important (your physique, your career) and what they view as important (any of a number of things, depending on the woman, but likely trending towards the books one reads and the games one plays, assuming you're specifically talking to women who game and read) aren't syncing up, and are rejecting you on that basis. If you dress in a way that likewise suggests that your body is the most important thing you want to emphasize about you, that reinforces that impression.

Tl;dr
I realize the above probably isn't very helpful, but I'm not trying to discourage you. Here are my suggestions for you. If you want to make a good first impression on the kind of woman you want, dress in a way that emphasizes what's most important to you. A few game-related T-shirts, or at least appropriately mature attire like dress shirts (worn untucked, if casual), would not go amiss. Ultimately, however, how you dress is still a superficial illustration of who you are; after your first impression, you will have to back it up by speaking like, behaving like, and genuinely being the nerdy, and perhaps most importantly, confidently nerdy person that you likewise hope to attract. Best of luck, dude, both in finding the kind of woman (not "chick") you want and in your studies/career.

Not to mention that arrogance can turn a guy into something of a joke. I have a friend who, while admittedly decent-looking and charming, is far and away one of the most arrogant people I have ever met. To quote him, more or less: "I like my female friends better than my guy friends. They understand me better and I understand them. However, I can't hang around my female friends because they all want to be with me. They all want me." Really and truly not kidding here.

Eww. You said he was charming?

 

[pearcinator]

Well I am 5'7 and weigh 50kg...so lol

 

[Princess_Dee]

"...in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate)"

This is me going out on a limb and saying- you're not that cute...
But thanks for playing.

That's cool.
I have met far more important people that tell me differently.
Aaaaaaand I've gotten more hot, smart, and polite chicks than you ever will.
Have fun playing!

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

Looks aren't everything, but they sure as hell get in the way. Stereotypes can fuck you over either way, because you're big and muscular you come across as the typical jock-ass-hole. Conversely, those without good physique come across as socially inept and unattractive. Relationships are largely a matter of chance and time. Assuming you're not actually the typical ass-hole that the stereotype suggests, you'll find someone eventually. Also, consider online dating as looks are less of a deal than personality online.

 

[Phlakes]

Spoiler: My previous experiences can be summed up thusly

I love that image. I'll be keeping that.

OT: Well, I guess the image is right. Stereotypes and that shit.\

EDIT: And from the looks of it, the stereotype holds true.

le snip

...Don't mean to sound creepy, but I wish there were more people like you in this world.

 

[Slayer_2]

Well, I dunno about you, but most bodybuilders I know wouldn't know the first thing about gaming. If you're going after gamer chicks, and you don't look the part of a gamer, you'll have some trouble. Appearances matter a lot, it's what we base our first impressions off of. They see a big meathead who spends 6 hours a day at the gym, and only cares about hooking up with the hottest, dumbest bimbos he can find. Now, I'm in no way saying that all really fit guys are like that, but it's true that a lot of them are.

 

[Drummah]

There is such a thing as too much of a good thing, and I couldn't help but get the sneaking suspicion that you would come off pretty egotistical about the whole muscle thing.

This is why I don't date "Successful muscle-bound big" guys or whatever.

They're usually fratboy douchebags who talk and care more about how great they look & the gym than anything else.

blech.

Chubby nerdboys for me kthanx

 

[GrandmaFunk]

look at it this way.. every other guy on here has a similar story:

"I like girls of type X but they only like guys of type Y, why can't they like me?"

doesn't matter if it's body builders chasing gamers,nerds chasing cheerleaders or walmart employees chasing lawyers.

I'm sure every girl has felt the same way at some point too. It's universal, it's just the way life is, you can't really do anything about it, just be yourself and eventually you'll meet the right person.

or you won't, most don't. but we all deal with it.

 

[William Dickbringer]

-snip-

I did read somewhere where women don't like ripped guys (because apparently they feel you'll spend more time working out than with them...don't really know credibility) maybe it's because muscles give off the Jersey Shore vibes to them
Although I must admit it's pretty impressive owning your own house, 2 cars, and a good paying job and not to mention you're ripped not many have that much at that age

 

[ks1234]

"...in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate)"

You do realize that everything you just slammed me for, you are exhibiting yourself?
That i'm an "uber douche" and "meat head" etc. etc.
...
I mean, you think you're hot... so therefor you think you're better than me and you're being a complete... well, I don't want to get banned but you know what i'm about to say.
P.S. Posting a picture of you being a 'model' ... yeah, well, that speaks for itself.

