Why can't people take a joke?

[LaughingAtlas]

"One of the sad truths of comedy; you're always taking shots from people who just don't get the joke!"
-The Joker

Also, I've lost count of how many times I've posted this, but once again ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Steve Hughes!

 

[Macgyvercas]

If she doesn't know that phrase she should really get out some more. Tell your friend to not date autistic people. Doesn't end well.

I take offense at that statement. We may not be as up and up on social interaction as neurotypicals, but we are perfectly capable of healthy functional relationships.

And here's an example.

Seriously, people LOVE to be offended. It gives them power because they believe it should make you feel awful for saying it.

I am able to take a joke, but I don't believe that (what appears to me, at least, as I can't speak for anyone else) attacks on the ability of autistics to form meaningful healthy relationships with other human beings funny in the slightest.

 

[gazumped]

It's a common phrase, but you've got to admit it's a kind of offensive common phrase.

Once I was with a group of friends who'd been drinking, we were walking down the road and I saw my friend and her boyfriend sitting in a car so I went to the window and started talking to them.
One of my drunk mates shouted something over which I knew was supposed to be a joke saying I was being a prostitute going to strangers' cars and propositioning them. Somehow it came out wrong and the way he phrased it sounded like he was calling my friend a whore.
Her boyfriend - a BIG guy - looked like he'd have smashed his face in if he weren't buckled in a car.
You've got to be careful, man.

 

[Fooz]

i had a similar experience at high school, i just ignored the over sensitive attention seeker and got on with my life

i on the other hand love a bit of banter and can take a joke like a pro

 

[Jonsbax]

I think she had a good reason to be offended, but I can't imagine she would actually think you called her a whore with such a well known phrase. Then again maybe you're just assuming, I mean maybe they're just shunning you for the inappropriate humor?

Anyways, the first thing you should do is learn from this.

 

[Duffeknol]

If she doesn't know that phrase she should really get out some more. Tell your friend to not date autistic people. Doesn't end well.

I take offense at that statement. We may not be as up and up on social interaction as neurotypicals, but we are perfectly capable of healthy functional relationships.

And here's an example.

Seriously, people LOVE to be offended. It gives them power because they believe it should make you feel awful for saying it.

Biggest joke is that I'm on probation for that post. Rightfully so, I might add, but it's still funny cause it happened in this thread.

 

[eggmiester]

If she doesn't know that phrase she should really get out some more. Tell your friend to not date autistic people. Doesn't end well.

I take offense at that statement. We may not be as up and up on social interaction as neurotypicals, but we are perfectly capable of healthy functional relationships.

damn right mate. power to the aspies!we're people to! y'know, except we don't have to try to be different: we already are.which is a good thing.

 

[Neverhoodian]

Question: did you apologize for making her upset?

Also, how well do you know her? Did the thought cross your mind that it might be possible for her to take it the wrong way? If so, then you probably shouldn't have said it.

When in doubt, be diplomatic.

 

[Drakane]

What was the joke?

'bros before hoes'?

How rude. Ask your parents if they find it funny.

My mom would laugh and ask if she was, cuz maybe thats why she got upset.

OT: Just out of curiosity... are you guys 12 or something? This just seems like middle school drama (not even High School) and it should blow over in a few days. That or else she already had beef with you and is trying to turn this against you to set a rift between you and your buddy proving that at this moment she is more important to him then you are, but that might just be my cynical side creeping out.

 

[Macgyvercas]

If she doesn't know that phrase she should really get out some more. Tell your friend to not date autistic people. Doesn't end well.

I take offense at that statement. We may not be as up and up on social interaction as neurotypicals, but we are perfectly capable of healthy functional relationships.

damn right mate. power to the aspies!we're people to! y'know, except we don't have to try to be different: we already are.which is a good thing.

Amen to that!

*internet fist pound*

 

[nima55]

-_- organic relations are hard meh

 

[Aerodyamic]

I think it has to do with society promoting the notion that 'Offensensitivity' is an acceptable social disease; people love to get offended, and then they spend a bunch of time making sure that everyone knows about it, without actually trying to address any of the reasons why the offense was made, or resolving to change their reactions to offensive material.

Personally, I'm not a bigot or a racist, but I am anti-politically-correct, when it exceeds the point of common sense.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Also, I've lost count of how many times I've posted this, but once again ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Steve Hughes!

Genius... but oh so true. (Note, Christian, and I laughed most at the 'someone offended the Lord, woke up with leprosy bit.)

OT: 1. Apologise (in the presence of your friend, 'cos he's bound to get it, and he'll probably tell her to lighten up too, either that, or take her side in one of those mock-offended ways, 'you called my ***** a what now?!')
2. Yeah, that's one of those things that should be limited to 'man-date' type events, so you learn something.

 

[Zantos]

That's the sorta thing you only say to your guy buddies. There's a massive divide between banter and just being a prick, with the whole spectrum of mildly offensive humour in between. My gf used to get offended and upset by things I said all the time, the best thing I found to do is just apologize and learn from your mistakes. And not be a complete prick for making a genuinely offensive and not particularly funny comment to people you've never met then claim they're the ones with no sense of humour.

 

[theloneassassin]

OP grow a pair, be a gentleman and apologize. Don't act like an arrogant teenager.

That phrase demonstrates that you don't have "A pair" the fact that you even used that statements shows your ignorance. You also said I'm arrogant which I honestly don't think I demonstrated arrogance at all. I have lost many good friends to chicks that treat them like ship and whip them, sometimes you feel that enough is enough. Any statement can be interpreted many ways, some bad and some good it's just up to the receiving end of the whole deal.

 

[theloneassassin]

Ugh, offense. As a stand up comic I feel I have some necessary experience to answer this question. It's because people are fucking morons sometimes. Fuck sake whatever happened to "sticks and stones" or are we not expected to have at least the same emotional maturity as a three year old? Also people tend to overlook intent when they get offended. If someone isn't actually trying to insult you and you still feel insulted you're a little *****.

People try to act like being offended matters, everyone gets offended by something. The thing to remember is; so fucking what? Is you're wellbeing hanging so precariously in the balance that a word will end you're life or at least cause you physical harm? Doubtful. After 1 minute will there be any lasting effect of the offense other than you might be a bit miffed? Nope. Deal with it. Like a fucking grown up.

Lol I also love the whole deal where people always say many offensive things to you joking around and you say one thing and they get all pissed, and what you say is no where near as offensive as what they said.