Why Do I Feel Depressed? Psychological help

[Blade3dge]

Me too.

I'm seeing a psychologist, since, you know, it's a psychological problem.

And...uh...I eat pudding?

As somebody studying psychology I have a bit of input here. Depression is normal, very much so and people can deal with it themselves very easily, professional help for simple issues is well... Silly. So often problems can be dealt with personally, 90% of what a psychologist will do is listen and to be honest that's all most people need; somebody who will listen. As somebody with an internet connection that gives you an advantage of impersonally getting things off your back to people online who don't have personal involvement. Failing that, talk to a trusted friend, write your feelings down, just get out everything you are feeling, if you can't COMPLETELY express yourself and everything you're feeling, your doing it wrong, try again. You're going to want to get it all out.

That said...

Okay so here's the deal, for some reason, just about ever few weeks or so, I'll start to feel depressed. I feel like shit, I think I look terrible, and I always feel bloated almost.

Why is this? I have the same symptoms as women on their period (why I refer to it as my male period). I just feel all around...blah. I even think that I look chubby but I'm only 178lbs and 6'1.

Everything on me just looks terrible but I know, in a day or two, I'll be just fine and feel and look normal in my eyes.

Usually, I'm pretty confident in the way I look. Just the other day, I was looking at myself in the mirror and said out loud, "Goddamn it, I'm sexy!" and I felt great after that, but today, everything just looks terrible.

So why is this? Any help? Strange though that I spend most of my time helping others psychologically, yet I can't help myself.

Also, if you feel the need to, PM me or message me on one of my IM accounts.

EDIT: and I guess for the sake of discussion, what do you do when you feel depressed to make yourself feel better?

...As natural as common depression sounds this sounds like it could be a case of bipolar, that said bipolar indicates extreme mood swings but it's something to be aware of. You should try my suggestions above but if the problems is ongoing or gets worse try anything between free call helplines (an option but remember the people aren't always qualified but they do have some training) and profesional help depending on the severity. Bipolar if diagnosed might require some more sophisticated help. But remember whoever you go to, it won't work unless you are open and honest.

As for this asshole...

Well that may be it then, you may want to mention that to your parents or something, maybe you can get a prescription or some sort of treatment if it's really that tough to cope with.

...Ignore the advice and avoid doctors/psychiatrists (the ones likely to prescribe pills). I know it's a brutal generalisation but the best help they can offer is drugs, psychological help is best done by a psychologist. Psychiatrists are trained to treat people without drugs but if you want that you are better off going to a psychologist and waiting in the referal is drugs are necessary.

And most of all, don't take everything I just said as gospel. I'm trying to give the best advice I can but I'm only a student and if you get better advice, take it.

 

[traceur_]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

 

[Julianking93]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

 

[Amnestic]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You generally don't find emancipated 16 year olds who live alone with no friends or work colleagues.

There's always someone to turn to.

 

[Blade3dge]

Jeez, no need to bite my head off.

I meant that if he really has a serious problem coping with his mood swings, if they interfere with his life or schoolwork, that he should maybe see a doctor. If it really is a hormonal imbalance it could be easily corrected with some medicine, although it may just solve itself (Then again it may not, can't be sure).

And I am not part of the "Pill-popping culture" I don't even like to take Tylenol when I have a headache, I go with the "Ignore it" treatment.

NEVER EVER, go to a doctor. If you have a psychological problem go to one of the two professionals qualified to help, psychology and psychiatry. The difference between the two (in Australia anyway) is that psychologists can treat problems with various therapy methods and psychiatrists can treat problems with both therapy and drugs. I would generally recommend psychologists because they only work in a single field and thus are a little more experienced in treating patients with therapy whereas psychiatrists wouldn't have that depth of experience. In the end like I said in the first post, go to a psychologist, see if they give you a referral.

Anyways...

...A doctor is not a mental health professional and if they do anything other than refer you to somebody who is a mental health professional I would probably try and find a new doctor or go directly to a psychologist... That said a referral is sometimes necessary for treatment depending on how a healthcare system works. So in other words only go to a doctor if you intend to get a referral.

 

[Wayte]

Not sure what to say bout your problem, sorry mang :/

OT: Um, just whatever seems like a good idea. Sometimes I game, sometimes I fap, sometimes I dorp what I'm doing and go out. Just depends.

 

[Julianking93]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You generally don't find emancipated 16 year olds who live alone with no friends or work colleagues.

There's always someone to turn to.

Mom and dad are the only one's to turn to and they're no help at all.

I have no friends. I tend to isolate myself from most people seeing as I hate most people my age that live in my town.

So no. I have no where to turn except here.

 

[Blade3dge]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

/Hug

^_^

I used to confide in people in my MSN list, off course you probably have to choose the person well or they may react a bit :/ but hey you've got the right idea for dealing with shit by putting it out there. Being open is always the best thing.

 

[traceur_]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You're welcome. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself and ask mummy and daddy for help, they went through exactly the same thing as you. If you're still in denial, ask them to book you in with a psychiatrist or talk to a school councilor.

There, I just solved all your problems, you can pay me in cash or check, I don't mind.

 

[Berethond]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You generally don't find emancipated 16 year olds who live alone with no friends or work colleagues.

There's always someone to turn to.

Mom and dad are the only one's to turn to and they're no help at all.

I have no friends. I tend to isolate myself from most people seeing as I hate most people my age that live in my town.

So no. I have no where to turn except here.

How small is your town?

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

I can't help you. But for the sake of discussion, what I do when I'm depressed:
-Close my eyes, breathe, and think of absolutely nothing.
-Organize all my thoughts and anything around me like dates/work/books/music collection.
-Sleep. It takes me away for a while, and if I'm lucky I'll have a lucid dream.

 

[Julianking93]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

/Hug

^_^

I used to confide in people in my MSN list, off course you probably have to choose the person well or they may react a bit :/ but hey you've got the right idea for dealing with shit by putting it out there. Being open is always the best thing.

That little hug comment made me feel a bit better

And that's what I usually do. I'm a very open person. I have no problems with telling people a lot about myself.

 

[Julianking93]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You generally don't find emancipated 16 year olds who live alone with no friends or work colleagues.

There's always someone to turn to.

Mom and dad are the only one's to turn to and they're no help at all.

I have no friends. I tend to isolate myself from most people seeing as I hate most people my age that live in my town.

So no. I have no where to turn except here.

How small is your town?

Last I checked...170 thousand.

 

[feather240]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

/Hug

^_^

I used to confide in people in my MSN list, off course you probably have to choose the person well or they may react a bit :/ but hey you've got the right idea for dealing with shit by putting it out there. Being open is always the best thing.

A second his hug! Not my own. I don't even know you, but I second his "/Hug"s power.

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You're welcome. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself and ask mummy and daddy for help, the went through exactly the same thing as you. If you're still in denial, ask them to book you in with a psychiatrist or talk to a school councilor.

There, I just solved all your problems, you can pay me in cash or check, I don't mind.

...

A) You don't know what he's going through
B) There's a reason why physiologists don't tell people their problems are meaningless and trivial. It doesn't help.

Edit: Messed up quotes...

 

[DeadlyYellow]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

 

[Julianking93]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

 

[feather240]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

 

[Julianking93]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

That I knew, but what does milk have to do with anything?

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

How much milk do you drink and how often are you in the sun?

What? Why would that matter?

Lack of sunlight leads too... DEPRESSION!

You remember that when you have to listen to his emo band's pop hit being played on the radio, him a millionaire, you dying of skin cancer....