 

[StBishop]

Spoiler: My previous experiences can be summed up thusly

I love that image. I'll be keeping that.

OT: Well, I guess the image is right. Stereotypes and that shit.\

EDIT: And from the looks of it, the stereotype holds true.

Whipped it up in paint. Decided that a Venn diagram was easier than trying to explain linguistically.

 

[Beautiful End]

Well, most gamer girls might perceive buff guys as stereotypically dumb and hollow. Like someone said, gamer chicks are smarter; they have to be smarter in order to play past Mario Kart, the least.

Nerdy guys have a better shot of scoring a girl because they:
1. They praise the ground they walk on
2. They are almost scared of chicks. So girls don't feel intimidated by them.
3. They have a better shot at start as friends and eventually get to know each other better.
4. Nerdy guys are also smarter by default. Sorry but buff, nerdy guys are a rare breed indeed.

I'm not saying you're dumb. I'm just saying that girls might get that erroneous first impression. Maybe you come off as an arrogant guy who's looking to mate.
(As a side note, when I see people wearing tight clothes, girl or boy, I am immediately turned off because it seems they're desperate for attention. And horny. "Ooooh! Look at my body parts! You know you want them!". I dunno, that's just me.)

Could be that you're coming in a bit too strong. If you're saying that you ask them all and you're immediately turned down, it might be that...maybe gamer girls need time to warm up to the idea? I mean, that goes back to point #2 and #3. Maybe you gotta start as friends, get to know them better, find out if they're boring, gamer chicks or really attractive-in-all-possible-ways gamer chicks. Take your time; it might pay off.

Don't expect girls to fall at your knees just because you have muscles, you like video games too and you're single. Yes, there might be more than meets the eye and maybe those girls might be interested in that part. But if their first impression is meat with a side order of games, you're gonna scare them away. I don't know; I don't know you or those girls but that's my very short ranged opinion.

But if a girl doesn't want to give you a chance anyway, then you might be better off without that girl. If they're not willing to go past their shallow opinion about a guy, then they're not worth anyone's time anyway.

 

[FuktLogik]

I'm 6'3, 260, with about 10% body fat.

Let's see your avatar full size, see how ripped you are, bro. Black out your face first if you're worried about that sort of thing.

OT: Who the hell knows. Women are strange creatures. Since I don't know you in real life, I couldn't say whether or not your personality is a factor.

 

[Zorak the Mantis]

I totally feel for you. As a fairly well built and intelligent man myself I find it hard to attract the women I like. Of course most girls I meet in real life automatically assume I'm "too cool" to be a gamer nerd... Just a word of advice, be a little more humble about your size and other nerds. I know confidence is what women like, but being a douche is not being confident.

 

[GrandmaFunk]

as for

You sound like an uber douche.

I have met far more important people that tell me differently.
Aaaaaaand I've gotten more hot, smart, and polite chicks than you ever will.
Have fun playing!

your glass house is asking you to please put the rock down.

 

[Princess_Dee]

"...in all of the nerdy crap I do (build computers, game, read... all of that stuff that chicks hate)"

You do realize that everything you just slammed me for, you are exhibiting yourself?
That i'm an "uber douche" and "meat head" etc. etc.
...
I mean, you think you're hot... so therefor you think you're better than me and you're being a complete... well, I don't want to get banned but you know what i'm about to say.
P.S. Posting a picture of you being a 'model' ... yeah, well, that speaks for itself.

Well considering one of my job titles is "Gamer Model," and you YOURSELF said something about a "pretty girl holding a controller," I thought it was relevant.

I never talked myself up, nor directly put you down.
I made subjective statements about how you were exhibiting yourself.

What was the point of making this post? Surely it wasn't defending your (now) questionable personality from attack.
Did you expect a geeky girl to throw herself at you by using a strange anecdote and a little picture that nearly anyone here could whip up in Photoshop in a few minutes?