Try to politely explain to her what you meant and if she's still mad at you then just ignore her.
Why can't people take a joke?
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and if that doesn't work, push a $20 note into her hand, and tell her, "That should be enough to pay you to go fuck yourself."Random Argument Man said:
/diplomacy
Seriously, she sounds kinda touchy, and it's probably best to moderate your humour around her, what you can say to your best mates is always going to be different to what you can get away with when they're with their partners.
Just explain yourself and go about your merry way. People are idiots - and if they want to be offended, they are gonna be offended.theloneassassin said:I was joking with my friends girlfriend how he was mine first and what not, and i said clearly jokingly bros before hoes. She now thinks I called her a whore and her group of friends is mad at me. People need to lighten up and take a joke. Does anyone have any idea what I can do? I had no malicious intentions I was just playing around
Me being autistic, that was extraordinarily stupid of you to say something like that. We're capable of relationships just like anyone else.Macgyvercas said:
I second that Macgyvercas
I've learned to stop caring about what people think when I talk. If they take my joke the wrong way then they can stamp their feet and pout for all I care. I have a couple of friends whose wives absolutely can't stand my crassness and off humor but they deal with it like adults and just minimize contact with me while I'm around.
On the other side of the spectrum I knew a person for over a decade and he tossed our whole friendship down the drain when the first girl he ever had a relationship with (he was 28 at the time) came into his life after talking to him online for 3 days and began dictating every single aspect of his life. What hours of the day he could play games, what friends he was allowed to talk to, talking to ANY member of the opposite sex was considered almost as bad as the most deviant and heinous orgy that the human race could possible come up with while she would openly and non-discreetly flirt with his friends right in front of his face. I became target #1 on her list because she knew that I was the only one that could convince him to man up and send her back to the vile depths from whence she came. Hell, he would even call me when she wasn't around to cry and complain about how much he hates her and hates his life but he is to scared to push her away because there isn't anyone else out there. To that I say good riddance and haven't spoken to him in years.
Not all women are like that though but to steer back to the original point, man up, you said what you said, and your probably not really sorry for saying what you said so why should you apologize just to make someone who can't/won't handle/understand adult humor and situations feel like they have won something by making you feel bad for them?
On the other side of the spectrum I knew a person for over a decade and he tossed our whole friendship down the drain when the first girl he ever had a relationship with (he was 28 at the time) came into his life after talking to him online for 3 days and began dictating every single aspect of his life. What hours of the day he could play games, what friends he was allowed to talk to, talking to ANY member of the opposite sex was considered almost as bad as the most deviant and heinous orgy that the human race could possible come up with while she would openly and non-discreetly flirt with his friends right in front of his face. I became target #1 on her list because she knew that I was the only one that could convince him to man up and send her back to the vile depths from whence she came. Hell, he would even call me when she wasn't around to cry and complain about how much he hates her and hates his life but he is to scared to push her away because there isn't anyone else out there. To that I say good riddance and haven't spoken to him in years.
Not all women are like that though but to steer back to the original point, man up, you said what you said, and your probably not really sorry for saying what you said so why should you apologize just to make someone who can't/won't handle/understand adult humor and situations feel like they have won something by making you feel bad for them?
I would suggest not apologizing to the girl. It's a really old common phrase, and nowhere near as offensive as things I've heard over the years. From women. From what you have stated, she seems like the type of person who will lord an apology over your head, knowing that she can pitch a fit and you will cave every time. That's not good. She'll most likely pull that stunt with your friend as well.
Don't apologize, and if she says anything you would deem offensive, call her on it, and call her a hypocrite. I've known people like her, and they usually are.
Don't apologize, and if she says anything you would deem offensive, call her on it, and call her a hypocrite. I've known people like her, and they usually are.
You said a comment or phrase, not a joke, but if thats your joke
you are a comedian for trying to pass it off as one.
As for the surprise you show from her reaction, well thats comedy gold, how stupid are you?
If you value your mate, start being nice and none offensive to her instead of giving your mate
food for thought on why your his friend?!
you are a comedian for trying to pass it off as one.
As for the surprise you show from her reaction, well thats comedy gold, how stupid are you?
If you value your mate, start being nice and none offensive to her instead of giving your mate
food for thought on why your his friend?!
I also took offense at the joke and I'm normally hard to offend. Macgyvercas, I fully support what you said and I support that guys suspension.Macgyvercas said:
You have to say it in an extremely campy voice. And then play tonsil hockey with your friend (her bf) in front of her. And *then* she'll get the joke.theloneassassin said:I was joking with my friends girlfriend how he was mine first and what not, and i said clearly jokingly bros before hoes. She now thinks I called her a whore and her group of friends is mad at me. People need to lighten up and take a joke. Does anyone have any idea what I can do? I had no malicious intentions I was just playing around
Ehh I don't think "Bros before hoes" is really something you should be saying to your friend's girlfriend in any situation. Whether or not you had an malicious intent, saying that you had her boyfriend first and therefore are above her in his friend status is a really douchey thing to do in my opinion.
Honestly I'm shocked you can't figure out why she is upset. How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and one of her female friends came up to you and was like "haha I knew her first so she likes me more and should pay more attention to me than you". Not nice is it?
Honestly I'm shocked you can't figure out why she is upset. How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and one of her female friends came up to you and was like "haha I knew her first so she likes me more and should pay more attention to me than you". Not nice is it?
From this statement, it sounds like there's more to what you said than the "bros before hos" comment, and it does sound like you had more of a malicious intent than you're letting on. I would also question your maturity from this response. First you need to ask yourself if you didn't really mean what you said. If you did, and you are, in fact, sorry (which I doubt), than you will have to apologize. If you're not sorry, well, then, I hate to say it, but you deserve every bit of the anger she's throwing at you. As another poster mentioned, calling a woman a "ho" is like calling a black guy the "N-word"; you just don't do that, no matter how many times you hear "pimps" on TV or in rap music saying it.theloneassassin said:
If you didn't mean it, it would just be better for you to apologize anyway as a social gesture. So she didn't get it. It's not something to make such a big deal and get so stubborn over. Just say, "I didn't really mean to call you a ho, and I'm sorry if what I said offended you," and leave it at that. If she's still angry after that, well, then it really is her problem.
In the future, though, it would be wise to watch what you say around certain people. That's not a PC thing, that's just common courtesy.