Why Do I Feel Depressed? Psychological help

[Blade3dge]

Hey Julian,

I read through quite a bit of this thread and could see you were getting a lot of different responses and very confusing alternative ideas. While I agree with Blade3dge in several aspects I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about the exact nature of your problems. As Blade suggested you should really seek the help of a psychologist or mental health counselor. If after meeting with either of these they feel you might benefit from medication they will refer you to a pyschiatrist for medication. Unlike Blade I think that at times in combination with talk therapies medication can be very helpful, but hopefully you want require them, because there are always side effects. I don't know how old you are but if your under 18 talk with your parents about going to see some one. I realize how hard it may be to do this, but if you feel comfortable enough it will be very helpful. Also as some one suggested exercise can be a great way to deal with depressive symptoms. Regular exercise has been shown to be as effective as medication in treating depression. Beyond this advice send me a message if you want to know anything else.

A combination is brilliant and a psychiatrist should be giving people that option but at the same time medication should be used only as a last resort. If somebody can solve their problems without medication they should, if they need medication it should always go hand in hand with therapy.

...In a perfect world...

In this world however drugs are causing a lot of serious issues, because everybody is far to obliged to just hand them over as a cure all rather than actually considering whether or not they are actually necessary.

 

[Berethond]

You're asking a bunch of geeks on the internet who know fuck all about psychology to help you. Apart from being dumb, you're just a normal teenager.

Truth is I got no one else to turn to. Thank you for making me feel even worse.

You generally don't find emancipated 16 year olds who live alone with no friends or work colleagues.

There's always someone to turn to.

Mom and dad are the only one's to turn to and they're no help at all.

I have no friends. I tend to isolate myself from most people seeing as I hate most people my age that live in my town.

So no. I have no where to turn except here.

How small is your town?

Last I checked...170 thousand.

Then you've got no excuse not to have friends.
Sorry.

 

[Axeli]

Or, just, you know, get over it?

Feeling a little down every now and then as a teenager? Crazy stuff. That's never happened before in the history of ever. Clearly you need to give the guy some pills right now or he'll never be normal!

Alternatively, he could self medicate with happy thoughts, cake (an accepted medical treatment for depression[footnote]Not really.[/footnote]) and unicorns.

He's having mood swings, he's a teenage boy who has surging hormones, he'll grow out of them - just like every other teenage boy in the history of humanity.

[sub]Reading back, came off as a liiiittle bit aggressive. I'm just tired of the 'pill popping' culture where there's a drug to fix anything that even slightly deviates from the norm.[/sub]

A little bit ignorant, more like. People still handwave a teenager's problems like this, after incidents like Columbine? Might wanna check some suicide statistics while you are at it. Teenager's problems are hardly anything to just laugh off, even if usual.

Not saying OP is neccesarily that depressed, but you should take him seriously at least.

 

[Julianking93]

Or, just, you know, get over it?

Feeling a little down every now and then as a teenager? Crazy stuff. That's never happened before in the history of ever. Clearly you need to give the guy some pills right now or he'll never be normal!

Alternatively, he could self medicate with happy thoughts, cake (an accepted medical treatment for depression[footnote]Not really.[/footnote]) and unicorns.

He's having mood swings, he's a teenage boy who has surging hormones, he'll grow out of them - just like every other teenage boy in the history of humanity.

[sub]Reading back, came off as a liiiittle bit aggressive. I'm just tired of the 'pill popping' culture where there's a drug to fix anything that even slightly deviates from the norm.[/sub]

A little bit ignorant, more like. People still handwave a teenager's problems like this, after incidents like Columbine? Might wanna check some suicide statistics while you are at it. Teenager's problems are hardly anything to just laugh off, even if usual.

Not saying OP is neccesarily that depressed, but you should take him seriously at least.

No I'm not that depressed that I want to die, but I get depressed just about every month (hence the reason I call it my male period)

Btw, what's with all the small "[1] Not Really" things under each post?

 

[ffxfriek]

Hormones, teen, life sucks (really no sarcasm in here) etc.

 

[traceur_]

You're welcome. Now stop feeling sorry for yourself and ask mummy and daddy for help, they went through exactly the same thing as you. If you're still in denial, ask them to book you in with a psychiatrist or talk to a school councilor.

There, I just solved all your problems, you can pay me in cash or check, I don't mind.

Pal, if you had any idea what it's like to not feel right, to not feel healthy and not know where to turn, you'd never post anything like that. If you're not here to help, quit being such a fucking tool and go troll elsewhere.

As for the OP, Julianking93, I think that the hormonal imbalance thing sounds like a possibility. It might be as simple as taking hormonal supplements, or a change in diet, or possibly an increase in exercise. When I'm feeling imbalanced, I go run a mile. Working up a sweat and running until I can't see straight has a way of chilling me out.

Also, consider anything else that seems to coincide with your problem times. Does it match up with the phase of the moon? The lunar cycle has some weird effects on some ailments, and things like parasitic infections and some illnesses can be worse under a full moon.

Actually, thinking back, I used to have a cycle like that when I was about 19-20 (and I'm a dude.) It ended up being something like a really long bipolar cycle. I was fine most of the time, but then sometimes I just felt like I couldn't bear anything. Turned out it was from something a lot deeper that had been bothering me for a loooong time. Something that I'd been ignoring and repressing.

Try this: the next time you feel that way, sit down by yourself in a dark room, where nobody can hear you speak. Close your eyes, and just start talking. don't let yourself filter anything you're saying, just talk out loud. Talk about what you're feeling, and more importantly about what you want. If it's something psychological that's been bothering you for a while, something that you want should come to the surface. It may be something that surprises you. Just be honest about everything to yourself.

Good luck.

Oh that's rich, saying I have no idea what I'm talking about and then saying his problem has something to do with the fucking moon, and then proposing honesty as a solution. That's a much better solution than to talk to someone who has spent their life studying this sort of thing.

Hilarious, mate.

 

[Axeli]

Or, just, you know, get over it?

Feeling a little down every now and then as a teenager? Crazy stuff. That's never happened before in the history of ever. Clearly you need to give the guy some pills right now or he'll never be normal!

Alternatively, he could self medicate with happy thoughts, cake (an accepted medical treatment for depression[footnote]Not really.[/footnote]) and unicorns.

He's having mood swings, he's a teenage boy who has surging hormones, he'll grow out of them - just like every other teenage boy in the history of humanity.

[sub]Reading back, came off as a liiiittle bit aggressive. I'm just tired of the 'pill popping' culture where there's a drug to fix anything that even slightly deviates from the norm.[/sub]

A little bit ignorant, more like. People still handwave a teenager's problems like this, after incidents like Columbine? Might wanna check some suicide statistics while you are at it. Teenager's problems are hardly anything to just laugh off, even if usual.

Not saying OP is neccesarily that depressed, but you should take him seriously at least.

No I'm not that depressed that I want to die, but I get depressed just about every month (hence the reason I call it my male period)

Btw, what's with all the small "[1] Not Really" things under each post?

Figured so. And that's a footnote, apparently. You can make one by writing "[Footnote] text [/footnote]".

 

[dragonnewby]

I have the same thing... don't worry, I think it's just the hormones though mine is not about how I look...

 

[Balaxe]

I listen to death metal to cheer me up.

 

[Mozared]

When you say 'depressed', you mean you have these periods that last from between an evening to a couple of days where you are upset with everything bad in your life (no friends, relationship gone wrong, w/e) and end up being alone with no one to express your feelings to even though you really want to do so?

Assuming you're 16 and not 93, I'd say go for the hormones. If you can't live with that idea, like me, call yourself a romanticist (and should that not make any sense to you whatsoever, look up the term, it doesn't mean what you think it does).

As long as it's not severely hindering you in the long term (yeah, I realize how much of a ***** it *currently* is), I wouldn't worry about it. Though getting yourself a venting spot (I 'blog', for example) is never a bad idea.

 

[Irishhoodlum]

Just excercise, not nessacarily for the health benefits it'll just likely make you feel better. Go to a gym or play a sport. Something about your body producing endorphins which I just spelled wrong is supposed to make you feel better.

 

[Julianking93]

I listen to death metal to cheer me up.

In all honesty, along with people saying its hormones (which I know to be the cause) this is the most helpful thing in this thread to me.

After listening to some of my favorite Slipknot, Dethklok, Maximum the Hormone and Children of Bodom while thrashing to it, I actually feel a lot better.

 

[Balaxe]

I listen to death metal to cheer me up.

In all honesty, along with people saying its hormones (which I know to be the cause) this is the most helpful thing in this thread to me.

After listening to some of my favorite Slipknot, Dethklok, Maximum the Hormone and Children of Bodom while thrashing to it, I actually feel a lot better.

Glad I could help.
BTW ive never heard of Maximum the Hormone could you suggest some of their songs.